Hospice Just Delivered Everything

[Mary Stetler]

Thank you Don. The doctors saw enough on the bottom Xray to know the origin of the cancer has to be incurable because of my age and the fact it has spread and basically since it already did so much to the spine. I have a couple knots on my head that is not normal one on my forehead.
I'm not sure if I'm excepting it or just in a phrase right now.
Jake is having a hard time with it, although we both got some sleep last couple nights.

My first husband and I were soul mates. When he died, I could still feel him and talked to him. I am sure you will be with Jake after you are gone too.
It is OK to cry.

 

[Marie Mallory]

My first husband and I were soul mates. When he died, I could still feel him and talked to him. I am sure you will be with Jake after you are gone too.
It is OK to cry.

Mary, this is true Jake is going thru this too, Thank goodness he has the dogs ans hens to care for.

 

[Kate Ellery]

Marie … I’ve known you since the old S O , and I’m lost for words….reading this post

There’s is a huge much respected cancer research centre in Adelaide C B D , they have a lottery twice a year to raise money for further research into this horrible decease , I buy a $100 ticket and every time to assist in this much needed research ….in the hope they will find a cure before to long .
The huge building is nicknamed the cheese grater ….because it looks like one

 

[Ken Anderson]

@Marie Mallory, while I understand your decision to go into hospice rather than continue a painful fight that you don't believe you can win... no, that's not true because, to truly understand it, one would have to be there, so perhaps accepting that whatever decisions you make are the right thing to do. It's difficult to know what to say but it's hard on everyone who has known you, even in the limited manner in which we can know you through an online forum, and even that seems hollow and trite, because it's not about us: it's about you, and it's about Jake. When you say that you don't know how to act or be now, I think that's how we all feel. We all live the lives we have as long as we have it, knowing that our time here is not forever.

 

[Marie Mallory]

@Marie Mallory, while I understand your decision to go into hospice rather than continue a painful fight that you don't believe you can win... no, that's not true because, to truly understand it, one would have to be there, so perhaps accepting that whatever decisions you make are the right thing to do. It's difficult to know what to say but it's hard on everyone who has known you, even in the limited manner in which we can know you through an online forum, and even that seems hollow and trite, because it's not about us: it's about you, and it's about Jake. When you say that you don't know how to act or be now, I think that's how we all feel. We all live the lives we have as long as we have it, knowing that our time here is not forever.

Ken I was hoping you would comment, since you deal with this kind of thing more so than mowst of us.

 

[Ken Anderson]

Ken I was hoping you would comment, since you deal with this kind of thing more so than mowst of us.

In these situations, it is difficult to know what to say. On the one hand, everyone who knows you, at whatever level, wants to be here for you, yet we don't know how to do that. We deal in words here, while realizing that our words don't mean as much as we'd like them to. Nobody wants to say the wrong thing, yet saying nothing can be the worst thing, and our words aren't going to change anything as far as the eventual outcome goes. We don't know you in the way that Jake knows you, or others around you might know you, but we love you in the manner in which we can.