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Hedi Mitchell said:
Yes, we have Wills that were done in Texas,suppose to be good here in Kansas. I have written notes about monthly expenses, bills and or invoices that are being paid on.We both will be cremated,and our remains are to be spread on he Gulf of Mexico, on family property. If that cant happen, then let us spread thru any part of Texas.
I have no intention of staying tin Ks, unless I am close to being on my way out anyway. He thinks he would sell all and go back home to Texas. All three girls are single and have been for long time. They rent and have no room.even if wanted to stay with one of them. One informed us years ago, we would go a good Home she could afford. She is not a caregiver.Hey shes least honest. .
Bottom line, most of what we want to happen- will not,for various reasons.
Tell me where I can post about the Nightmare Will and how 8 years later still waiting to close! It is a dozy.
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Sounds like you need to back to Texas and develop a trust @Hedi Mitchell.
 
Beth Gallagher said:
For the past several months my husband and I have been slowly getting all our ducks in a row in preparation for our approaching expiration dates. We have to change our wills since our current named executor (BIL) is showing signs of dementia. We have asked our oldest daughter to be executor since she is the most detail-oriented of the kids, so now we need to update the wills.
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I have told my son where my will is, but he needs to think ahead. I'm going to die and it's just a matter of time, he is to go to my bank and withdraw all the money in it. Take it home and hide it, and if anyone asks about it just tell them it was all spent trying to stay afloat for the last few years, and leave it at that. By the way, I love this: "...slowly getting all our ducks in a row in preparation for our approaching expiration dates." That is classic!

Beth Gallagher said:
I have also started filling out a book I ordered from Amazon that is a "when I die" thing; it has everything from a bit of family tree to credit card numbers and passwords. I want it to be daughter's reference manual for any questions she might have when we aren't here to answer them.
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I just wrote everything in a text file, and that document contains the secret location of my will, naming him as my sole heir. I'm quite sure that will irritate my two other kids, but thems the breaks. I paid for enough stuff while they sat around doing nothing for themselves. The Bank of Dad has gone out of business.

Beth Gallagher said:
And last but not least, we are going to go and pre-pay our funeral expenses. My parents and inlaws both did this and it was so convenient to not have to wonder if what we chose was what they wanted. They had pre-selected and paid for everything and I want to do that, too.
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Great Idea!

Beth Gallagher said:
So what about you? Have you made any preparations for your check-out time? Maybe we can get ideas from each other about these matters.
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Well, I could pre-pay for a back hoe to dig a hole in the backyard. If I had a backyard. I agree with James Gale. The feds can bake me... :ROFLMAO:

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It is legal in GA to have burials on your property; you can establish a family cemetery. Embalming is not required and there are no requirements for a casket though some form of container is necessary for the body. So apparently you could be placed in a cardboard box and 'buried in the backyard.'

Several of my extended family members own farms in S. GA. Most recently my nephew was laid to rest on his own farm. (ETA--he was embalmed, has a casket and a headstone.).
 
I think I posted about the woman who kept her dead husband frozen until the ground thawed enough to dig a hole in her backyard as a grave. No embalming required in many states, but a body must be embalmed if it is shipped across state lines. I had a friend who was buried on their property in Missouri. The problem with burial on one's property is that the heirs are then reluctant to sell the property and move on. One of the cemeteries here does not require embalming, but it does require a container. Another friend was buried there unembalmed in a pine box to "return to the Earth". I think her funeral was really cheap too.
 
I think its best to pay a lawyer to create a valid legal living trust and will if you have valuable assets properties.
Keep the beneficiaries current on all of your bank accounts and investment accounts and annuity policies.
Register your vehicles in your name with the name as "or" of whoever you want them to go to after your death.
Be friendly to your family, friends and neighbors, they can be very helpful for survivors in the time of need.
If you have things that would embarrass you if someone found them (diaries, those old Polaroids and xx toys) them get rid of them now.
If you have property that needs to be maintained, it's good to set up auto-pay on the utilities and have enough money in the account for a couple of months to cover them, so they don't get shut off.
There's other things to consider like what's on your computer and phone, if all your digital pictures are on the cloud, that can present challenge to survivors - consider giving pin code access to someone you trust.
Good to specify in your will what happens with your remains and services, if that matters to you.
The unpaid debts and credit cards? - they can't be collected from a dead person.
 
