I'm sorry you lost your parents so young, Ken. Thankfully my mom was almost 84. She lived a fairly good life Except for the last 6 months. Being in the hospital since January on a vent and later a feeding tube is really no life. I would have liked to visit one last time but it didn't work out and she was sedated or sleeping most of the time anyway according to my baby sister and brother who lived close enough to visit. I didn't think Id hurt as much either as I did when my husband died but I do. Thankfully there's plenty of pictures of my beautiful mother. I'm also glad I didn't see her in the end, my sister said she was unrecognizable. She was a woman who always took pride in her appearance even til almost the end. But hospitals don't color and cut your hair, etc. she was thin to begin with so I can imagine how she must have looked at the end. Also a tracheotomy. Yes, I'm kind of glad I don't have that picture in my head. I did leave home at 19 and moved from Pittsburgh to Chicago and through the years we kept moving further and further away so visits weren't frequent. The last 15 years she lived in NJ with my youngest sister and her family, so I only visited once a year. Maybe it's not the time you spend with someone but how much you love them and I loved her dearly!