Kids these Days

[Krystal Shay]

Hitting a child with a switch is not parenting.

No one said anything about hitting a child with a switch.

 

[Marie Mallory]

No one said anything about hitting a child with a switch.

Krystal , I did and I got hit with switches and used then on my kids if they didn't listen.
Just knowing I would use them meant it wasn;t all that often I had to.

 

[Marie Mallory]

I think that no one is trying to say how everyone should raise their children, @Marie Mallory . Each parent is different,each child is different. What is effective discipline with one child might have no effect at all with another child, even though they are siblings with the exact same parents.

As far as discipline; every child needs discipline, but that is a far cry from the brutality that some children grow up with.
Sadly, some Christian parents can be the worst disciplinarians, and don’t get the right mix of education/teaching and love happening with their efforts at being parents.

If a child is too young to understand reasoning, sometimes a swat on the behind is an appropriate method of teaching them not to do something that is dangerous to them.
Once they are old enough to listen to reason, then most physical punishment only creates resentment, in my opinion.

Yvonne, being the parent of one child is not the same as being the parent of several. Sometimes my mother and Aunt had all 10 if us kids at once.Aunt had 7,mama had 3.
Sometimes we didn't listern and it could be very dangerous to our health.

 

[Marie Mallory]

Marie, this has nothing to do with what I said to Ken.
If you do a bit of research on legal and illegal immigration numbers you will probably find that 3rd world countries are not the only ones. Of course it also depends on your personal interpretation of what nations are 3rd world.

No they aren't but they are the majority.

 

[Beth Gallagher]

Hitting a child with a switch is not parenting.

This is not always true, and it can depend on the child and the situation. How many kids do you have, Marie?

 

[Krystal Shay]

Krystal , I did and I got hit with switches and used then on my kids if they didn't listen.
Just knowing I would use them meant it wasn;t all that often I had to.

She quoted me so I didn't know what she was talking about.

 

[Marie Mallory]

She quoted me so I didn't know what she was talking about.

I know, I think she's the one who doesn't know what shes talking about though.

 

[Dave Earl]

Just sticking my two cents worth...

I got the switch when I was a kid. Wooden spoon, too. It wasn't often, but it was enough for me to have never laid a finger on my kids.

 

[Marie Miller]

I know, I think she's the one who doesn't know what shes talking about though.

Whoever lays a hand, a switch, a paddle on a child is off as far as I am concerned.
Catholic chaplain got me on my very first day at school and kept at at until I was 16. My grandmother had told him to get out of the house for whipping her sons so he continued with me. He was sent into secluded retirement when I was done with him. I and the family left the Catholic Church. Considering that the tithe comes straight out of your income … .

 

[Ken Anderson]

Like with many other things, it's not a matter of whether it is wrong to lay a hand on a child. Some children may benefit from it, though I haven't seen it. I think it's clear that not every child would need that form of discipline, and some may be harmed by it. It is a parenting style that has historical and biblical support, so I wouldn't say that it's necessarily abusive. However, far too many parents have used corporal punishment as a means of blowing off their anger at their child, and that is wrong, in my opinion. I would say, never strike your child in anger.

Not every child requires it. Before a child reaches the age of understanding language, there might be a benefit to a swat on the butt as a way of getting their attention, but not as a form of punishment. Once a child has acquired language, other forms of communication become available, opening up additional ways to communicate with a healthy, attached child, that are more effective than the rod.

 

[Krystal Shay]

Whoever lays a hand, a switch, a paddle on a child is off as far as I am concerned.
Catholic chaplain got me on my very first day at school and kept at at until I was 16. My grandmother had told him to get out of the house for whipping her sons so he continued with me. He was sent into secluded retirement when I was done with him. I and the family left the Catholic Church. Considering that the tithe comes straight out of your income … .

So you were constantly getting beatings as a young girl from a chaplain till you were 16? That's terrible. I'm sorry you had to go through that. That is very different than an occasional smack on the butt.

 

[Marie Mallory]

Whoever lays a hand, a switch, a paddle on a child is off as far as I am concerned.
Catholic chaplain got me on my very first day at school and kept at at until I was 16. My grandmother had told him to get out of the house for whipping her sons so he continued with me. He was sent into secluded retirement when I was done with him. I and the family left the Catholic Church. Considering that the tithe comes straight out of your income … .

Thats abuse, sorry you had to go through it.
Only person who could physically correct my kids was my mother. She never did though. She just threaten to do so.

 

[Marie Miller]

So you were constantly getting beatings as a young girl from a chaplain till you were 16? That's terrible. I'm sorry you had to go through that. That is very different than an occasional smack on the butt.

I got even. Religious education was twice a week but a pass/fail for the entire school year.