Had a call today at 3 pm; about our granddaughter, had o/d off fentanyl

[Yvonne Smith]

That is sad, but no reason to leave facebook, at least in my opinion. I enjoy keeping up with my friends and family on facebook, and sharing pictures of what is happening in our lives. I only follow people who are in my family, but have others that I read and check on and just don’t follow.
Plus, some of the friends from here, which is good if the forum goes down, they are easier to contact again.

 

[Beth Gallagher]

Jake just pitched a FakeBook fit and deleted his account. Not one of his 3 brothers or his sister gave condolence's about Dejah.Our SIL did but not her husband. His sister never has had much to do with most of the family so no expectations from her, but his brothers?
No nieces or nephews ,just my side of the family. He is really upset with the assholes now.

I'm sure Jake is probably more hurt than angry. That's a shame, but people just aren't as thoughtful as they used to be.

 

[Marie Mallory]

I'm sure Jake is probably more hurt than angry. That's a shame, but people just aren't as thoughtful as they used to be.

Yes he is hurt and mad too.

 

[Marie Mallory]

That is sad, but no reason to leave facebook, at least in my opinion. I enjoy keeping up with my friends and family on facebook, and sharing pictures of what is happening in our lives. I only follow people who are in my family, but have others that I read and check on and just don’t follow.
Plus, some of the friends from here, which is good if the forum goes down, they are easier to contact again.

He is really mad at them. Mine do the same thing at times, but not usually something as important as this.

 

[Shirley Martin]

Maybe it's because they don't know what to say. She apparently led a troubled life, causing heartache for the people who loved her.

 

[Marie Mallory]

Maybe it's because they don't know what to say. She apparently led a troubled life, causing heartache for the people who loved her.

Shirly many cause heartache for loved ones in many different ways, and I do understand she brought it on herself but we still loved the person she was before the drugs took over.

 

[Yvonne Smith]

Maybe it's because they don't know what to say. She apparently led a troubled life, causing heartache for the people who loved her.

I am not sure that Marie and Jake said that she was trying to overdose; so it might have been accidental. I had a wonderful friend that lost her life to drugs, but it was accidental.
Jennifer had terrible back pain and the doctors gave her medication, and then when she was not able to get the pain medicine , she started using street drugs, which caused her to lose her husband and children, and totally broke her heart.

She went through several programs, and then was in NA for a couple years, and was doing much better. One night she must have had a relapse, and tried to self-medicate, and probaby got something that had fentanyl or one of those really bad street drugs, and it killed her.
She didn’t want to die.
She loved her children more than anything and wanted to be clean, so she could have them in her life again.
But apparently, the pain overwhelmed her, and she turned to the only medication she could get and lost her life because of that.

In any case, I can see how Jake and Marie are hurt from the family not expressing any condolences or prayers for the loss of their granddaughter, no matter what happened .

 

[Shirley Martin]

I understand. My sister's granddaughter died from an overdose. Of course, she loved her, but it was awkward for the rest of us. What to say in a case like that? What can you say?

 

[Beth Gallagher]

One of my best friends lost her granddaughter to drugs recently, too. Only this was a horror of a story. Her granddaughter Carly had been out at a party and was riding home in the early morning hours with a friend. She began "freaking out" in the car so the friend pulled over to the side of the road. Carly got out of the car and was walking wildly around, behaving erratically. The friend was trying desperately to get Carly back into the car.

Finally Carly sat down in the middle of the road. A man driving a pickup truck came around the corner at highway speed on his way to work and hit her; she died instantly. So not only was a young life taken, but a poor man just going about his business has now killed a person. I'm sure he will carry that weight for the rest of his life. Carly was so damaged they would not allow her mother to see her body. Drugs are evil.

 

[Beth Gallagher]

I understand. My sister's granddaughter died from an overdose. Of course, she loved her, but it was awkward for the rest of us. What to say in a case like that? What can you say?

How about "I'm so sorry for your loss. Is there anything at all I can do?" Wouldn't you have anything kind to say to your sister?

 

[Marie Mallory]

I am not sure that Marie and Jake said that she was trying to overdose; so it might have been accidental. I had a wonderful friend that lost her life to drugs, but it was accidental.
Jennifer had terrible back pain and the doctors gave her medication, and then when she was not able to get the pain medicine , she started using street drugs, which caused her to lose her husband and children, and totally broke her heart.

She went through several programs, and then was in NA for a couple years, and was doing much better. One night she must have had a relapse, and tried to self-medicate, and probaby got something that had fentanyl or one of those really bad street drugs, and it killed her.
She didn’t want to die.
She loved her children more than anything and wanted to be clean, so she could have them in her life again.
But apparently, the pain overwhelmed her, and she turned to the only medication she could get and lost her life because of that.

