Do You Still Celebrate Your Birthday And Holidays Or Have These Things Become Just Another Day?

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  1. Babs Hunt

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    As I have gotten older some Holidays have become just another day to me. Halloween I mostly ignore though my children and grandkids still enjoy making a party of it. Our biggest all together as a Family Holiday celebrations are at Thanksgiving and Christmas. Birthdays used to be big Family celebrations too but as everyone has gotten older this has definitely changed and our getting together to celebrate each person's Birthday is just not happening anymore.

    Last Christmas one of my daughters and her family could not make it down from Texas and my other two daughters couldn't seem to agree on when and what to do so everything was kind of thrown together at the last minute and just wasn't the same for any of us. This Christmas my daughter and her family are living here again so I'm hoping that our celebration will be a good one again. But things are changing and awhile back there was talk of going up to Tennessee the day after Christmas and renting a cabin for the whole Family for a week. When my middle daughter discussed this with me....I told her to count us out. For one thing it would cost more than we can afford at this time, but even more than that we can't see being "cooped up" in a snow laden cabin for a week with at least 15 other people...even if they are Family. We are waiting for the everyone go together to DisneyWorld for Christmas celebration. That's not happening this year because our youngest grandchild just turned 1 and he would not really be able to enjoy this place yet.

    Anyway, as the years go by and we watch our children and grandchildren's lives get busier and busier...our used to be celebrations get smaller and fewer in number. And it's getting harder for my husband and I to do night time celebrations so sometimes we just miss those too.

    Things are definitely changing and Holidays and Birthdays and the way we used to celebrate them...are changing too. I might not want them to be becoming like just another day....but it seems for the last couple of years that is happening anyway.
     
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    Yes its a sad fact that things change for some of us
    I'm used to it now and just accept it
    As long as there is something cheerful that we have put by to entertain us, I'll be happy with that now,
    we tend to plan ahead and put things aside to look forward to :)
     
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    Yes, you do get used to those changes but some of them sure sneak up on you and throw you into a tizzy for a little while. :)
     
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    Ive always loved celebrating anything but as time marches on and kids and grandkids and I get older, seems less and less is celebrated.

    Sure we still do the biggies but it's just not the same.
     
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    Halloween is pretty much a kid's holiday, but it's not one that's celebrated much even by kids here. The past two years, we have had no children trick-or-treaters. While there are a few around, they go only to the houses of people they know, I think.

    We don't have large celebrations anymore, since there's just the two of us but we acknowledge most of the other holidays.
     
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    My adult kids and their kids love Halloween and both adults and children dress up in costumes (no scary or evil ones). They usually just trick or treat in my middle daughter's neighborhood and then go home and while the kids enjoy their candy and being with each other...the adults enjoy their treats and each other's company until they are ready to go home. Often some of their neighbors will join them too. They really enjoy their Halloween celebrations. Even though my husband and I haven't done Halloween for longer than we've been married, our kids still invite us to come join them anyway but we never do even though it's nice that they want to include us. Most of the grandkids are getting to the age where they are to big for trick or treating but I can see them just turning that into a party at their homes.They started their own traditions at Halloween for their families and it's good that they find ways to be together and all enjoy each other.

    I'm finding that I like quieter and earlier in the day celebrations whether they are Birthday or Holiday gatherings as I age. I also like the celebrations to be shorter too but no one gets offended when I am ready to go home and they are still in celebration mode. I'm just not much of a party girl anymore but I do still like to spend time with my Family as often as I can. And I still like to send both my children and grandkids Birthday cards, etc. in the mail.

    Holiday and Birthday celebrations are definitely changing in our Family but change seems to be what life is really all about. :)
     
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    We don't celebrate halloween because like Ken said...around here it's just for kids...

    I've never been a party person...I'll definitely go out to a pub or club, but I feel trapped at a house party so I've always been the first to leave those, so nothings changed there...well it has actually..I don't go to house parties any more...nor clubs either ...

