How To Tell If Seniorsonly.club Is The Best Forum

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  1. Chrissy Cross

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    Yes, I've heard about the splitting up of CA. Into 3 states, even heard somewhere of splitting it even more. :)
     
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    That's a very good attitude - not feeling like a senior. My husband is 61, a full fledged senior here with a discount card. But sometimes the cashier would look at him before ringing the register as if there is doubt. Admittedly my husband looks young for his age maybe because of his attitude. He dyes his hair not to look good, he said, but to feel young. And how can you feel young if you see on the mirror is an old man? The other night we were watching tv and there was this commercial of a fastfood burger that featured an old couple. The old woman is my husband's grade school classmate. Oh yeah? I said to my husband that the woman in the commercial looked so old to be his classmate.

    Maybe the attitude counts a lot.
     
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    I think the attitude does count a lot ...I'm 61 soon, that's me in the avatar...I do feel that possibly genetics..and severe illness aside...that age is all in the mind, if you think you're old..you'll BE old...the secret to staying young is to forget numbers as being indicative of your real age.. but to stay mentally alert, don't take life too seriously, , take care of your appearance, and most of all have friends of all ages and walks of life!!
     
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    I've never really understood all the prejudices people have. I guess I haven't been exposed to a lot of different cultures and religions and never learned much about their beliefs. But I have been exposed to people from different beliefs. I've only known one Jewish family my whole life. The elder of that family lived next door to my grandparents and he was my granddad's best friend. They went everywhere together. His daughter was married to another Jew. They had a furniture store. When the factory I worked at changed hands I was laid off for several months. They gave me a job. They had a son and daughter who were my age. The son and I made the deliveries and since I was newly married and had bought my first house, whenever we delivered new furniture and the people had old furniture they wanted hauled off we would go by my house. I furnished most of my house that way.
    So my only experience was with that one family, three generations of them and I couldn't ask for better friends.
     
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    Don't know if they have Just For Men Hair Color there, but that is what I use. Gray only shows up on my mustache and temples, so that's where I use it at. Been using the same product since I met my wife in 2000.
    Funny, but I have a retired classmate that, him and his wife, look much older than we do because both of them have totally gray hair. Even though they are both our age, all the gray makes them look old enough to be our parents.
    We are always having people telling us, "no way you two are 66 and 68". I l tell them I made my first WesPac Cruise (Navy) to Vietnam in Dec 1968. Does shock them.


     
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    Well, when the old arthritis pains start up, it hard NOT to think about how old we are, Holly.
    As far as "having friends of all ages and walks of life, we sure don't....but that's us. One thing for sure, we are pretty picky about who we choose as friends.

     
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    Don't even think about splitting California into three states. Do you realize what that would do to the senate? Instead of 2 senators they have now, they would get 2 senators from each state giving them 6.
     
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    Lol, Sheldon but true. But I also think different parts of California tend to vote slightly differently but I'm not sure.

    About Fresno...

    Democrats in Fresno outnumber rival Republicans by more than 20,000 registered voters, but California’s fifth-largest city still can’t shake the perception that it’s a conservative bastion.

    Now there’s a study, which appears this month in the American Political Science Review. Its conclusion? Fresno, is pretty much middle of the road — at least relatively speaking.

    When stacked up against 67 other large American cities, it looks pretty conservative. There are only a dozen cities considered more conservative in the study. In California, Fresno is second only to Anaheim in Orange County as most conservative.

    That said, the study shows that nationwide, liberal big cities are far more common than conservative big cities. And the most liberal cities are far more liberal than the most conservative cities are conservative.

    Even Houston and Dallas in conservative Texas are considered more liberal than Fresno.

    According to the Pew Research Center, researchers from MIT and UCLA pooled data from seven large-scale opinion surveys, conducted between 2000 and 2011, to develop measures of public policy preference in 51 cities with populations of more than 250,000.


    Read more here: http://www.fresnobee.com/news/polit...l-notebook/article19523367.html#storylink=cpy
     
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    Around the time of Obama's second win in the Presidental race ... 2011-12 ... there was AGAIN talk of Texas wanting to become its own Country. In some circles, that has never died down.

    Austin is the most liberal .... population is young, college town, and Silicon Valley wannabes.
     
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    I've heard that too! :)
     
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  11. Ken Anderson

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    Thank you, everyone, for your confidence and kind words. I am on my Kindle Fire, lying in bed, and have never learned to do anything fancy on a tablet or anything smaller than my MacBook, so I don't know how wordy I will get, using two fingers on this annoying virtual keyboard. But I will try.

    I'm not perfect, and I can get testy in forum conversations myself sometimes, so I try not to expect more of others than I can deliver myself. When I err, it will probably be in favor of leniency or in taking too long to act. I know that can be frustrating because when someone is annoying you, you want something done about it.

    In real life, most of us don't call the police immediately when a neighbor annoys us. We put up with it for awhile, hoping he will quit doing whatever it is that annoys us. We might talk to him, realizing that there is always a chance that he doesn't realize that he is being annoying. Finally, we assess whether maybe we're making too much of it.

    If he doesn't care that he is being annoying, won't stop, and we can't put up with it, then we might consider calling the police if the annoyance might be a violation of a law.

