Hospice or Hospital

[Kate Ellery]

Tell me it’s none of my business …if I’m overstepping the line @Marie Mallory

And of course I can only relate to what happens in Australia if a couple are forced to seperate due to illness / or as in your case

They can ….claim welfare, called Centerlink in Australia….and the separated couple get a “single pension “ Think singles get around $1200 a fortnight …..then theses rent assistance ….. couples get $1600 …..between them ……

However a couple who are separated due to illness..each get $1200 …so $2.400 a fortnight

I’ve got no knowledge of how your system works …have you looked at that ..asked questions about getting $$$ assistance ….you never know what they may be able to assist you with funding or refer you to the appropriate agency to advice you

Marie take care ..you don’t need this extra stress on your shoulders

 

[Marie Miller]

Marie thanks for the help. I think we will be as careful as possible, sure don't need anymore prob;ems.

If you have any questions or want to post the contract please. I will gladly dig through it as will everyone else here.
Mumsy signed a contract. Did not read it. She basically wanted to live with us but considered a single bedroom and sharing a Jack and Jill with a cat not agreeable. I had to kiss to cancel her contract.
You have friends. You are not alone.

 

[Marie Mallory]

If you have any questions or want to post the contract please. I will gladly dig through it as will everyone else here.
Mumsy signed a contract. Did not read it. She basically wanted to live with us but considered a single bedroom and sharing a Jack and Jill with a cat not agreeable. I had to kiss to cancel her contract.
You have friends. You are not alone.

Thans again Marie, I appreciate it.

 

[Marie Mallory]

Tell me it’s none of my business …if I’m overstepping the line @Marie Mallory

And of course I can only relate to what happens in Australia if a couple are forced to seperate due to illness / or as in your case

They can ….claim welfare, called Centerlink in Australia….and the separated couple get a “single pension “ Think singles get around $1200 a fortnight …..then theses rent assistance ….. couples get $1600 …..between them ……

However a couple who are separated due to illness..each get $1200 …so $2.400 a fortnight

I’ve got no knowledge of how your system works …have you looked at that ..asked questions about getting $$$ assistance ….you never know what they may be able to assist you with funding or refer you to the appropriate agency to advice you

Marie take care ..you don’t need this extra stress on your shoulders

Kate we don't have it here.

 

[Kate Ellery]

So how do people survive if they can’t work ….

We are lucky here , Anyone with very serious health conditions would be put on a disability or age pension

 

[Marie Mallory]

I keep coming back to this thread reading over it, hoping whatever I do is the right thing.

 

[Kate Ellery]

We are all thinking about you @Marie Mallory remember you are like a family member to us , you was on the old S.O with us as well

and we care …about you and Jake

 

[Lois E. Winters]

Assisted living is expensive regardless of where you look. But, there are several avenues of help with finances for seniors in many states.

 

[Marie Mallory]

We are all thinking about you @Marie Mallory remember you are like a family member to us , you was on the old S.O with us as well

and we care …about you and Jake

Thank you Kate and yes we do care about each other like family.

 

[Marie Mallory]

I wonder about the payment responsibility.

This is an important point since Medicare does not pay for assisted living.

Your both right, except for maybe help from AARP or other elder group nobody helps with the $88 a day or close to $5000 a month cost would be our cost.
Although now that I'm down to less that 2months to live cost would be around $6000.
Both son and one of daughters said if that what I want they have the money.
After another visit, that is surely not what I want.

 

[Marie Mallory]

The pain is getting worse, so I'll need to go to hospital if hospitals still let you stay till the end. I'm trying to hold off long as possible so I can be home.
Although being home can't control the pain like hospital can.

 

[Marie Mallory]

I appreciate all comments or suggestions you have.

 

[Faye Fox]

I appreciate all comments or suggestions you have.

I have no suggestions. It seems you have looked at all your options. If you hold off on the hospital as long as possible, you will probably have enough Medicare money to stay till the end and receive quality care and pain relief.

 

[Marie Mallory]

I have no suggestions. It seems you have looked at all your options. If you hold off on the hospital as long as possible, you will probably have enough Medicare money to stay till the end and receive quality care and pain relief.

My daughter is coming tomorrow. My other daughter Sunday when her husband gets off work

 

[Marie Mallory]

I just took half a Zanex, see if it helps some.

 

[Krystal Shay]

Oh, Marie. This is all so sad. You go where ever you are most comfortable. Listen to your gut. Most people want to be at home and that is where hospice helps. I can only speak about my parents choices, and people that I have known, when they were nearing the end of life. They wanted hospice care; to be surrounded with family, pets, and familiar surroundings. Hospice workers made sure my parents were comfortable and stayed out of pain. There is also "specialized hospice centers" to go too, if one chooses not to die at home. Some are loacted in hospitals or nursing homes. Your doctors should know more about it, I would think. You and Jake make the decision that you both are most comfortable with. Hugs to you and Jake.

 

[Hoot Crawford]

I am a little surprised at the resistance to sign up with Hospice. Both of my late wives wanted to stay at home, and the only reasonable way to do that was with the help of Hospice. For my second wife, who had lung cancer, they gave me liquid morphine to put under her tongue when the pain got severe. The only restrictions I recall is that she could not have any more chemo or radiation treatments or anything else that would be considered curative care instead of palliative care. In either of their cases, Hospice was not involved into the very end - a week or so, but my brother who recently passed away had Hospice care for the last month or more. He also died at home.

Your life and your choice, of course. God Bless you and your husband. You are both in my prayers.

 

[Lois E. Winters]

The nice thing about hospice is that they take care of the entire family including the pets.

 

[Marie Mallory]

Oh, Marie. This is all so sad. You go where ever you are most comfortable. Listen to your gut. Most people want to be at home and that is where hospice helps. I can only speak about my parents choices, and people that I have known, when they were nearing the end of life. They wanted hospice care; to be surrounded with family, pets, and familiar surroundings. Hospice workers made sure my parents were comfortable and stayed out of pain. There is also "specialized hospice centers" to go too, if one chooses not to die at home. Some are loacted in hospitals or nursing homes. Your doctors should know more about it, I would think. You and Jake make the decision that you both are most comfortable with. Hugs to you and Jake.

Krystal that is what I'm trying to do, but there so many things to consider.

 

[Lois E. Winters]

Krystal that is what I'm trying to do, but there so many things to consider.

Marie, don't try to do all this alone. You consider what you can with Jake, your doctor, and whoever else is involved with you. It's difficult to concentrate, I know.