    We still celebrate Christmas and birthdays...quietly, no big parties but gifts yes... and often as there's just the 2 of us (my daughter lives abroad) and we have no grandchildren, we'll take a trip to Italy, Spain or Greece for Christmas, or Easter.. but yes definitely my enthusiasm for anything energetic is beginning to wane...
     
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    Spare a thought for the copier .
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    I guess I only celebrate waking up each day, [​IMG] ,..... but yes Birthdays and Christmas celebrations are fading fast, we go away somewhere for Lisa's birthday, but I try and forget mine these days. I will be in Russia on December 25th, which is a normal working day here, their Christmas day is celebrated on January 7th.... when I will be back home..
     
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    Funny, but we just brought our Halloween inside and outside décor out of our garage. We don't have a lot, but do have some. And, as most of you know, we do have Halloween costumes and try to go to one party at a restaurant. We definitely spent some money on my Darth Vader costume, including alternations for the costume and a new Lightsaber. Had to get wife a new Female Stormtrooper costume a few months ago. The other one got to tight and some of the seams were coming apart, so got her a size bigger and it looks perfect on her.

    As far as Valentines Day, birthdays and Christmas, yep, still celebrate them. Not with candy, but flowers (Valentines Day and her birthday), dinner out, Christmas tree up w/other inside/outside décor. Can't help it, wife loves holiday décor and celebrating (to some extent). Actually, I think as we both get older, the décor will become less and less. We do miss the family get-togethers, but we can't financially go to where they are and they don't want to spend out the money to come and see us. So, that's that.
     
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    Basically just another day.We missed getting to celebrate our 25th anniversary last year.Because of his job. I was furious as had planned to something for a year and was even on the calendar all year long. So after that,kinda deflated me.
    My youngest daughter and her boyfreind and youngest usually come over at Christmas. None of us feel the need for all the foods. Keep it simple nowdays.
     
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    My decorations have gotten less each year too but on Christmas I always want the lights up on our porch along with the Nativity scene that fits over a window and a cheery wreath on our door. Inside I mainly do the Nativity set, some greenery garlands, and a few red candles. This year our evergreen outdoor tree is big enough to put lights on too. :)
     
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    We have an entire village of buildings and other things that fills our dining room table. May put that up this year. Thing is, when it's only a neighbor or two that will invite in to see the table, and other inside décor, it started to feel useless and too much work to set the whole thing up. But, if wife wants to set up the village, the Queen gets what she wants.:D
     
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    When we raising our family we had all that but as our children married and had their own families I let them pick the decorations they wanted for their homes. Now I enjoy seeing our decorations often in their homes during the Holidays and I don't have to take care of all that stuff anymore. :)
     
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    Mostly just another day, birthdays. My wife still sends out birthday cards to grandkids and great grandkids. We no longer decorate on Christmas. The only concession I guess we make is at Christmas some of us try to get together. Everything started changing when after War 2 everybody started moving away, seeking jobs and the good life until here we are.
     
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    Everybody moving away does put quite a damper on getting together for Holidays, etc. It gets more expensive every year to travel...but it's also true that I'm just getting to tired to travel very far these days too.

    While my excitement for Holiday and Birthday celebrations is fading as I age...being able to spend a little time with my kids and grandkids....and siblings still is the most important thing in life to me besides my faith.
     
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    No holidays growing up much and my own birthday has bad memories.

    I don't celebrate anything and don't like all the creepy Halloween stuff. I do like the Christmas craft fair and hope to go this year. I worked all three days it was running last year.
     
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    Oh yes, I celebrate every holiday that comes along because it usually means presents and I love presents! At this point in my life, I have everything that I could possibly want so now presents means gift cards so I can buy more E books.

