Thinking good thoughts for school start up

Homeschooling works under some circumstances. Parents know and understand what they are teaching, have the time, have the focus. What about social skills, building networks and experiencing things that do not exist at home?
Church groups, Scouts/Trail Life, 4-H, social get-togethers with other homme schoolers. In most cases the "socialization thing is just a myth. It does occur in some cases, but they are not the rule. Many homeschoolers enroll in college while in high school. We just recently had our (Alaska) youngest college grad--a bachelors degree at 17. She graduated from high school and college in the same week. Public schools see the homeschool failures, and many times, the home school community sees the public school failures. Our daughters were bullied in school by boys several years their senior--they had 8 and 9 year-olds in kindergarten and first grade when they first started school. They were 5 and were coming home bruised and battered form school every day. We connected with a group of public school teachers who home schooled because they didn't want their children going to the schools where they taught. Long experience with homeschooling 6 kids. Too much to post here.
 
Homeschooling works under some circumstances. Parents know and understand what they are teaching, have the time, have the focus. What about social skills, building networks and experiencing things that do not exist at home?
And then there's "un-schooling". To the best of how I understand the concept, it's allowing the child to "direct" their learning by concentrating on what the child is interested in. If it had been left up to me at that age, all I was interested in was reading and therefore I would have skipped all that yucky stuff like math, science, etc.

If home schooling is done correctly, it works, but in other cases, it results in children who are not prepared to go out into the world for more structured education or employment. I've seen that first-hand in my own family.
 
And then there's "un-schooling". To the best of how I understand the concept, it's allowing the child to "direct" their learning by concentrating on what the child is interested in. If it had been left up to me at that age, all I was interested in was reading and therefore I would have skipped all that yucky stuff like math, science, etc.

If home schooling is done correctly, it works, but in other cases, it results in children who are not prepared to go out into the world for more structured education or employment. I've seen that first-hand in my own family.
Most cases of "Unschooling" are failures in my experience. I have only seen a couple of successes there and those were with brilliant, self-directed students. Most of the time it is lazy parents who do Unschooling. Our kids, with the exception of our twin sons, were given the option of going to public school or homeschooling. Our daughters went back into public school for a couple years--6th and 7th grade--and opted to return to homeschooling. We began when homeschooling was not popular and was illegal in many areas, so we tested our children every year with Iowa Standardized Testing, and, since Iowa tests required bachelors degree or above to conduct the tests, I conducted the testing for entire groups of students whose parents were not college grads or were not available to conduct the tests. We thought that the home environment (with tiny class sizes) would benefit our kids in the subjects in which they struggled, but we found the opposite as true. When our daughters went into public school, they still struggled with the same subjects, but their good subjects in which they scored 4 or 5 years ahead of their level came down to average for their level in just one year of public school. Small class sizes are largely a myth propagated by the teacher's unions to put more student on the payroll. Of course, class discipline is necessary too, and that is lacking in many public school classrooms regardless of class size.
 
Some people use homeschooling as an excuse to not give a damn whether their kids learn anything or not, but these are the minority. I view the "unschooling" thing in that light, and I think that where there are successes in unschooling, these are kids who would have done well in whatever environment.

Many parents view homeschooling as an impossibility, making several invalid arguments, such as that they don't have the time or the educational background necessary to teach their children, or that their children need the socialization provided by public schools. But these are all things that can usually be easily worked around.

Time can be a consideration, but that's only a valid excuse if your real reason for wanting public schools is to have a taxpayer-supported babysitter. This may well be a valid concern, but let's not pretend that it's something other than what it is. What it comes down to is whether you want to invest time in your children's future. I didn't homeschool my son because I wasn't aware that this was an option at the time, but while he was enrolled in school in Long Beach, California, I did have to invest a fair amount of time in after-schooling him because he wasn't getting what he needed. I went so far as to purchase the teacher editions of the textbooks used in a couple of his classes. Despite being a single parent, knowing what I know now, I could have homeschooled him, and I wish I had.

As for educational background, as far as I am aware, no state currently requires parents to hold a teacher's certificate to homeschool their children, although some states are friendlier to homeschooling than others, which are more beholden to the teacher's unions. Today, in particular, there is no good reason why a parent couldn't homeschool their children. There are so many resources available, from homeschooling curriculum to all sorts of online homeschooling resources, even fully online educational programs that can be completed at home without anything required of parents. Of course, by passing the whole job onto a virtual school, you'll lose some of the advantages of homeschooling.

By networking with other homeschooling parents, a parent's expertise in one area can be called upon to teach that subject to other children, while other parents contribute their own expertise or help in other ways. In most, if not all, school districts, you can still avail yourself of the resources of your local public school in areas that you might have a deficit. You are, after all, paying taxes to that school whether or not you have a child enrolled. While homeschooling our nephew, we enrolled him in the music program at the public school, and later he joined the school's drama club. That's it; the rest was done through homeschooling.