    Some of us are more easily annoyed than others. I leased an upstairs apartment once. Since I had a whole moving truck full of stuff to bring in, I spent a few hours carrying furniture and boxes upstairs. The next morning, there was a copy of a page from the lease agreement having to do with unnecessary noise tacked to my door, with a phone number on it. I called the number and it was to the property management company. Someone had complained that I was going up and down the stairs all afternoon. How else was I supposed to move in? By helicopter?

    Anyhow, even when I notice that there is a little tension in a forum thread (and I don't always notice), my inclination is to see if it will pass, or if whoever's involved will be able to work it out for themselves, because that's what most people do in real life, I think.

    In real life, we sometimes say things in the heat of argument that aren't so nice. If we are reasonable people, we eventually realize that we have been unkind and we apologize, at least if we respect one another. I don't want to live in a world or community where every word is so closely monitored and controlled that I am not given the freedom to make a mistake once in awhile, or the opportunity to correct it myself.

    That's my goal for this forum. It's imperfect because none of us are perfect, and because we are individuals with varying levels of tolerance.

    The house on one side of me has been mostly vacant since I've lived here. A few years ago, someone bought it who had a dog. Most people in Millinocket don't have dogs for some reason. This dog barked when the owner was away. It was annoying at first, but after a week or so I barely noticed it, although it was still barking. My neighbor across the street, however, couldn't stand it. Although I have always found him to be a very good neighbor, he threatened to shoot this guy's dog, and ended up calling the police to complain about the noise. I was closer to the dog than he was, but it didn't bother me much.

    People might be like that in the forum, too, and I might not notice the dog that is annoying the hell out of you. Please don't think that I am being complacent or that I don't care. Maybe the barking simply didn't bother me, and you might have to let me know that it bothered you.

    The rules here are 1) Don't be too annoying; and 2) Don't be too easily annoyed.

    Anyhow, this seems to be working fairly well, and you have yourselves to thank for that too. I am glad that you are enjoying it here and hope that nothing happens to change that.
     
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  12. Linda Binning

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    Ken, when moving to an upstairs apartment you are suppose to rent a trampoline and set it up outside the biggest window in your place and then hold as many boxes as you can and jump like heck till you can make it through the window. That way you will only need to carry the large furniture and appliances up the stairs. You'll annoy your new neighbors less that way.

    As for the neighbor's dog. Its funny about dogs because my husband and I both find dogs barking, traffic going by and other outdoor noises as so much white noise. Doesn't bother us at all. My brother, who lives in our back yard goes nuts with the dogs and coyotes making noise when he's trying to sleep.
     
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    That was a pretty long post using a tablet Ken, ;) I try to do most of mine on a laptop as it is much easier using a real keyboard in my opinion, but I do know others often prefer tablets.
    Your philosophy concerning this forum and life in general seems to be similar to my own, so I guess that is why I feel at home here. I also like the fact that you partake in the forum as a member, which gives it more of a family feel than a school where you are the headmaster.

    Thanks again Ken for creating an excellent tolerant, compassionate and friendly forum.
     
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    Wow..California loves rain. The fight over water between north and south is another issue. Cody, It sounds like you ran into some snarky people in Southern Ca...I'm in northern and we have our share of everything here too...but rude is rude. I hope you don't judge all Californians by that group. shame on them for making us all look bad.

    I remember that we all can have a bad day but I sure try to leave folks alone if I do :). I think people should just treat each other how they want to be treated...and the world would be a better place. :)
     
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    I can tell a good forum, when I am done for the day, I don't feel stressed or depressed. I have a lot of fun. I think "offline" clubs are like that as well, some are a good fit for me, others aren't. It's just life;)
     
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  16. Holly Saunders

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    Same here Denise...
     
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    I spend a lot of time in So Calif with family and we are all sweet, kind, loving people.
     
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    This is an upbeat forum! ... you don't feel like you've been punched in the gut when you leave..;)
     
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    Lol, so true!
     
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    I agree people here seem to play better together here. I like the kind ambiance..and who needs some of the vitriol that can happen. I am still finding my way around and having a good time.
     
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    I, too, belong to that forum, Sheldon. I go there everyday, but seldom post much. Two or three folks pretty much ruined that forum with their political ravings. I see that a few are gone now, but there still is a feeling, at least to me, that most people are up tight about posting anything for fear of getting shot down.
    The answer I got from one of the posters was, If you don't like it, go somewhere else. Yea sure, problem solved???
     
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    Yes it seemed to lose it's way Dave, shame I liked it before the admin/moderators ceased to do their job properly, and in my opinion started banning or putting off their best posters and supporting the bullies
     
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    As you know I went back there with an alias just recently because I couldn't stand to see the bullying that was going on and had to have my say. I PMd Admin twice telling him who I was and that he can ban me. He didn't for a week but then I PM'd the mod and I was banned. Those were the most stressful few days I've had in a long time.
     
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    I remember that, Chrissy. I PM'd the mod too. Got a nice answer, but nothing was solved.
     
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    I check it out almost every day, but I say very little. There are still bullies there, granted some a bit saner than others.
     
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