Don Alaska said:
I think I posted about the woman who kept her dead husband frozen until the ground thawed enough to dig a hole in her backyard as a grave. No embalming required in many states, but a body must be embalmed if it is shipped across state lines. I had a friend who was buried on their property in Missouri. The problem with burial on one's property is that the heirs are then reluctant to sell the property and move on. One of the cemeteries here does not require embalming, but it does require a container. Another friend was buried there unembalmed in a pine box to "return to the Earth". I think her funeral was really cheap too.
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Getting buried in my manure pile would work so the family could move on. I've had sheep dug up and consumed by possums etc. One buried deeper became a home for a possum after it was carved out....:sick:
 
Earl S. Much said:
I think its best to pay a lawyer to create a valid legal living trust and will if you have valuable assets properties.
Keep the beneficiaries current on all of your bank accounts and investment accounts and annuity policies.
Register your vehicles in your name with the name as "or" of whoever you want them to go to after your death.
Be friendly to your family, friends and neighbors, they can be very helpful for survivors in the time of need.
If you have things that would embarrass you if someone found them (diaries, those old Polaroids and xx toys) them get rid of them now.
If you have property that needs to be maintained, it's good to set up auto-pay on the utilities and have enough money in the account for a couple of months to cover them, so they don't get shut off.
There's other things to consider like what's on your computer and phone, if all your digital pictures are on the cloud, that can present challenge to survivors - consider giving pin code access to someone you trust.
Good to specify in your will what happens with your remains and services, if that matters to you.
The unpaid debts and credit cards? - they can't be collected from a dead person.
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I have seen the consequences of using "or" on documents. A co-worker at one place I worked had "or" on her documents. Her husband believed falsely that she was having an affair even though he had a long-standing girlfriend in a distant town. Husband went down and changed everything--house, car, and all other significant possessions into his name alone, then kicked her out of "his" house and took possession of "his" car. He even somehow got possession of half her 401K.

Be careful who you trust.
 
Don Alaska said:
Be careful who you trust.
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I agree, I trust my son and my vehicles are not worth much - but yes be careful. Inheritance gained during the marriage really needs to be kept separate if there is a future chance of a breakup.

Divorces generally benefit the lawyers more than the married people. Community property split varies from state to state in California its no fault and 50% of the 401k goes to the ex if it was earned during the marriage. Sometimes it's cheaper to keep her - in my case I think she would have killed me if I stayed together, so the money I had wasn't enough to satisfy her anyway.
 
It seems that everyone here, including myself, has remembered to prepare for their demise.

Just wondering: Whilst preparing for death, how many remember to live life?
Only have 1 death to prepare for and a bunch of days to live.
Smiling or just a laugh for no reason at all is a great way to start.
 
One estranged sibling each. Revocable trust including medical is in place. Sofa tiger has an annual stipend. However, we need to change our recipients as their priorities changed. Not an easy or inexpensive task but necessary.
 
Most of my and Jakes family are buried, no cremations except one of my brothers.
I think cremations are basically a recent thing.
I've never read of one in the Bible. Not that makes it wrong, just not traditional burials for most of our families.
 
Don Alaska said:
I was told by an estate planner that wills and trusts vary by state. He said it didn't make a big difference in Alaska because probate is quite simple and speedy. My wife was executor of her uncle's estate in Arizona, and a trust made a big difference there. Our eldest daughter and youngest son are-co-executors for us. As far as body disposal goes, I have always wanted to avoid cremation, as does wife. I don't cost factors in at all; I just don't like the thought of being burned up even if dead. Compost would be a good thing if it were practical. My ideal is to be buried and having a young tree planted over the carcass so I could help nourish a future generation with a small placard or stone saying who was buried there. So much of our genealogy work was done based on gravestone information, and I would like to make that available to future generations should there be some who care. My brother had his wife cremated and dumped half her ashes near the front steps with the ashes of their last dog, and spread the remainder over her favorite places. He wants to be done the same I think.
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We have a family cemetery in downtown Atlanta where most of my family is buried.
My mothers' parents are in the Mausoleum in drawer like vaults, my mother is in the ground in front of the mausoleum as is my brother and other family.
I'd like to be buried there, Jake not so much, although he doesn't want cremation, so guess we'll decide. Jake did say he'd rather be buried here where he's lived in one place the longest in his life, this seems logical too.
 
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