Krystal Shay
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That is true. I "think" once they went into hospice care, we could no longer call the doctor for anything. The hospice nurse would call in the pain prescription and then handled everything else at the end.
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Marie Miller
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All of that will be discussed with your assigned social worker. Jake will take on as much as he can until he cannot anymore.
Have you considered fried chicken?
Do you have will, living will and medical/financial PoA in order for Jake and you and have you assigned secondary responsible parties?
Beth Gallagher
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Marie--let's hope that you don't need to consider hospice for a long time. That said, if you decide to not have curative treatment for your cancer, you have the option of palliative care. Many people get palliative care and hospice confused, but they are not the same.
Palliative care focuses on making a patient as comfortable as possible with treatment that does not have harsh side effects and can also be used along with curative treatment. Many people with advanced-stage diseases will choose palliative care.
As far as I know, both palliative care and hospice are covered by Medicare. Many people choose in-home care either way.
Krystal Shay
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What You Talkin Bout' Willis?
Marie Mallory
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Marie, are you taking your meds? Don't make me give you a verbal attitude adjustment.
Marie Miller
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Do Jake and Marie have their affairs in airtight order including secondary responsible parties? Small stuff can make a big difference when you do not have time for it.What You Talkin Bout' Willis?
After seeing what can happen we went through setting up a trust. It takes out the middleman aka probate. Attorney and local rescue get paid in annual increments to take care of our cat and verify that care.
Fried chicken? Cut down on work!
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Sheryl McConnell
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One day at a time, grateful on days I wake up. I have been at death's door twice and I can't say in my case it was
painful, almost serene actually. I sure am not yet ready to want it to be final though.
painful, almost serene actually. I sure am not yet ready to want it to be final though.
Marie Miller
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My spouse may get to discuss things with me and that in private.
Krystal Shay
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I understood the first part of what you said. The fried chicken part confused me.
Go buy some fried chicken?
Marie Mallory
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I think she is recommending cremation, nor sure but knowing her....I understood the first part of what you said. The fried chicken part confused me.
Marie Miller
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No, eat the chicken instead having to worry about who will feed it.
I think maybe God gives us a lot of pain and other problems when we get older, so that we can see something positive about dying. No, I'm not there yet but I'm close enough to see it with binoculars.
Mary Stetler
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Yes. A couple of my friends asked me why I thought they had to suffer so much through their lives. I had thought about it before. How much sweeter would death be to be totally free of pain, all of a sudden.
Don Alaska
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You are not ready for hospice @Marie Mallory. You still have lots of life to live if they get the pain under control. To enter a REAL hospice, not an LA hospice, you have to have a prognosis of 6 months or less to live and you seem to be very far from that. It is a good thing if all remedies (that you want to endure) are done and you have that prognosis, but you are a long way, perhaps years, away from that.
Marie Mallory
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Makes sense.
Marie Mallory
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Don you could be right and who knows whats going to happen this early in the game.
Marie Mallory
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Will you be able to hear him? You seem tired up with my problems now.
On the other hand, thanks for the distraction. 
Marie Miller
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I hear him well and clear and he is aware of occasional hearing issues.Will you be able to hear him? You seem tired up with my problems now.
On the other hand, thanks for the distraction. 
Not tired Marie but rather confused, kind of frustrated and not understanding.I am used to having to deal with things from house building to major medical issues to surviving in Corporate America often by myself as SO travelled extensively as in weeks and months and limited communication until a couple of weeks ago. So my approach is totally different. Call it cold. Fine. A spreadsheet has saved my world more often than I like to admit.
Faye Fox
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I simplify don't understand all this discussion about hospice and such in Marie's case. I think some of y'all must have stock in funeral homes and/or crematories.
I have yet to know anyone that can read a biopsy report before it is even done or know what a PET scan will reveal. The topic is death and dying, but so far there is no concrete evidence that Marie is going to be the first to become a silent keyboard here on SOC.
No one knows who will log out first and final here on SOC, and in light of our ages and that many of us have seen younger seniors die, I think while making reasonable plans for our final days is good, it shouldn't be hastened with imagining our diseases are going to be fatal, until we know that for fact.
Statistics show that nearly all women will get breast cancer by age 100 and men will get prostate cancer by age 100. The thing to consider is that several here have already been through those cancers and are still with us. If those cancers strike again when we are in our 90s, many will choose to die without treatment, other than for pain, knowing that time is short anyway.
I have yet to know anyone that can read a biopsy report before it is even done or know what a PET scan will reveal. The topic is death and dying, but so far there is no concrete evidence that Marie is going to be the first to become a silent keyboard here on SOC.
No one knows who will log out first and final here on SOC, and in light of our ages and that many of us have seen younger seniors die, I think while making reasonable plans for our final days is good, it shouldn't be hastened with imagining our diseases are going to be fatal, until we know that for fact.
Statistics show that nearly all women will get breast cancer by age 100 and men will get prostate cancer by age 100. The thing to consider is that several here have already been through those cancers and are still with us. If those cancers strike again when we are in our 90s, many will choose to die without treatment, other than for pain, knowing that time is short anyway.
Marie Mallory
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Faye, I was an innocent bystander, the doctors first in er, then later oncologest, were the doomers, I was just sitting there minding my own bizwax, they started the gloom and doom crap.
Now I'm just playing it b y ear, Que Sera Sera.