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Marie Mallory

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I was talking to my youngest daughter today who is 55. My oldest who is 57 was brought up about how she thinks she was not treated as well by me as her younger sister.
I tell stories to them and other family how rumbustious the older was and she takes it as though I'm saying the younger was a better kid.
The younger had eczema so I had to spend more time caring for her and she was also a less adventurous child. So oldest daughter says, " yea she was the perfect one, I was the bad one ". :rolleyes:
Does sibling rivalry ever stop?
 
We are a blended family with 5 kids (2 mine, 3 his) so there were some occasional jealous/hurt feelings over the years. Now that everyone is grown with kids of their own (and 2 of them have stepchildren), they all seem to know that we did the best we could.

We will see all of them for the holidays except for my oldest son, Brian. He lives in Oregon and won't make it home. I talked to him last night and he said he's having trouble with his crazy ex. He got home a few nights ago and she was outside his apartment, yelling at his roommate. I hate it when one of my children has to deal with crazy. I wish he would move back to Texas so I could be all up in his business. 😬
 
Beth Gallagher said:
We are a blended family with 5 kids (2 mine, 3 his) so there were some occasional jealous/hurt feelings over the years. Now that everyone is grown with kids of their own (and 2 of them have stepchildren), they all seem to know that we did the best we could.

We will see all of them for the holidays except for my oldest son, Brian. He lives in Oregon and won't make it home. I talked to him last night and he said he's having trouble with his crazy ex. He got home a few nights ago and she was outside his apartment, yelling at his roommate. I hate it when one of my children has to deal with crazy. I wish he would move back to Texas so I could be all up in his business. 😬
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Jake never had kids but he got 3 to help raise with me. They were 6,7 and 8, oldest one going on 9 when we met. My first husband had lots of kids, several while we were married, a real piece of bad work, but he made me strong [ what doesn't kill, makes you stronger ] . He had 6 kids during our marriage, I had 3.
 
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@Marie Mallory - by the time they reach That age - they can get over it! parenthood does not come with a manual.
I have 2 girls - one 58 the the other 55. Mark has one daughter 38. All are single. Each one has their own set of issues, but finally nothing real bad. I hear tell my oldest use to complain to all about how I was this and that... she had four-and suddenly her tune changed :D One is the Misfit,youngest is the Drama Queen, and His Miss Bossy - um military person;)
 
Hedi Mitchell said:
@Marie Mallory - by the time they reach That age - they can get over it! parenthood does not come with a manual.
I have 2 girls - one 58 the the other 55. Mark has one daughter 38. All are single. Each one has their own set of issues, but finally nothing real bad. I hear tell my oldest use to complain to all about how I was this and that... she had four-and suddenly her tune changed :D One is the Misfit,youngest is the Drama Queen, and His Miss Bossy - um military person;)
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Mine are 54 and 56 too soon to be 55,57, son is 54. They have 15 grandkids. Which they are raising 6 of them.
 
I make my kids crazy. I stay the mom even though they are grown so I tell them what they should do even if they want to do their own thing.
That is unnntilllll they want input.
My grand kids make ME crazy. I think they only appreciate me for the gift checks they get. One has always been a drama queen (22) and the other is kind of sneaky.(20)
 
I'll do a little "grandma bragging." Y'all might remember that my 17-year old grandson joined the Marines last year after graduating early from high school. He has been in for almost a year and turned 18 a couple of months ago. He was promoted to Corporal in December but the ceremony was held this week.

My daughter sent a video clip of the ceremony held in California and I could watch from my recliner in Houston. That's my boy!
 
Beth Gallagher said:
I'll do a little "grandma bragging." Y'all might remember that my 17-year old grandson joined the Marines last year after graduating early from high school. He has been in for almost a year and turned 18 a couple of months ago. He was promoted to Corporal in December but the ceremony was held this week.

My daughter sent a video clip of the ceremony held in California and I could watch from my recliner in Houston. That's my boy!
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My son joined the Navy during Iraq War but not for the war but for a higher education.
He did very well and landed a good job when he got out, although it meant world travel, he is now semi-retired. Has been to most of the worlds nations.
 
I talked to the oldest daughter an hour ago for a while on the phone, she is raising 2 of her grandchildren. One will graduate next year from HS. Other one is 13 almost 14, both doing real good.
Their mother got 10 years in prison for armed robbery, it wasn't exactly like that, she knew the girl most of her life and the girl took drugs from her so she pointed a gun at her.
She will get out next year when she is 36.
2 of 13 decided they would try to ruin their lives.
 