In any case, I can see how Jake and Marie are hurt from the family not expressing any condolences or prayers for the loss of their granddaughter, no matter what happened .

I can sure understand how pain can make someone do things, Just as simple as a pulled muscle has made me miserable for months now like I said before after nonstop misery I was thinking of buying drugs, not long but it did occur to me, don't know how I'd find a pusher though. So far now the Tylenol eases it enough to handle.
Sorry about your friend Yvonne.

 

[Marie Mallory]

One of my best friends lost her granddaughter to drugs recently, too. Only this was a horror of a story. Her granddaughter Carly had been out at a party and was riding home in the early morning hours with a friend. She began "freaking out" in the car so the friend pulled over to the side of the road. Carly got out of the car and was walking wildly around, behaving erratically. The friend was trying desperately to get Carly back into the car.

Finally Carly sat down in the middle of the road. A man driving a pickup truck came around the corner at highway speed on his way to work and hit her; she died instantly. So not only was a young life taken, but a poor man just going about his business has now killed a person. I'm sure he will carry that weight for the rest of his life. Carly was so damaged they would not allow her mother to see her body. Drugs are evil.

Oh my, how tragic, as you said, the poor man and a shame what drugs do to the young now and even the old sometimes.

 

[Yvonne Smith]

I think that these are maybe one of the worst kinds of losses for family members. They have been worrying about the person who is doing the drugs and damaging themselves, maybe for years, and never knowing when or if the person might overdose, or end up in the hospital from bad drugs.

Back when I was married to my first husband and he was on all kinds of drugs, life for me, our children, and his mom and dad , was horrible all the time.
Drugs make people do crazy things.
You never know how the person is going to be, or if they will come back home at all when they disappear.

The family of a drug addict is already in terrible pain and fear for the person doing the drugs, way before they have an overdose, so they are already at the end of their rope when the overdose happens and they lose their loved one forever.
They need our love and care , no matter what the situation was that caused the overdose for the addict.

 

[Kate Ellery]

I recently seen one of my Granddaughters after no contact for about 5 years , I knew she’d got involved in ice think it’s called
She was a pretty girl in my opinion her mother ( my daughter ) married a Vietnamese
She rang me out of the blue about 3 months ago ,asking for photos of when she was young and if we still had videos of the Christmas’s we’d spent at a huge seaside caravan park in Adelaide ..about 30 km from where we lived .
We did …..so we arranged to meet her in Adelaide …..(in a suburb ) in a day we was travelling down for just the day , she said OK nanna I only live 5 mins from where we’d arranged to meet where I was getting my hair cut …..she didn’t turn up ….and she’s got such an attitude…..haven’t had a shower ..yet …wanted us to wait 2 hours …more ….for her to have a shower ….when she phoned again …we arranged to meet elsewhere ….to pick up photos / video …. She didn’t appear to be under the influence of any drugs ….but still had not ….had a shower hours after our first arranged meeting time ….she wasn’t dirty ….just untidy not like Taylah at all …no make up …omg she used to use heaps of make up ..no intrested in working ..she was a good worker ….shes 31 in July ….no kids thank goodness ….

I’m cautious in posting photos ….as I know some take photos off forums to find out out names info ( not anyone on this forum )
it happened to me ….

 

[Kate Ellery]

Meant to add Taylah said she no longer touches drugs , but she seemed like some of the clients I worked with in my working days that were unmotivated due to being in some sort of antidepressant medication that sadly had that side effect on some clients

 

[Marie Mallory]

@Yvonne Smith , @Beth Gallagher Daughter just called to tell us she is at Dejahs grave and a storm blew the flowers down.No other flowers were on the rest were still in plce.
She said our flowers and the casket lay was over her grave, ours was laid down over it like a protection of some kind.
Jake will put up picture.

 

[Marie Mallory]

Also a light from sun and orb was pointing down on her grave.

 

[Jake Smith]

@Yvonne Smith , @Beth Gallagher Daughter just called to tell us she is at Dejahs grave and a storm blew the flowers down.No other flowers were on the rest were still in plce.
She said our flowers and the casket lay was over her grave, ours was laid down over it like a protection of some kind.
Jake will put up picture.

Two photos.

 

[Jake Smith]

Also a light from sun and orb was pointing down on her grave.

Look how the Sun made a cross.

 

[Marie Mallory]

Meant to add Taylah said she no longer touches drugs , but she seemed like some of the clients I worked with in my working days that were unmotivated due to being in some sort of antidepressant medication that sadly had that side effect on some clients

Drugs do have side effects some worse than what they claim to treat, Although used right, they can save lives.