Nursing Home & Senior Care Options

Ken Anderson

Ken Anderson

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We are discussing some of these options in @Marie Mallory's thread (Hospice or Hospital), and should continue to do so, but since that speaks specifically to her situation, I thought we could probably use a more generic thread to discuss these and other options more generally.

Not all of these choices will be available to everyone, since they are quite expensive and not always covered by Medicare or Medicaid.

There is also a lot of overlap among these programs, and many of them are known by other names.

Nursing Homes

Nursing homes are facilities for the residential care of older adults, senior citizens, or people with disabilities.

Skilled Nursing Facilities

Skilled nursing facilities provide 24-hour medical care and supervision for individuals with complex health needs. Services typically include medical monitoring, medication administration, rehabilitation, personal care assistance, nutritional support, and social activities.

Long-Term Care Facilities

Long-term care facilities are primarily designed for older adults who can no longer live safely or comfortably in their own homes. Many people transition to these facilities when they require more assistance than family or friends can provide.

Assisted Living Facilities

Assisted living facilities are designed for seniors who need help with daily activities but do not require constant medical care. Residents usually live in private or semi-private apartments and receive support with meals, medication management, housekeeping, and personal care.

Memory Care Facilities

Memory care units specialize in caring for individuals with Alzheimer's disease or other dementias. These facilities provide structured environments, specialized staff training, and programs designed to enhance cognitive function and safety. Memory care can be part of a larger nursing home or as a standalone facility.

Continuing Care Facilities

CCRCs provide a continuum of care, allowing residents to transition from independent living to assisted living or skilled nursing as their needs change. They offer tiered services: independent living for active seniors, assisted living for those needing daily support, and skilled nursing for complex medical care.

Hospice Facilities

Hospice facilities provide specialized care for individuals with terminal illnesses, focusing on comfort and quality of life. Hospice services can be found in various settings, including private homes, nursing homes, assisted living facilities, and hospitals, while some facilities specialize in hospice care.

Independent Senior Apartments

For seniors who are largely independent but prefer a community setting, independent senior apartments offer housing with minimal support. Residents enjoy social activities and community events while maintaining autonomy, with optional access to services if needed.

Residential/Home-Based Services

Some seniors may benefit from residential care homes or home care services. Residential care homes, also called board-and-care homes, are typically small facilities that provide personal care, meals, and supervision without extensive medical services. Home care services allow seniors to remain in their own homes while receiving visits from nurses or caregivers for health monitoring and assistance with daily tasks.
 
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The last time I was home, an aunt and uncle, as well as two first cousins (brothers), were in the same nursing home. I won't name it because I am going to say both good and bad things about it.

My first impression was that it was kind of a run-down place because it's been there a long time and has that look. However, my aunt and uncle had their own room, although my uncle died a couple of days after I visited with him. The staff seemed caring and kind, and, best of all, it was close enough that relatives could easily visit them without going too far out of the way; in fact, most people probably passed by it regularly. I think if I were a resident of my hometown and found myself in need of nursing care, or a place to die, for that matter, that is what I would probably choose, rather than a more modern, fancier place that would be out of everyone's way that might otherwise want to visit.
 
One of my patients, when I was a paramedic in the Rio Grande Valley of Texas, went into what was the best nursing care facility in the area. Her insurance covered the costs, and she was happy there for a few years until it ran out. We were transferring her from this very nice facility to one of the worst ones around. The first one had taken all of her money and run her insurance up to the maximum coverage, and she was going to have to depend on whatever Medicaid could buy her for the rest of her life. She was devastated.
 
When my Hubby got out of the hospital after a 21 day stay, the doctor sent him to a nursing home for "Therapy". It was a nightmare. He left the hospital in late afternoon. They checked him in and sent him to a room. After a while, he needed to pee. We rung the bell. When somebody finally came, she said she couldn't bring him a pee cup or bedside stool because his papers were not ready. We finally managed to get him to the bathroom in his room.

Then the time came for his medicine. It was crucial that he got his medicine. They said the doctor had not written the order for his meds yet. I happened to have some of his meds from home, so I gave them to him. Hours later, nobody had even been in to even check on him. He begged me to not leave him there by himself all night. One of us stayed all night. They never did bring his meds.

The next morning, we told them he was leaving. The head manager begged us to let him stay. She was all apologetic and tried to placate me. I gave her a not very polite piece of my mind and we left.

That nursing home was closed just after that. My DIL knew somebody that knew somebody. It reopened later and they say it's a lot better now.

Hubby begged me to never let him be sent to another nursing home. I promised him that as long as I was able to look after him, he would not. I kept that promise as long as he lived.
 
Mumsy is in an assisted living facility with additional care options. I do not have access to her contract. MIL has been in a skilled facility for almost five years. Please take a deep breath 18k/month.
 
My grandmother was in an ACLF for a while before she had to move to a nursing home.

That was an Adult Congregate Living Facility, a 4-bedroom home that had been converted into 4 double-occupancy rooms for 8 ladies.

They had a living room with couches and chairs and a TV. Meals were served to them in the dining room. They were mad for Bingo and card games and played every night. They also had a nice fenced-in (read "secure") patio.

There was a nurse and aide during the day for bathing, medicine, etc. and an aide at night.

The doctor came on visits, as did a lady who did nails and one to do hair.

It was a lot cheaper than a full-service facility and "homier".
 
