Marie Mallory
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It is alot of money but we're not talking about more than a couple months. Our kids will hekp some if needed, not planning on that though.
Maybe use crdit card if we can.
Hospice or Hospital
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Marie Mallory
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Thanks for the help and imput.Marie Mallory
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Not going to leave Jake in a bind, with bills he can't pay.
Faye Fox
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So, is a couple of months what the doctors have given you @Marie Mallory ?
If that is the case, do you really want to spend it sharing a room with someone in a nursing home? I know they call it assisted living, but to me, assisted living implies you have some independent living time left. From what you have told us, you don't have any independent living time left.
So, as this threads title indicates, you have a choice of hospice or hospital. I have known several that chose hospice and they and their loved ones were well pleased with the care and compassion. I have also known one that chose to go to a nursing home with a shared room and she stayed in bed there until she died. Then another that stayed home as long as possible and only went to the hospital when her kids took her there. She refused all care but med for pain, said her goodbyes to everyone and to everyone's surprise, died two hours later.
What is the right choice? I have no idea. Many here have tried to help you explore the pros and cons of each, but that decision is yours and yours alone. As one of my grandmas said, it is a blessing if one gets to chose where they die. Many don't get this choice. It is wonderful that you think of doing what will impact Jake the least, that's called love.
Hugs to you and hopefully you will make a decision soon. Your final journey should be one of being at peace with yourself.
If that is the case, do you really want to spend it sharing a room with someone in a nursing home? I know they call it assisted living, but to me, assisted living implies you have some independent living time left. From what you have told us, you don't have any independent living time left.
So, as this threads title indicates, you have a choice of hospice or hospital. I have known several that chose hospice and they and their loved ones were well pleased with the care and compassion. I have also known one that chose to go to a nursing home with a shared room and she stayed in bed there until she died. Then another that stayed home as long as possible and only went to the hospital when her kids took her there. She refused all care but med for pain, said her goodbyes to everyone and to everyone's surprise, died two hours later.
What is the right choice? I have no idea. Many here have tried to help you explore the pros and cons of each, but that decision is yours and yours alone. As one of my grandmas said, it is a blessing if one gets to chose where they die. Many don't get this choice. It is wonderful that you think of doing what will impact Jake the least, that's called love.
Hugs to you and hopefully you will make a decision soon. Your final journey should be one of being at peace with yourself.
Faye Fox
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Here is a highly recommended place in Gainesville. It might be worth calling them. They are Medicare approved.
havenhospice.com
Haven Hospice
Welcome to Haven We are the source for patients, their families and their healthcare providers to find answers to their advanced illness challenges. Haven provides Advance Care Planning, Palliative Care Consultations as well as comfort through the compassionate delivery of Hospice Services...
havenhospice.com
Marie Mallory
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Faye Hospice wants too much control,where assisted living doesn't.Here is a highly recommended place in Gainesville. It might be worth calling them. They are Medicare approved.
Haven Hospice
Welcome to Haven We are the source for patients, their families and their healthcare providers to find answers to their advanced illness challenges. Haven provides Advance Care Planning, Palliative Care Consultations as well as comfort through the compassionate delivery of Hospice Services...
I just met a man from Haven today, he was at the place I'm checking on, but it is a choice if you want it there.