Is Your Retirement Turning Out The Way You Dreamed It Would?

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  1. Babs Hunt

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    In our younger days many of us dreamed about retirement and how it would be for us. I know I thought about how mine would be for sure. Although some things are happening like I dreamed they would, so many other things are just total surprises to me. Some of these surprises are not ones I like either but that's life and I'm going to have to deal with them whether I like these surprises or not.

    Are you living your retirement dreams or have you had some surprises come forth that are causing you to adjust your dreams some or even have to change them completely?

    One of the positives I've been able to keep during retirement is staying close with my Family. This is something I just could not imagine living without so I'm glad this dream has stayed true. It is harder to find times to nurture that closeness now that most of my siblings live in different states but somehow we all do our best to make these times happen and I'm thankful for this. I saw myself doing a lot more traveling in retirement with my husband, but now that he is losing his vision it looks like this dream is going to have to be adjusted.

    My Honey's vision loss is throwing a big wrench in our retirement plans in many areas actually, we just haven't had much time to really think about how much because we are just trying to adjust to the vision loss itself right now. More than anything else, this change is bringing change to all our retirement dreams.
     
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  2. Chrissy Cross

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    Although I never really worked so in a way I was always retired but I did dream of when my hubby retired and spending time with him but that didn't happen...maybe one year when he was bedridden. :(
     
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    Life has a strange way of taking us down paths we just never dreamed we would go sometimes Chrissy, nor did we expect to walk those strange paths by ourselves. :(

    Are you doing anything you thought you would do when you were in senior retirement?
     
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    Except for spending time with family which I always did anyway....guess not. I had planned on traveling with my husband..now I travel alone. :(

    I am thinking of trying a short trip with some group but it's only a thought so far.

    I did have some fun with my ex traveling...forgot about that. Besides all the trips we did for our job we also took a few trips together...went to Maui with him, also napa valley, Yosemite, Tahoe and a maybe a few more short trips.

    I like walking down cute main streets...doesn't matter where as long as I'm not alone.
     
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    Where are you thinking of going on this short trip with a group @Chrissy Cross?
     
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    I don't know yet. It's in the thinking about it phase so far. I know that there's a 55+ club connected with St Agnes hospital and they do trips, etc.

    When I volunteered at the hospital I was thinking of joining that group also but back then I was neeed more for watching my grandsons so time was always an issue.

    I have to look into again. First time I'd do a short trip nearby just to see how I like it.
     
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    When we moved to this retirement apartment, I thought we would be 'so' happy here
    We have to make the best of it we can though, as we are stuck
     
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    It seems like you have a beautiful nature that does choose to make the best of things @Patsy Faye and so I pray that our heavenly Father will bring change to your retirement apartment that will bring happiness there too.
     
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    Babs, thank you so much :)
     
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    Dreams of retirement. I guess we've all had them at one time or another. I never really thought I would get to this age, so it's turning out to be as much a mystery as my youth seemed to be. Only now I don't have the energy or curiosity that I was blessed with back then. I'm not sure if I'm heading toward a sense of peace, or if I just don't have much to strive for anymore. So I've decided to wait and see.
     
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    :D Missed you @Ina I. Wonder it's so good to hear from you again. I think most of us are taking that mysterious journey into our final years and feeling the same way you do. It's a lot harder than I ever dreamed it would be at times and for me acceptance of what I can't change is the only thing that brings peace during this season of my life.
     
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    Thanks Babs, I've got a lot of reading to do to catch up with what all of you have been up to in the last month. I'm hoping to get a giggle or two. :)

    I've been doing a lot of sleeping while the doctor figured out the correct dosage for my seizures again. I haven't had to take medication regularly for them since 2010. They've never been able to figure out why I have them, so when they crop up each time, I have to go through a battery of tests, and the rollercoaster of different meds.

    I'm told to be calm and quiet, but if I get anymore so, a snail is going to pass me by. :oops:
     
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    :) Okay Ina we will do our best to keep the drama down then.
     
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    Don't do that Babs. I'm tired of sleeping so much. I really meant it when I said I could use a few giggles. :)
     
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    I can't tell you yet @Babs Hunt because neither hubs or I have retired yet, although recently I have reduced my workload by about 1/2 so now I only work around 35 hours a week.. or a little less. My intention is to retire this year , not because I want to at 62 but simply because the work is very physical and long hours and I have a few medical issues which the physical aspect of the job is taking it's toll on... so I have little choice but to leave after all things taken into consideration...however, and it;s a big however...I keep pushing back the final date for leaving..simply because I fear the lack of a regular salary.. and in my job there's a lot of interaction with people from every walk of life...I'd miss that part too....

