"Marie", has a new primary care "Doctor" now

Faye Fox said:
I only mentioned the surgery to remove the spinal tumors, because that has been reported to give the greatest pain relief. Some doctors won't touch removing cancerous tumors until one undergoes radiation or chemo. I hope your doctors will do what is best to relieve your pain quick as possible.
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I understand but surgery is not going to happen. What ever is less painful is what I want.
Faye fighting a spreading cancer at my age is not what I want.
I don't want to leave alone but sure he will be ok.
And who knows maybe the radiation will workout well.If it is even an option.
 
Tony Page said:
Marie,
I just read the results this morning and I'm sick. I haven't felt this sad in a long time, I'm at a loss. I'm going to pray for you as hard as I can and as often as I can. Focus On Healing.

If you need anything I'm here,
Tony
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Thank you Tony for your prayer's and caring. Bless your heart, your a caring man.:love:
So far I'm ok long as pain is manageable. Who knows how long we have but it is nice to have people like yall here to help us threw it.
 
@Marie Mallory -- I feel the same as Tony; this is just terrible news that none of us wanted to hear. From experience I will tell you that well-meaning people will be offering treatment advice of all kinds, but just ignore the noise and talk to your doctor. Once the oncologist has assessed the extent and type of disease, he will propose a treatment plan and you can go from there.

There is a paliative care route that offers pain management but no curative intent. After your oncologist determines a treatment plan you (and Jake) can make up your own mind. I know you must be feeling anxious so if you need anxiety medication don't hesitate to ask for it. It really did help when I was going off the rails.
 
Marie Mallory said:
Fate, 'at this point in time' I'm not looking for any surgery or treatment, just pain relief.
I'm 76 and although in no hurry for an exit, also no logic in time with pain.
My 2 daughters are on the way here now to visit, 56 and 57 yr olds.They ask if I need help around house, lol, not really, they don't know what to say
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Your daughters feel helpless. They want to do something so the elephant leaves the room. There is always something to be done around the house. Let them.
Pain management will be something not to disregards please. They will do a lot more for you not just work the pain segment.
Someone has to bring it up - please sit down with your loving spouse and your children and bring your affairs in order. What is not on paper, spelled out, notarized, recorded (depending on your location) does not apply.
Knowing your enemy is the first step and you have taken part of it. Please keep your spirit up. Do things you enjoy doing!
 
Marie Miller said:
Your daughters feel helpless. They want to do something so the elephant leaves the room. There is always something to be done around the house. Let them.
Pain management will be something not to disregards please. They will do a lot more for you not just work the pain segment.
Someone has to bring it up - please sit down with your loving spouse and your children and bring your affairs in order. What is not on paper, spelled out, notarized, recorded (depending on your location) does not apply.
Knowing your enemy is the first step and you have taken part of it. Please keep your spirit up. Do things you enjoy doing!
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This is true Marie, so thats all taken care of.
 
@Marie Mallory it will soon be two years that I have lost my husband to metastasized prostate cancer. I took care of him until his last three days, which he was hospitalized.

What I will offer to you is to fight mentally for all your worth. Take the pain medications. Take whatever treatments that are offered. My husband refused traditional treatment because he feared his hair would fall out —- of all the stupid things. He later told me he was sure he really “mucked up” by doing that.

Let your family help you. I am a praying person, so I will pray for you for inner strength and peace to be able to put one foot in front of the other.

Hugs and prayers coming your way🙏🙏🙏🙏
 
Yesterday evening watching the moon mission come to a conclusion and the astronauts home safe and in good shape, I thought of the journeys we take in life. They all were taken and still have to be taken day by day and even sometimes moment by moment.

We can neither slow time or speed it up. Everyone's journey is different and those of us that have dealt with cancer personally, will have varied ideas and words of encouragement as well as stories of torment and stories of victory. There will be stories of denial and stories of acceptance.

Prayers will abound and some will pray so much that you may feel the need to buy them kneepads. Prayers are always a good thing.

So this morning I thought I would have the perfect thing to say to you, Marie, but I now realize I have nothing you haven't already heard.
 
Marie you mentioned you're interested in getting radiation treatment, if that's what you and the doctor agreed to, go to it. From what I've seen over the years you're a strong and determined lady stay that way and you'll get through this with flying colors.

I generally don't like comparisons but I will say this I am a much weaker person than you, and what got me through my treatment is I took it one day at a time and kept thinking "this too shall pass."
 
Beth Gallagher said:
I am so sorry to hear of Marie's diagnosis, Jake. I have to admit, I was afraid of something like this because muscle strains just don't behave the way Marie's pain does. The "good" news is that many times bone cancers can be treated with radiation only. But of course you'll have to see an oncologist to get all the details on the type of cancer, where it originated, etc.

I hate that Marie is facing treatment but I'm glad y'all finally got an answer. We'll all be cheering for you both. Sending hugs to you.
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Thanks, Beth.
 
Marie's asleep on her living room bed, our daughters are outside soaking a little sun in chairs; we're leaving for Marie's Dr. appt. at 2 pm to see what she has to tell us, which I think will be a referral to an oncologist, or something; we'll see. Thanks for all the replies and prayers everyone, and sorry that I'm not too active lately, just very "depressed", at this point, will try keeping y'all posted. :)
 
Jake Smith said:
Marie's asleep on her living room bed, our daughters are outside soaking a little sun in chairs; we're leaving for Marie's Dr. appt. at 2 pm to see what she has to tell us, which I think will be a referral to an oncologist, or something; we'll see. Thanks for all the replies and prayers everyone, and sorry that I'm not too active lately, just very "depressed", at this point, will try keeping y'all posted. :)
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Jake,
With a shock and Downer like this no one expects you to be active specially when words are hard to come by. You don't have to be there for us you have to be there for Marie that would make us happy.

Tony
 
Jake Smith said:
Marie's asleep on her living room bed, our daughters are outside soaking a little sun in chairs; we're leaving for Marie's Dr. appt. at 2 pm to see what she has to tell us, which I think will be a referral to an oncologist, or something; we'll see. Thanks for all the replies and prayers everyone, and sorry that I'm not too active lately, just very "depressed", at this point, will try keeping y'all posted. :)
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Jake, it's kind of you to think of us but we all understand that you are on the same emotional roller coaster as Marie right now. Sometimes I think a devastating illness is as hard on a spouse as it is on the one who's sick. It's a helpless feeling watching your loved one suffer and not being able to fix it.

So check in when you can. We will all want to know how Marie and you are holding up. I wish we had the power to make things better for y'all.
 
Don Alaska said:
@Jake Smith are you near enough to Gainesville or Jacksonville to routinely make that trip? Tampa?
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Don and my other SOC friends. we are less than an hour from Lake City and Gainesville. So trips not too bad at all. Plus Jake put a real firm foram mattress in the van so I can lay down and not have to sit on my tailbone,which they said is sore because it is being eaten up by the cancer.
I'm ok and they will make this as painless as can be.
Right now the Tylenol is the only thing that takes a lot of the pain away. And they will give me anything I want, of all pain meds.
 
Marie Mallory said:
Thank you all for being so sweet, I'd post to each of you but like I said it hurts to lean to type.
I'll see my primary doctor Saturday.
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So sorry that they didn't take you seriously enough when you FIRST went in. Praying for the right treatment. My daughter's cancer was cured. It wasn't easy but here she is.
Lots of options depending...
 
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