One thing that amused me was that when we first notified the school that our nephew would not be returning the following semester, the school principal told us that we would need the permission of the school and that we would have to submit a teaching plan to the school. Not so, and we already knew that, but we let him go on about it for a while before we told him that we didn't actually have to do that. Regulations may vary in other jurisdictions, however.

One of the things he said we would have to do was to include a section on Maine history that would include the history of the Native American tribes that inhabited the area. We weren't actually required to do that, but I thought it was a good idea, so I bought a book on the history of Native American tribes in Maine and included that. One of the amusing things was that I learned that they didn't teach that in the local public school.

As for socialization, as @Don Alaska says, there are plenty of options, many of which do a much better job of that than the public schools are likely to.

To avoid his having to make any uncomfortable explanations, we sent our nephew back to the public school for his senior year so that he could graduate with a regular high school degree, but that's not a necessary thing. We just thought that might make things easier for him.
 
Many parents view homeschooling as an impossibility, making several invalid arguments, such as that they don't have the time or the educational background necessary to teach their children, or that their children need the socialization provided by public schools. But these are all things that can usually be easily worked around.

I can't criticize people who choose not to home school for whatever reason, because all my children attended public schools. With five of them and working full time, I was overwhelmed many times and I know I could not have handled home schooling. My husband and I were involved in homework, test prep, and extra-curricular activities and believed that our children were getting a good education.

Here's a reality check, though. Nowadays many parents are struggling to keep food on the table and a roof over their family's heads. Public school allows free 'childcare' while providing an education (and sometimes 2 meals a day) to the kids whose parents both work full time. I would never criticize people for doing the best that they can, or for realizing their own limitations when it comes to educating their children.

In a way, public schools are like the media. They should offer "just the facts" and keep opinion out of the mix. Politics and social commentary do not belong in the classroom, and I don't want to see a rainbow flag where Old Glory should be hanging. Our school taxes are the highest that we pay, and I don't want my money squandered.
 
Some public schools may be just fine, but I think they are the exception today.
No argument there. I was reading a thread on Reddit last night written by a young person who hated their retail job because they don't know how to make change. They actually said "I never learned money math" like it is somehow different from regular addition/subtraction. I never in a million years thought that counting back change would strike fear in someone.

Sadly, many others joined in the conversation admitting that they couldn't make change, either. So exactly what are they being taught?? Most couldn't find the USA on a world map, and that is no joke.
 
AS I said, when we first started, although homeschooling was legal, it wasn't easy. If our kids were playing in the backyard, they might be reported for truancy. For subjects the moms didn't feel comfortable teaching, we would hire someone--usually a public school teacher or college instructor--to teach those classes. It also gave the group a chance to meet and it let the kids know that they were not the only ones being taught at home. We started using Calvert, which is a school based in Baltimore, Maryland that was begun to instruct missionary kids and children of diplomats or others located in foreign countries. It only went to the 8th grade, but many colleges would accept kids who had gone through 8th grade with Calvert. They provided all the materials needed including rulers, pens, paper of various kinds, books, etc. and they offered a grading service where you could send your kids work in to the school and they would grade it for you. We used that service for at least one year and the lesson plan program just to see how it was done. Georgia had an "apprentice program" for teachers when we lived there and anyone who had a bachelors or more could do an apprenticeship for one year with a certified teacher and get a certificate to teach in their major or minor (or advanced degree) field. I thought that was a really good idea, especially in STEM fields where there are shortages. Anyway, we shouldered the costs and my wife worked very little, and we managed just fine. We continued after moving to Alaska, but Alaska started a hybrid program in which the children were technically enrolled in a public school but were taught at home and funded by the school district in which they were enrolled. That of course meant some restrictions, but it relieved us of the financial burden of teaching materials. It worked out well for many families and the other public schools affected resent the fact that money is going to the parents of the kids being taught at home. Of course, the funding received by the families is a fraction of what it would cost to teach them in a public school, but the freedom is worth it and you can choose who your children associate with.

I know homeschooling is not for everyone, and schools vary greatly from state-to-state and locality-to-locality, but for us it worked out well. Five of our six children graduated from college and the one who didn't (who attended a public high school after 8 years of homeschooling in order to play football). He opted for technical school and is making more per annum than any of his college graduate siblings.
 
We had a survey sent from our school district president asking our opinions of our school system and what we might like to see happen or change.
I said I wanted the younger grades to learn reading, writing, arithmetic and responsibility for actions. The older grades, I wanted them to learn responsibility for actions, civics, getting their work done and no awards for everybody. Also some useful skills like financial info, contracts and work ethics.
Not sure if it went anywhere.
 
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