My youngest son called me yesterday evening. He wanted my shrimp gumbo recipe and we talked for a long time. He has a new job and he sounds so happy now. After he got laid off from his previous job he was really struggling with anxiety and his self-esteem took a hit, so I'm very happy that his life is back on track. We just never stop worrying about our 'kids'.

He told me that my grandson's fiance is shopping for a wedding dress so I guess there will be a Big Event sometime this year. No date set yet.

My husband is on the phone with another son right now. This is the middle son and when he calls, you'd best have snacks and a comfortable chair... he literally talks for HOURS. They will stay on that phone until I can't imagine what on earth they have to discuss for that long; it's kind of a family joke at this point. Everyone knows that when Cade is calling, it's time to settle in and use the speaker to give your ear a break.
 
We have 6 kids, 18 grands and 1 great grand. One granddaughter is married and in the Marines at Pendleton, so maybe our grandchildren know each other @Beth Gallagher. Granddaughter is a corporal in Intelligence and her husband is a sergeant in a mechanized battalion. Would your grandson be near either of those? The only drama in the family is between the twin boys. Their wives are both a bit mental, and one wife will not speak to the other so the guys can't communicate either. #2 son was the only one (and his family) that were missing form the wife's birthday party and they are the second closet to us. They don't talk with us either because we remain in contact with son #1, his identical twin brother.
 
Don Alaska said:
We have 6 kids, 18 grands and 1 great grand. One granddaughter is married and in the Marines at Pendleton, so maybe our grandchildren know each other @Beth Gallagher. Granddaughter is a corporal in Intelligence and her husband is a sergeant in a mechanized battalion. Would your grandson be near either of those? The only drama in the family is between the twin boys. Their wives are both a bit mental, and one wife will not speak to the other so the guys can't communicate either. #2 son was the only one (and his family) that were missing form the wife's birthday party and they are the second closet to us. They don't talk with us either because we remain in contact with son #1, his identical twin brother.
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I don't know exactly where my grandson is other than Pendleton, Don. It's a big place but I'm sure they might possibly know each other.
 
Yvonne Smith said:
One never knows about those things. My stepdaughter lives in Palmer Alaska, which I think is not that far from where @Don Alaska is located, and it would be a big surprise to find out that they happen to know each other.
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I don't know a lot of people in Palmer, but my socializing wife knows a lot. We don't go there often but if you want to set up a meeting @Yvonne Smith perhaps we could work something out. I think @Joe Riley said his son lives in Talkeetna. We were there last week as it is the favorite town in Alaska for my #3 son. There may be others here who have children here, or have visited here. I know @Axel Slingerland said it was his Cindy's dream trip. Not many, even those who live in Alaska have seen much of the state as there are no roads over 3/4 of the state and most of the Southeast is accessible mostly by water. That is where most of the cruises go.

I just thought that is if our grandchildren were in the same areas, they might know each other as they are similar rank.
 
Marie Mallory said:
I was talking to my youngest daughter today who is 55. My oldest who is 57 was brought up about how she thinks she was not treated as well by me as her younger sister.
I tell stories to them and other family how rumbustious the older was and she takes it as though I'm saying the younger was a better kid.
The younger had eczema so I had to spend more time caring for her and she was also a less adventurous child. So oldest daughter says, " yea she was the perfect one, I was the bad one ". :rolleyes:
Does sibling rivalry ever stop?
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My youngest is in his 50's, and he
got along with his sisters, as well as anyone could ask.
However, his two older sisters could never get along with each other.
But if either girl ran into into trouble, the other girl was the first one to protect her.
They get along great these days, but maybe it is because they live in different states!
 
My parents dealt with Sibling Rivalry in a quite logical way. When that failed, my Dad sat my two combative older Sisters down and shut them both up. Our dog Boots was sitting between them. My Sisters were sitting there getting read the riot act over all the truly petty squabbling, and my Dad said "One of you is the perfect daughter. You never ask for anything. You meet us at the door every day and show us how much you love us, and then when I go my out to my shop, you come with me."

One of my wise cracking Sisters says "But you're talking about the Dog!"

He said "Yep. Come on, Boots," and walked out.

She knew he was happy with her and was wagging her tail like mad and ran out the door with him. 🐕 (Sorry, Boots. There's no Border Collie smiley.)
 
Sis is six years younger and we have nothing but parents in common. My parents raised us and more so me as their mini me. What they did we were part of it. Sounded for many as a perfect life but there was little chance to build a circle of peers and explore own interests. In retrospect I should have made better use of everything being offered. Instead I broke out of the circle.
 
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