Living In Assisted Living

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  1. Lon Tanner

    Lon Tanner Supreme Member
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    Yes they serve both white and red with the evening meal only. Limit two glasses. Some residents take their own wine and have the server un cork it.
    They are quick to respond to changing requirements of health officials.
     
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    I had one that stayed with me for days. A simple little song for which I couldn’t recall the name.
    A little Irish ballad I think, I finally found a title and the lyrics. It’s called “Maple On The Hill.”
     
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    The body language of man with his arms crossed: he is smiling but his crossed arms say he doesn't want to be bothered. Lon, do you know him well? Is he a bit stand offish?
     
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    I have seen him around from time to time but this was the first time I was engaged with him. I agree however, I observe a certain stand offish demeanor.
     
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    There are far less residents here now than when I first moved in 2017. There have been a few non COVID related deaths but the real problem appears to be money. Living here is great but it is expensive and the move outs have gone on to live with family or some other less expensive arrangement.
     
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    You know, that's gotta be rough to roll the dice on one's longevity and hope for the worse.

    I'd hate to see folks bleed their resources dry and be stuck that way.
     
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    True John---but every one knows before they move in what the cost will be. Each entry is asessed medically to determine care fees
     
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    So I wonder what "ability to pay" assessment is done during the application process. I gotta think that the facility does not want for either party to be in this position. They must be looking at resources, annual costs, and actuarial tables.
     
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    Most residents go through the application process with their care taker or family member. I made application with my daughter who is the emergency contact should anything happen to me. There was a initial modest entry fee and the first month rent but no discussion of future costs or ability to pay. Each residents emergency contact is kept informed on a regular basis on the status of the resident.
     
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    That really surprises me.
     
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    When I was a paramedic, I got to know a few patients who had been admitted to the one really good assisted living facility in the area only to be booted a few years later after their insurance ran out. I think sometimes these assessments are made on the basis of an anticipated lifespan that, once crossed, means that other arrangements will have to be made. The same was true for those who were patients in a good-quality nursing home, only to be transferred to something that Medicaid would pay for years later. Not everyone is able to plan their life out in the way you have, @Lon Tanner or, if they were able, not everyone had that as their priority as they were living the healthier part of their lives. Some of us may have been downright irresponsible, while others tried to strike a balance between experiencing life and enjoying it while we were healthy, and preparing for the latter part of it.

    I could have stayed in the paper industry long enough to retire with a good retirement package, or I might have opted to stay with the college, as it was rare for anyone to be fired or laid off from a state college, and that would have left me with a great retirement package, but I decided that I wanted to do something different.

    Although I'd love to have more than I have right now, I enjoyed doing different things with my life, and some of my best memories were the products of poor choices. At any rate, I have what I have, and it's too late to do anything about it now, so I may as well be satisfied. As should you, because you can live out the rest of your years in comfort.
     
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    They are leaving because, well Hell, everyones leaving California.
     
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    First glance of the photo yesterday I was of the same opinion @Shirley Martin
    stand offish I don’t want to know attitude.
     
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    And, unfortunately, they're moving to Austin, TX! The growth here is horrendous. Huge apartment complexes go up, seemingly overnight. The traffic and air gets worse, daily. Things get more expensive. A lot down the street from me had one house on it. It now has four! And on, and on, and.......
     
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    Dunno. As I have alluded to in the past, even if I had millions to spend and no matter what reasoning is used, if I was living in a place that wouldn’t allow outside contact and be pretty much trapped in a single room for an undetermined amount of time, I’d move.
    There are thousands of places to die but I like the idea of living life totally free or at least as free as my body and brain will allow.
     
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