How I Found SOC!

Tony Page

Tony Page

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About 5 years ago I went through a phase of feeling lonely no one to talk to. Not because of a personality change and people were just staying away, it was age. Except for my wife all the family and friends I would communicate and share time with we're gone I was "The Last of the Mohicans." I outlived them.

My wife can be a good listener, however we're not always on the same wavelength.

The people who understood me were gone. Now I have all these ideas and thoughts looking to bust out of my small brain. I had no idea how to solve this, should I look for new friends? I was never one to be a social butterfly. I thought about going to senior events run by the town but it was not a good fit for me. I wasn't looking to go on trips or play cards or bingo. I felt I needed an outlet.

I Started thinking that all I want to do is talk to someone. I never realized the internet hosted all kinds of a chat rooms, including chat rooms for seniors.

After reviewing numerous senior chat rooms, the one that seems more comfortable to me was Seniors Only Club.

" What's the worst that can happen? if I don't like it I quit, if they don't like me they kick me off."

It took a day for me to try and join. When I first went on site I felt intimidated. What was I supposed to do, I felt like a fish out of the water. I realize much later I should do an introduction. To be honest I don't know if I ever did.

After all this time I still feel like a rookie. Knowing the right thing to say sometimes it's hard to find words. When I'm not sure what to say, I think of the song "I gotta be me."

What's your story what made you join?
 
Tony Page said:
About 5 years ago I went through a phase of feeling lonely no one to talk to. Not because of a personality change and people were just staying away, it was age. Except for my wife all the family and friends I would communicate and share time with we're gone I was "The Last of the Mohicans." I outlived them.

My wife can be a good listener, however we're not always on the same wavelength.

The people who understood me were gone. Now I have all these ideas and thoughts looking to bust out of my small brain. I had no idea how to solve this, should I look for new friends? I was never one to be a social butterfly. I thought about going to senior events run by the town but it was not a good fit for me. I wasn't looking to go on trips or play cards or bingo. I felt I needed an outlet.

I Started thinking that all I want to do is talk to someone. I never realized the internet hosted all kinds of a chat rooms, including chat rooms for seniors.

After reviewing numerous senior chat rooms, the one that seems more comfortable to me was Seniors Only Club.

" What's the worst that can happen? if I don't like it I quit, if they don't like me they kick me off."

It took a day for me to try and join. When I first went on site I felt intimidated. What was I supposed to do, I felt like a fish out of the water. I realize much later I should do an introduction. To be honest I don't know if I ever did.

After all this time I still feel like a rookie. Knowing the right thing to say sometimes it's hard to find words. When I'm not sure what to say, I think of the song "I gotta be me."

What's your story what made you join?
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We're always here for you @Tony Page ! I was directed here by Ken form another forum we were both on that closed. Except for the time I lost my computer to the earthquake. I have ben here ever since except when this forum was closed.
 
I was a member of a Senior's Forum a handful of years back, but walked away from it due to the immaturity of a few. Not forgetting how much I enjoyed being involved with a forum with other like-minded and same age (in and around) folks, I remained on the hunt for a replacement, and one day while typing in Seniors Forums, this forum came up and the rest is history.
 
I have belonged to many forums over the years, so I was no stranger to blabbing with strangers. When I'd buy a car, get a new hobby, want a recipe, etc. I usually turned to forums long before Youtube and Facebook were a thing. I had tried "another" senior forum and made several friends there, but the vibe of the place was pretty liberal especially back when political discussions were allowed.

That forum went through some changes (back in 2016-18), politics were outlawed, and the admin had a "my way or the highway" attitude and was heavy-handed with permanent bans. Lots of people were banned from there for ridiculous reasons, including Frank, Lon, and Hal who all ended up here. Nancy also posted there during that time (she was not banned.)

So I started searching for other senior forums and found SOC. I joined but it was a few months before I started posting. The small active membership here made it seem like a tight-knit group of friends and I wasn't sure how a new poster would fit in, but I need not have worried. I am glad to have found a more conservative-leaning group to socialize with.
 
I was part of a seniors' forum that also included @Yvonne Smith, @Bobby Cole, and others who joined the last iteration of this forum. When the administrator announced he was closing it, I asked about acquiring the domain, but he wasn't willing to sell it. So I started the Seniors Only Club, and I am very pleased that you all joined, especially those who returned after a long hiatus.

Like @Tony Page, and, I suppose, many other seniors, I have also found that most of the people I had once spent time visiting with are gone now, and those who are still among the living don't get out much anymore. Many of those whom I had considered friends twenty years or more ago were people I met when I was more engaged with politics, but, while I still have a passing interest in politics, I am no longer so naive as to believe that there is anything I can do to make things better, so I enjoy having conversations about other things.
 
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Ken Anderson said:
I was part of a seniors' forum that also included @Yvonne Smith, @Bobby Cole, and some others who became part of the last iteration of this forum. When the administrator announced he was closing it, I asked about acquiring the domain, but he wasn't willing to sell it. So I started the Seniors Only Club, and I am very pleased that you all joined, especially those who returned after a long hiatus.
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So happy you started this forum, Ken!

Thank you for it!
 
Ken Anderson said:
Many of those whom I had considered friends twenty years or more ago were people I met when I was more engaged with politics
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I should perhaps specify that I don't mean to imply that they weren't actualy friends, only that our friendship was based on politics, as were our common interests.
 
Ken Anderson said:
I was part of a seniors' forum that also included @Yvonne Smith, @Bobby Cole, and others who joined the last iteration of this forum. When the administrator announced he was closing it, I asked about acquiring the domain, but he wasn't willing to sell it. So I started the Seniors Only Club, and I am very pleased that you all joined, especially those who returned after a long hiatus.

Like @Tony Page, and, I suppose, many other seniors, I have also found that most of the people I had once spent time visiting with are gone now, and those who are still among the living don't get out much anymore. Many of those whom I had considered friends twenty years or more ago were people I met when I was more engaged with politics, but, while I still have a passing interest in politics, I am no longer so naive as to believe that there is anything I can do to make things better, so I enjoy having conversations about other things.
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Ken
I too appreciate SOC, thank you for keeping it running.
 
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