    I decorate the outside of our place for nearly every occasion . Right now it's Autumn decor. Later this month I'll add Halloween decor nothing very scary, just keeping in the theme. We hand out candy to all the trick-or-treat kids and really enjoy their enthusiasm and wild costumes. Next day all the Autumn decorations come down and and I start putting up Winter decor. On mild days in November, I start putting up Christmas lights before the snow flies. I don't do ladders except the first two rungs; too unsteady now, and I don't turn on the lights until December 10.
     
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    Glad to see someone else get "into" the décor thing, like we do.

    For the 21 years I was single (divorced), I didn't celebrate much of anything. My birthday was "just another day". However, for one Square Dance Halloween Party in the early 90's, I dressed up as a Western Sheriff. I borrowed a real Western gun belt/holster from a friend and bought a toy gun to go into the holster. Could barely see the top of the toy gun, because the holster was made for a real 45 Western 6-shooter. Had a plastic Sheriff's badge I wore. It was pretty cool back then, but that was the only time in 21 years that I dressed up.

    Christmas tree and other décor just wasn't my thing for those 21 years.

    After meeting my wife, all of that "I didn't celebrate stuff" definitely changed.
     
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    When the had kids at home, we decorated for holidays, especially for Christmas; but now, there seems not to really be any reason to do that, and it is just time and money spent on something that then has to be taken back down once the holiday is over.
    We do put up Christmas lights because both Bobby and I love the colorful flashing lights, and we have one of these foot-tall fiber-optic Christmas trees and we enjoy watching that changeing colors as it goes through its cycle. I would actually leave it up in the bedroom year around just to see the colors; but Bobby said it might not be safe to just leave it on all night; so we just use it in the evenings when we are there to look at it.
    We do usually go have lunch somewhere for our birthday; but other than that, we don’t celebrate it anymore. Golden Corral sends out an ecoupon for a free meal on your birthday, so we can go twice, and only have to pay for one meal each time.
     
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    A couple of years ago, we decided to buy a 3-section, 7 foot, lighted fake tree. When lite up and decorated with Christmas balls and Tinsel, it's beautiful!

    Funny, how today, people can actually hire a company to put up all their outside Christmas décor and even inside, if they chose to do so. There sure is some expensive and extravagant outside Christmas décor today. Some folks even go "above and beyond" with the inside décor as well.
     
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    For years I refused to put up Christmas lights because they used so much power and I thought they were too big and gaudy. When LED lights came on the scene I started decorating with them. The stings of lights are inexpensive, use very little power, and don't get hot.

    I don't climb ladders anymore at my age so the lights go at the "beltline" of our house and some a little higher across the carport and around the deck. I'm like Yvonne Smith in that I like fibre optic trees.
     
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    We moved here two years ago to be closer to our family, most of whom live about an hour away. As a result we're able to celebrate more family birthdays and holidays together. So that we can enjoy the occasion, we try and keep these celebrations simple overall.
     
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    I don't do much celebrating but I love to decorate for the holidays/seasons of Thanksgiving and Christmas as well as those throughout the year. I don't do Halloween anymore but I did a paper chain with ghosts, bats, and jack-o-lanterns for my grandbabies to hang at home. To me the holidays are just times for me to be creative.
     
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    Krogers had turkeys on sale for $.59 per lb, so I got us a small one and we put it in the freezer until next week. It used to be that we had big Thanksgiving dinners back when the kids were growing up, and there was more family. For just the two of us, it does not make much sense to go through all of that cooking and prep.
    On the other hand, going out for Thanksgiving dinner means that there are no leftovers, and it is expensive to go because it is a holiday. What we usually do is just make the basics, turkey with dressing, sweet potatoes, and will get a pie and whipped cream for dessert. All of that is pretty simple, and we can have leftover turkey for sandwiches or soups.
    We sometimes get each other gifts for Christmas, anniversaries, or birthdays, but often we do not do that either. This Saturday is our anniversary, so we might or might not go out for lunch together.
    Christmas, we will probably put up some colorful lights, and stay home out of the traffic.
     
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