Living In A House An Ex Or Deceased Family Member Was In

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  1. Cody Fousnaugh

    Cody Fousnaugh Supreme Member
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    Have a SIL (wife's sister) who is still living in the condo that her deceased husband lived in with her. A few years before he passed, they had some serious marital problems, dealing with his health, and he moved out. She removed her wedding set, even though they never legally separated or divorced. I asked her last night, on the phone, how she feels about still living there. She told me it doesn't bother her at all, being that they were no longer close. After he passed, she went thru some things he had there, and that was emotional for her, but basically, as she says "he's gone and that's that".

    Wife and I have discussed this and both agree, that if one of us goes, the other would definitely have to move as well as get a new bed. Just the way we feel.

    So, would you stay in the house or move, due to a divorce or death of someone living in the home?
     
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    Done both no bother at all to me
     
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    Some folks would have the personality, like my SIL, that it wouldn't bother them. But, not everyone is like either of you. Actually, my SIL preferred to live alone. IOW, not that good of relationship with her husband.
     
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    "I am a marvelous housekeeper. Every time I leave a man I keep his house!" - Zsa Zsa Gabor
     
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    There's an older man in our complex, I know him, that, as he told us, his wife died in his arms in the apartment across from ours. He ended up moving out of that apartment to another one in the complex.
     
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    My husband died in the house I live in...doesn't bother me at all.
     
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    Wouldn't matter to me either, would like to move though - preferably with Fabs !
     
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    Well, some are much more sensitive to this than others. There are those that will sell their house and and/or get rid of the bed due to past memories.
     
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    Just depends on the person and the circumstance.
     
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    I would definitely stay.
     
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    I hate this house..I've always hated this house, but I divorced my first husband and stayed in this house, because I didn't want to uproot my child from her school and her friends. My intention was to move when she had finished her education , but it didn't happen because I remarried then, and this house was closest to both of our jobs, particularly my husbands' , and he likes the house.

    Since I took early retirement last year, I spend more time than ever here, and I really would love to move, but we're stuck because of hubs job, he doesn't want to travel any further than he already does, which given the long hours he works is understandable, so I'm still here.. and probably will die here... *ugh*
     
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    Sorry to hear that, Holly.

    BTW, did you see my reply to your question about wearing Western clothes to the airport and to a rodeo?
     
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    Here in Texas we used to have a law if someone died in a house and you sold it you had to state that, I am not sure if we still do so.
     
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    In Arizona, you have to disclose if the house is haunted. In California, you have disclose if a death occurred within three years of the sale. In Maine, the house will sell for more if it's haunted.
     
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    I was sort of wondering about a murder in the house, if that would have to be reported to a new buyer.

    A few years ago, we had a murder-suicide in an apartment on the other side of us. Local news was here as well as a number of law enforcement. The apartment was cleaned up and rented out again, but don't think the new tenant was informed of what happened inside.
     
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