I worked as a paramedic in the Rio Grande Valley, where there were some pretty horrible nursing homes and at least one very good one. In the bad ones, the RNs and the LVNs employed by the nursing home were nurses who had probably hoped for a more illustrious career, but were perhaps the bottom of the barrel. The nurses would congregate at the nurses' station, rarely interacting with patients, while the real work was done by people with very little training.

In my experience, the best way to ensure that your loved one receives adequate care is to be involved. Patients with family members checking in on them regularly received better care. True, it shouldn't be that way, but it is, or can be. Keep in mind, also, that not all nursing homes are equal, and not everyone employed by a nursing home is lazy, incompetent, or uncaring. Some of them can be relatively pleasant places, and, even in the bad facilities, there are probably some good employees. In any of them, your loved one will be treated better if you visit, ask questions, and get to know the staff.

Too often, the adult children will arrange for their parents to be cared for in a nursing home, visit a few times, and then go on with their lives. Not only do nursing home patients want to retain a connection with their loved ones on the outside, usually, but they will receive better care when people do visit.
 
My mother had dementia. She had long-term care insurance only because a friend mentioned getting such a policy some years earlier, so my mother bought one. It ended up being a fortuitous purchase.

She was in what was supposed to be one of the nicest assisted living facilities in northern Virginia (outside of DC.) One of my sisters worked for the government and had tons of leave, so she stayed with my mother for a period of time. My mother shared a room with another inmate. One day the orderly came in, walked up to my mother's roommate with a tray of pills, and said "Time for your medication, Mrs. Brunner." Had my sister not been there, the roommate would have taken my mother's meds...and one assumes my mother would have been given her roommate's meds. And this was a highly-rated facility.

Before she went into the assisted living facility she was in Fairfax Hospital for a little while (a well-respected facility.) Early on the doctors thought that her anti-depressant (Zypresa) may have been causing her issues, so they were weaning her off. Again, my sister was hanging out with our mother. A nurse came in with my mother's meds and my sister spotted an unfamiliar-looking pill. It was Zypresa, but rather than 0.5mg they were cutting her back to, it was a 5.0mg pill...10x the strength she was prescribed, and the med suspected of being the problem. And this was at northern Virginia's premier hospital.

So things happen at even the best of places, and without someone there all the time, there is no way of knowing if someone is declining or if there's other causes. A nice facade does not tell the entire story, although a dump is always a dump.

To finish the saga: Our mother would not stay put in that assisted living facility and sort of bonded with one of the workers (a woman from the Bahamas.) Our mother offered her enough money plus room & board to live at home with our mother as a dedicated caretaker. The Long Term Care insurance covered a large portion--if not all--of the cost, and the caretaker paid no rent. The caretaker lived there for 2 years until our mother passed. It was kind of an odd situation, because the caretaker did not drive and had no car. She was content to just "be there," getting weekly rides to the grocery store from our family. I guess she saved up a bunch of money, and went back to the Bahamas after our mother passed. It was the best solution we could have hoped for.
 
John Brunner said:
My mother had dementia. She had long-term care insurance only because a friend mentioned getting such a policy some years earlier, so my mother bought one. It ended up being a fortuitous purchase.

She was in what was supposed to be one of the nicest assisted living facilities in northern Virginia (outside of DC.) One of my sisters worked for the government and had tons of leave, so she stayed with my mother for a period of time. My mother shared a room with another inmate. One day the orderly came in, walked up to my mother's roommate with a tray of pills, and said "Time for your medication, Mrs. Brunner." Had my sister not been there, the roommate would have taken my mother's meds...and one assumes my mother would have been given her roommate's meds. And this was a highly-rated facility.

Before she went into the assisted living facility she was in Fairfax Hospital for a little while (a well-respected facility.) Early on the doctors thought that her anti-depressant (Zypresa) may have been causing her issues, so they were weaning her off. Again, my sister was hanging out with our mother. A nurse came in with my mother's meds and my sister spotted an unfamiliar-looking pill. It was Zypresa, but rather than 0.5mg they were cutting her back to, it was a 5.0mg pill...10x the strength she was prescribed, and the med suspected of being the problem. And this was at northern Virginia's premier hospital.

So things happen at even the best of places, and without someone there all the time, there is no way of knowing if someone is declining or if there's other causes. A nice facade does not tell the entire story, although a dump is always a dump.

To finish the saga: Our mother would not stay put in that assisted living facility and sort of bonded with one of the workers (a woman from the Bahamas.) Our mother offered her enough money plus room & board to live at home with our mother as a dedicated caretaker. The Long Term Care insurance covered a large portion--if not all--of the cost, and the caretaker paid no rent. The caretaker lived there for 2 years until our mother passed. It was kind of an odd situation, because the caretaker did not drive and had no car. She was content to just "be there," getting weekly rides to the grocery store from our family. I guess she saved up a bunch of money, and went back to the Bahamas after our mother passed. It was the best solution we could have hoped for.
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I saw a number of cases very similar when I was on the safety committee of acute care hospitals. It happens a lot. Nurses make a LOT of errors, in part due to poor training or lack thereof, and partly because so many demands are made on decreased numbers of employees. Pharmacies make very few errors, but I witnessed a serious one in a pediatric intensive care unit. The pharmacist had made an IV solution with 10x the amount of potassium in it that was intended and nearly killed a child. All healthcare facilities are dangerous places.
 
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