Kids these Days

[Ken Anderson]

Commonly, older generations will complain about the younger generations, convinced that the world is going to hell in a handbasket, whatever that means.

If my observations were constrained to what I see in the media or on the Internet, I would agree.

But, perhaps because this is a small town, most of the kids - under 16 - seem to be well-behaved and polite. Although a large percentage of the crime here is committed by people under 21, I don’t think they represent the majority of kids here.

Although I had observed this previously, it was brought to mind a moment ago when, as I am in McDonald’s, a man left his booth and was headed for the door, and a boy, about 14, who was sitting with a group of friends nearby, called to him to let him know he had left his wallet behind.

Even before, I had noticed that, for a group of six 14-15 year-olds alone in McDonald’s, they were well-behaved.

 

[Marie Miller]

That is similar to what I see here. Neighbor’s 13 year old stepped in last year when my grass guy of eight years gas lighted me. Dad supervised and edged. This year he will start edging.

 

[John Brunner]

I agree, Ken. The crap we're fed (or think we "see" on the web) has no resemblance to the reality I experience. It makes me angry that are social connections are under attack. It started with race, then went to gender, and now it's generational (don't trust anyone over 30...except your politicians), with each of us having a label. I see some folks claim to relate to Gen X traits, Gen Z traits, etc. But it all reminds me of horoscopes. If you gave people the horoscopes for other zodiacal signs as their own, they would still say "That's damned uncanny!"

Media of all forms has done more harm than good, especially if you get too absorbed in it.

 

[Von Jones]

Just recently a FB post informed residents that the curfew for kids under the age will be enforced. Justifiable but long overdue. The delinquency that has been posted on Nextdoor.com is constant.

 

[Marie Mallory]

The youth is being led by liberal in schools, online and have no real guidance from anywhere. A product of the socialist who took over the nation decades ago.
Most are victims, either from parents or the educators who promote it.

 

[Mary Stetler]

Socrates and Plato are on record complaining about young people of their time.

 

[Marie Mallory]

Socrates and Plato are on record complaining about young people of their time.

Mary that is synchronicity, I almost put this up an hour ago.

 

[Shirley Martin]

I think it has to do with where the kids are located. That sort of determines how they are raised. Having a solid family connection is more likely to produce stable kids. Living in small towns or the country is more likely to involve a solid family connection.

 

[Marie Miller]

The youth is being led by liberal in schools, online and have no real guidance from anywhere. A product of the socialist who took over the nation decades ago.
Most are victims, either from parents or the educators who promote it.

Marie, parenting requires effort and time. It is so much easier to expect the system to raise one’s kids.

 

[Beth Gallagher]

I think it has to do with where the kids are located. That sort of determines how they are raised. Having a solid family connection is more likely to produce stable kids. Living in small towns or the country is more likely to involve a solid family connection.

My son traveled to California on a 2-week business trip. To prepare, his company sent him to a "sensitivity class" (this is not a joke). They spent a lot of time stressing crap about not assuming anyone's pronouns, etc. My son called me and said, "Mama, all that 'yes ma'am, no sir' stuff you drilled into me is going to be hard to leave in Texas."

 

[John Brunner]

I think it has to do with where the kids are located. That sort of determines how they are raised. Having a solid family connection is more likely to produce stable kids. Living in small towns or the country is more likely to involve a solid family connection.

I've done volunteer work doing home repairs for folks in two very rural counties. I have repaired damage done by the adult children and grandchildren of some very nice, responsible people from those kids/grand kids breaking into their own families' homes stealing stuff...presumably for drug money. One home had an exterior keyed deadbolt on the bedroom door to lock out the adult non-resident grandchildren as their elderly grandparents kept firearms, money, prescription drugs, etc, locked in there...in their own damned homes! One woman turned down a beautiful glass front door we got donated that would have let all sorts of much-needed light into the place...but it represented a security risk from her own grandsons. Still makes me want to cry as I recall her pulling me aside to make that admission and ask me to take back the pretty glass door and have a more secure one installed.

Even in the sticks raised by responsible adults, some young men have pressures and influences that cause them to fall into lifestyles that are as far away from their upbringing as one can imagine, destroying their ties to those who care about them the most as though to make some kind of overt statement of the path they've chosen and the doors they close. Maybe the percentages are skewed between city/country...maybe. I think evil influences and temptation are everywhere, and it frightens me to see that a solid upbringing might not always be a strong enough shield.

