Dating in today's world

Retirement homes @Shirley Martin they must be rich ….……and not ….all oldies in them

The lady who got us into dancing has just moved into a tiny one bedroom unit in a retirement village , cost her about $600.000 up front
and then there’s a weekly maintenance fee ….so they must be rich …or used to be ..at least before buying a unit …no wait think the family gets back about a 1/4 of what she paid for it if she has to move into a nursing facility
 
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Kate Ellery said:
Don’t like ya chances …
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A very close friend of mine went through an abusive marriage. Petite, vivacious, good dancer. She met a gentleman at a senior dance tea in her late 60s. He carried her on a silver platter with a lace doily. They had ten years of dancing, partying, travelling. She and her family stuck with him through chemo and recovery and then. His daughter showed up to get his things and no one has seen a will. Well, they had a good run and he will never be forgotten.
 
I can tell you a rather odd experience with my one and only effort of meeting a nice genuine partner

Back to the add in the paper ….one of the very few replies I read , interested me ….he lived on a farm ….he was tall …and he danced …💃💃.and included a photo ….

and altho 99% didn’t have a name or a phone number …..usual was a post office box number to write back to

..this one had a full name and location , and a phone number ….and his last name was almost the same as mine , ( one letter difference )
I guess that why I remembered his name …and I couldn’t believe his phone number was very close to mine as well ….same area code …
only first 2 numbers were different …. ( no mobiles then )


He had a lot of interests that appealed to me ….however I looked at the map …( no google back then ) ..we are talking 1980’s
and I lived to far away to make a connection….. so left it …it would have been about a 500+ km trip each way from where I lived , I still had kids at school …just didn’t make the time or effort to follow it through ….the others I read put me off completly ….just couldn’t be bothered …to be honest

Then 18 months latter I met my hubby ….and I moved to Adelaide , where I hated it I’d never really lived in a city in my life , and hated the traffic / the pollution / way to many people in shops ….

So after being in the city for about 18 years ( hubs wanted to stay near so he’d be near his parents to help them ) fair enough ….the they both died within 4 months of each other at 69 and 70 ….

So i asked if we could go look at a block of land in the country area …( our neighbours at the time , parents lived here )

so he …knew the area well, ~ so as a start we looked here , hubs agreed and we bought this block of land …22 years ago …..waited for it to be established , then arranged to have our home built ….

During our establishment of the garden / home I seen an add in the local paper for a 3 day weekend dance in the next town , hubs said no way as he couldn’t dance …..but we ended up going but sat most of the time as hubs was a bit nervous about trying ……
This was 2009 ….so a man approached us and asked a few questions ….and it was the same man who’d sent me a letter in the mid 1980’s
I’ve never let on tho ..I just smile when I see him ….he lives about 80 km from us …and yes I’ve danced with him , as many swap partners for a dance in country areas ( no dancing here anymore )
 
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Beth Gallagher said:
I know that dating today is a vastly different landscape that from when I last dated in 1987. :D Back then, the guys still called for a date, picked me up, and paid for everything. Nowadays it's meet up someplace and pay for your own, which is strange to an oldie like me. I enjoyed the "dating rituals" of the past.

All my 5 best friends are now single, having been widowed or divorced. I'm the only one of our group who's still married. Not a single one of them has any interest in having another partner at all, usually commenting about enjoying making their own choices and not having anyone to clean up after. The widows do miss their husbands but don't feel that they can be replaced, especially at this age. But 70 is vastly different from 50, as far as interest in pairing off.

Oh, and one other thing... seems like most old men don't want old women. They want a younger, sleeker model. For the life of me, I can't imagine what a young woman would want with an old man. When I was young, no amount of money would have enticed me to go out with an older man; it creeped me out.
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Simbad agrees,
 
Marie Mallory said:
Wonderland.
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There was a dance hall in Adelaide ….called wonderland….ill have to check if it’s still going ..it was a very old hall ….
So I’ll look it up for you …and tech ya a few steps of ballroom dancing …. @Shirley Martin

Oh dear it’s apparently been bulldozed ..what a waste ….
it was beautiful
We don’t do that half naked fancy stuff , can you imagine us twirling around and our wobbly bits catching up to us 2 mins latter :ROFLMAO::ROFLMAO:

Adelaide's Wonderland Ballroom Is Now Up For Sale

One of Australia’s few competition ballrooms has come onto the market in the wake of the COVID-19 downturn. Adelaide’s magically-named Wonderland Ballroom has swept locals up in the glamour and fun of dance for more than 50 years.
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Cat-lady copium:


So young men, spread a little pity. But old guys... don't try this. It's no fun being maced, explaining things to the cop, and ending up with a record.:eek:
 
I've never dated much. If I meet someone I like then we may go out. But I've never had a need to seek out being with another person just for the sake on not being alone. Funny how there are a lot of folks who cannot understand that and think that everybody needs "someone" in their lives.
 
Hedi Mitchell said:
Nooo not me!...thank goodness those days are gone.
But all three daughters are still single..one 55- other 58- then step daughter 38.
Last night my youngest daughter 55 text me some of the things men her age are sending her and it is appalling.
For instance - Oh you so remind me of my mother,and it is really making me hot. If your curious I will tell you why.:mad:
What woman would ever want to be told that? None!
Another - if prostitution were legal in the states like some other countries, I would never be in a relationship again.
NEEEXXT..moving on. Sorry that was bad enough.My point is this- Why would middle aged men even talk like that?
Now she is looking via dating sites, which she will stop, but still just shocked that older men could be as crude as a deranged high school boy.
The oldest does not give flip about dating, and has not for years. Plus she has health issues and another, must work from dawn til midnight person
The youngest - retired military woman, PTSD, and some physical aliments from being over seas during the war. She has dogs, and a dove, and seems not to fret over not having a partner of any kind.No wonder they just wanna stay single.
I have pointed out to them before, there are many a skanky woman also, it can not be just men.

What are your thoughts on this? do you know single people who would like a long term relationship but can't find one?
BTW I kept it clean vs some actual language from these so called men.
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I can truly relate to those situations. I can't even begin to describe the things I have been asked or told. Chivalry is truly dead, never to return. ;(
 
Please do not ask:) I got a four inch heel stuck in a cuties back pocket. Yes, I held onto those heels for “just in case” for a while. At our wedding bets were on the table that it would not last six months. No, I still do not have an engagement ring and we never got around to a honey moon. He still makes me smile.
 
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