Had a call today at 3 pm; about our granddaughter, had o/d off fentanyl

Jake Smith said:
Received a call at 3 pm from Theresa our daughter, telling us her daughter Dejah, had o/d ed off fentanyl, as if "Marie", hasn't been through enough with pulled muscles; she has to endure yet another death of a grandchild. Took me back to when she was a baby just 2 or 3 sleeping, on my chest camping she had pneumonia, and just a baby; slept on my chest all night, to keep her warm in the tent, we were camping on 16 acres we had bought. Strange how things come to mind during tragedy's.

She was 36.

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Oh No! Hugs to you both.
 
Kate Ellery said:
So sorry to hear of the loss of your granddaughter so young @Marie Mallory @Jake Smith
Are her children still fairly young …a sad tragedy for all her family and friends
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Kate the children are now 8, 10, 11 and 13. The oldest at first was just mad, then she cried very hard, other 3 not sure how they feel ,since their mother was seldom in their life for long periods.
 
Mary Robi said:
Greatest sympathies, Jake, to you and your family. This drug epidemic is hitting too many families these days.
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That's so true, Mary, like one on news where the parents said, their son had never done any drugs, and he had went to a party where someone gave him a pain pill to take, and it was laced with Fentanyl it killed him, he was 18 yo. They told Theresa, Dejah's mother, that's what they believed killed her, "Autopsy was fentanyl", and their investigating to find out who gave it to her. Told her it will take about four months before they will know, and that they will prosecute them. The sad part is that won't bring her back, but will maybe save someone else.
 
I really fill bad about all this; Marie is still unable to walk without a walker, and I know she couldn't handle the trip for funeral Tuesday. She wouldn't be able to walk at all after that trip. Took her to town yesterday to get dog food, and she kept groaning in pain the whole way, She has the appt. with doctors Tuesday 10th; and I really hope they can help with this pain this time, she's been going through for four months now. ER gave her muscle relaxers, which does nothing, and I did tell them she needs something to help her with pain, to no "avail", I minus well told Getty, been the same results as I got from them.

These younger Drs, don't seem to have much compassion.
 
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Pain makes the muscles tense up, which pulls on the bones. Muscle relaxants help BUT the pain has to be alleviated at first. Over-the-counter meds aren't going to do it. REAL stuff is needed for the healing to begin.

Of course, doctors are loath to prescribe something that might cause addiction but, dammit, some sort of happy medium must be considered.

I so hope Marie can get something to make her comfortable.
 
Mary Robi said:
Pain makes the muscles tense up, which pulls on the bones. Muscle relaxants help BUT the pain has to be alleviated at first. Over-the-counter meds aren't going to do it. REAL stuff is needed for the healing to begin.

Of course, doctors are loath to prescribe something that might cause addiction but, dammit, some sort of happy medium must be considered.

I so hope Marie can get something to make her comfortable.
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Thank you Mary.
I'ce been going thru some pictures of Dejah when she was younger. She was always smiling.
 
Dejah's youngest 'her son'
which is 7 ask his Nana,'My daddy died when I was 5, now my mama dies when I'm 7, why do I have to lose both my parents at such a young age'? He is a very smart little boy, but this surprised my daughter.
Today is the funeral and we can't go although my daughter is keeping in touch. I'm still barely walking with a walker, my legs both went out on me so be glad when I heal, pain gets me up around 5am DST which I never liked, since it just means 3 hours of darkness till sunrise.
 
This has to be really hard for her children, especially losing their mother to an overdose of drugs. Is that what happened with their father, too , @Marie Mallory ?
Today, is the doctor visit, right ?
Saying prayers that they can do tests and find out what is going on to put you in so much pain, and then help you get on a path to recovery again.
Let us know how it goes, please, if you are up to it afterwards.
 
Daughter said the services were nice and many family members came she will send us a video.
Said her church sent enough food to feed hundreds when only 40 were at her house.
She said her preacher had a call about a man in her church seeing Dejah smiling and waving. He said he had a vision she was in heaven waving and smiling. She said, what was really telling was she had been crying and asking God for a sign she was ok.
I know most don't pay much attention to things like that, but since I've had a few I do.
 
@Jake Smith and @Marie Mallory I just wanted to say one of my friends lost a grandchild to drugs. We talk and cry about it frequently. I was around him since birth and while not blood related, he was family to me. So I semi understand and tonight shed a few tears for your loss. Hugs to both of you. Sorry I waited so long to pass on my condolences, but I find it hard to even type this now.
 
Faye Fox said:
@Jake Smith and @Marie Mallory I just wanted to say one of my friends lost a grandchild to drugs. We talk and cry about it frequently. I was around him since birth and while not blood related, he was family to me. So I semi understand and tonight shed a few tears for your loss. Hugs to both of you. Sorry I waited so long to pass on my condolences, but I find it hard to even type this now.
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I didn't get to see Dejah much for last 20 years, she met the kids father and got on drugs, but I did have the privilege of having her here every summer and holidays. I have lots of good memories of her up till she was about 12.
I can still see her smile though when I saw her 4 years ago.
Thank you for the condolence's.
I'm sorry you lost one you loved too, we have lost so many loved ones, best childhood friends, brothers, sisters, 2 grandsons and now Dejah.
The youth of today are in a sad way.
 
Jake just pitched a FakeBook fit and deleted his account. Not one of his 3 brothers or his sister gave condolence's about Dejah.Our SIL did but not her husband. His sister never has had much to do with most of the family so no expectations from her, but his brothers?
No nieces or nephews ,just my side of the family. He is really upset with the assholes now.
 
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