 

[Shirley Martin]

True, but a kid growing up surrounded by drugs and gangs has less chance of being a responsible, drug fee adult than one with a stable family.

 

[Marie Mallory]

I think it has to do with where the kids are located. That sort of determines how they are raised. Having a solid family connection is more likely to produce stable kids. Living in small towns or the country is more likely to involve a solid family connection.

So true,although you can't convince anyone of the idea that living in the country with animals is better than living in one of these mega house's.

Shirly just this morning I irritated one of my daughters about her taking over responsibility of her daughters children.
Instead of buying a rural place with room for activities and farm animals she bought a big fat house with small yard.
Her daughter 'my granddaughter' has a 2 year old son and a 4 month old newborn daughter.
My daughter is helping with the childcare till she finds a babysitter.
Jake said,' when will you learn to keep your nose out of their business.'

 

[Marie Miller]

Marie, rural home, chickens and have nots sounds great. Who is going to tend to animals and grounds? Who is going to pay for it and what commute will be involved? What kind of educational system is out there?

 

[Marie Mallory]

Marie, rural home, chickens and have nots sounds great. Who is going to tend to animals and grounds? Who is going to pay for it and what commute will be involved? What kind of educational system is out there?

Marie the same one who slaves all dat to live in and slaves for a oversized house.
She has a good husband who works and is now paying for the MCMansion she just bought.
Hopefully an education without DEI. She is in real estate but hasn't sold a house in years, the housing market is down now.
I wish I'd married a good man when I had kids, mine was a rambler so it was just me and the kids. She could be a housewife and mother.

 

[Marie Mallory]

Check out these kids 7 and 4 years old.

 

[Beth Gallagher]

@Marie Mallory -- the fact is, our kids often don't want our advice, much like we didn't want advice when we were younger. One of my biggest pet peeves in life is people giving me unwanted advice. The old expression "if I want your advice I'll ask for it" is my motto.

I have watched our kids go through struggles but I stay out of their business. Of course I bitch to my husband about what I believe they should do.

As far as rural living, I grew up on a farm but you couldn't pay me to live out in the country again. I had zero interest in caring for a lot of property and animals. Our kids were raised as "city kids" and they all turned out great, though there were some bumpy times along the way. I believe that children learn what they live, so no matter where they are raised they can turn out to be decent people or they can turn out to be trash.

 

[Marie Mallory]

@Marie Mallory -- the fact is, our kids often don't want our advice, much like we didn't want advice when we were younger. One of my biggest pet peeves in life is people giving me unwanted advice. The old expression "if I want your advice I'll ask for it" is my motto.

I have watched our kids go through struggles but I stay out of their business. Of course I bitch to my husband about what I believe they should do.

As far as rural living, I grew up on a farm but you couldn't pay me to live out in the country again. I had zero interest in caring for a lot of property and animals. Our kids were raised as "city kids" and they all turned out great, though there were some bumpy times along the way. I believe that children learn what they live, so no matter where they are raised they can turn out to be decent people or they can turn out to be trash.

I do understand what your saying although times are a lot different than just a few decades ago.
The cities are run by a new society as are the schools. Indoctrination centers especially in big and medium size cities.
Maybe a little refuge in the country, not so much in the city.

 

[Ken Anderson]

For parents who take the time to do so, it's easier to keep track of their kids in a rural area or small town. When our nephew did something wrong in Millinocket, we were likely to know about it before he got home because someone would call us. We ended up homeschooling him because of things specific to him, but while he was enrolled in public school, we knew most of his teachers. That wasn't the case when I was raising my son in Southern California. Fortunately, he wasn't a particularly problematic kid.

 

[Marie Miller]

Marie the same one who slaves all dat to live in and slaves for a oversized house.
She has a good husband who works and is now paying for the MCMansion she just bought.
Hopefully an education without DEI. She is in real estate but hasn't sold a house in years, the housing market is down now.
I wish I'd married a good man when I had kids, mine was a rambler so it was just me and the kids. She could be a housewife and mother.

Marie, the problem I see is “she bought the house, “ he is now paying for it”, “has not sold a house in years”. In our relationship it is and was always us.
According your post she is a housewife and mother as her job is a sideline. Is housewife and mother something most women are striving for? My maternal grandmother with six surviving kids ran a business, my mother with two kids ran a man’s business in heels and pencil skirts, I enjoyed almost every day of our insane life.