Should Abortion Be Banned As A Discussion Topic?

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  1. Ken Anderson

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    That's the other problem with forum discussions. We often misunderstand what the other person is trying to say. Sometimes this is done because anger clouds our ability to read objectively, but there is also the problem that human communication is intended to be more than verbal, yet a forum discussion is limited to words, and they don't always communicate the message we're trying to send.

    I like to think that I'm fairly good with words, but I am often misunderstood. Sometimes, I think it's clear that what I am saying is a joke or intended as light-hearted teasing, but someone gets angry. At least one person left the forum loudly over a discussion in which I thought I had been agreeing with her. After some angry messages, I tried smoothing things out, but her anger clouded everything I had to say. At other times, the fault may be with me, in that I think I am being clear but I'm really not.

    Then there is the fact that I sometimes forget that women are incapable of rational thinking. That last part was added to illustrate what I said earlier about intending something as a joke or as light-hearted teasing, by the way.
     
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  2. Denise Happyfeet

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    I've had the privilege to talk to friends here on the phone and it is so different then reading text. And of course meeting in person is also so different to me. Forums, facebook, any social interactions online can be so difficult, goes without saying doesn't it:) But I think people can learn, and become better at it. I hope I am growing, and I take after others that are so great at posting;)
     
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    You are such a warm-hearted person, @Denise Happyfeet , and even though we have never talked on the phone together, I think that you ALWAYS express yourself well here on the forum. Probably, we all have times when we do not express ourselves quite the way that others understand us, and that is when it helps to know that the person that you are chatting with has a good mind and warm heart, and means well, even if the wording was lacking.
    Some things are just touchy subjects, and even when we are being careful, people can take us wrong, and I think that if we do decide to discuss something as volatile as abortion, we have to always be extra aware of that.
    As Ken said, it usually does not change anyone's opinion anyway, so just avoiding these kinds of topics is often the best. Even if it is included as part of the forum, we do not have to post in threads we feel could be explosive.
     
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    Oh, Ive talked to Denise on the phone. She called me on Saturday all excited about something but I was driving
    But still talked awhile.
     
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    Yes, I want to stay off here now. I just had my phone ring from a number in New Hampshire! LOL! I didn't answer though, has to be ID on there before I answer. I'm done my lunch now so ttys;)
     
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    I just block unwanted calls. After I check the number and decide I don't want them to call again I block it.
     
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    Whew! Thank goodness you put the disclaimer on the "rational thinking" part. I was about ready to saddle your horse again so you could make it through the onslaught of pitchforks and torches.

    All that said, you are indeed correct Ken about hot topic items especially when one bridges between such an array of thought processes such as personal, ethical, moral and spiritual values as abortion does.
    In agreement with my wife, if we have difficulty in an area each of us should learn to stay away from it.

    For instance, Yvonne truly enjoys playing around with conspiracies and likes to find out what others think about them. But, after a deluge of arguments between a couple of members not excluding some behind the scenes messaging that still hasn't stopped, she declines to get back into the conspiracy block.
    Now, that doesn't mean that the entire board should be expunged from the forum, only that she is hesitant about posting there.

    Personally, I am getting pretty particular about the religious board about what I write and when and who I reply to. Again, it's just a matter of choice as to where we post and the reasoning we have for posting our opinions. Yeah, opinions can be the base line for the complete destruction of a would be friendship. Although to think about it, our own opinions are like a case of gas. Generally speaking, our own definitely smells better than someone else's when in fact we might be a major cause for global warming.

    Bottom line to my reasoning is that it's easy to feel angered when it seems that there is an attack going on. Whether factual or mistaken perhaps simply staying away from items that are prone to make us more emotionally envolved than we need to be would be in order.
    Or, even though I absolutely hate using them, a better usage of the emotes might help to ease some tension if indeed there is no intent on a poster's part to intimidate another person. :)
     
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    a case of gas, I don't know something about those "natural biological body functions" always seem funny to me. Of course, not after a night of rolling around in my bed in pain;)

    Wonderful post, I agree so much with what you had to say @Bobby Cole I am working at staying away from volatile discussions (I said I'm working at it, lol). I've also found the blocking feature on my phone, email, and facebook are nice. I don't like the "ignore" feature on forums because then you don't get the "whole" discussion:)

    Have a great day!! denise
     
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