    My only daughter lives in a foreign country so I have to ensure that I'm financially secure enough to still be able to visit her whenever I want..so I keep pushing the date back thinking..ok, just one more month , get another pay check in the bank and leave next month...procrastination on a large scale...but my health is suffering more and more due to the sheer heavy workload..so I do have to make a decision sooner rather than later..and tbh, as my husband is only in his 50's and a long way from even thinking of retiring, then really if and when I retire I need to find something to fill my available time , because sitting at home would drive me stir crazy!!
     
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    @Holly Saunders It's good to have enough money to not have to worry about things when you do retire...but having good health when you retire is just as important, if not more so in some ways. I hope with cutting down your hours you are noticing a difference in your health problems for the better but if your health problems are getting worse even with you working less...then it is probably a good idea to quit working as soon as possible and do what you can do to improve your health so you will be able to enjoy your retirement. I pray God's best for you as you make your decisions and I hope your retirement, when it does happen, is everything you have hoped it will be. :)
     
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    You're absolutely correct @Babs Hunt, I totally agree , health is way more important... so I really have to make that retirement leap soon. Currently my plan is to continue to work until June when I leave on vacation... and then to potentially make my retirement date for July of this year...but it may turn out to be even sooner..


    Bless you for your prayers and good wishes, they are very much appreciated.. :)
     
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    @Holly Saunders , I like you, kept thinking that putting away one more paycheck was important. Although one thing we forget is that when we stop working, our normal monthly costs go down as well. But, the wear and tear we put our bodies through trying to assure that our retirement is at least comfortable is a cost we don't see until we are paying the price in our inability to enjoy them physically. Maybe you'll not have the finances you hope for, but at least you won't be staring at the money, and wishing you could go out and spend it. :rolleyes:
     
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    I also thought when I finally retired I would be able to spend lots of time with my siblings, especially my five sisters since we all lived in the same City and all our kids would be grown and on their own by that time. But now here I am in retirement and my sisters have all moved, one to Metarie, LA, three to Florida, and one to Georgia. One of my brothers stayed here in Lafayette, but one moved to Oregon and the other to Texas. This would still all be just fine if the traveling plans I dreamed of in retirement had worked out...but that is not happening like in my dreams either now that my husband is losing his vision and I'm beginning to have more health problems too. My husband was always the main driver on our trips, I don't even like driving that much. But if I want to see more of my siblings then I will have to become the main driver now. Texas and Florida is not far but the thought of getting in all the congested traffic on the Interstate now days...makes me very anxious and I'm not sure if I can do it anymore.

    We don't have a whole lot of retirement income, but with so much family scattered all over trips would cost us mostly for the gas. Even if my husband's vision worsens, I'm sure he would still enjoy spending time with Family and with the newer vehicle God has blessed us with, we certainly now have the safe transportation to do some traveling in. I just need the courage to become the main driver and I'm going to be praying that God will give me that courage. Maybe not all our dreams can come true in retirement, but they sure can't come true if we don't have the courage to go for them.
     
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    If I can do it, so can you @Babs Hunt ....I'm not fond of heavy congested traffic either. When I had to pick my husband up from the hospital in San Francisco I was petrified.

    I've never driven there from Fresno and it's a 4 hr drive and I had to cross the bay bridge which was scary and the million lanes of heavy traffic before I even got to SF.

    Didn't have gps then or my iPhone. Spent the night studying my route, etc.

    I made it though...until I got into the city..then I got lost on those no left turn anywhere streets, always ended up back on the highway.

    Also ended up on the Golden Gate Bridge which was taking me out of SF again..with no way to turn around...that's when I thought I'd have a mental breakdown, lol

    Obviously eventually I made it...felt so much better driving back home with my husband in the front seat next to me.

    That was in march and he died in June. :(
     
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    Ours did not go as planned. We had planned to spend time between two little mini homes, one for winter, one for summer but the summer place on the lake had to be sold due to a bad costly financial mistake.

    We live and learn and adjust in time and looking around I see some with no place to call home so I tell myself not to lament what I gave up. At least I have a roof.
     
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    Money is stressed so much today concerning having a happy retirement. Good health is on the list as well, but with enough money, health problem costs can also be helped much easier also. Retired Seniors and motorhome travel seem to go hand-in-hand as well.

    But, since my wife is still working a full-time job, but has weekends off (thank God), my retirement isn't as good as it could be if she was retired as well. One thing we are very grateful for...........that she applied, and is getting, her full (FRA) SS each month. Hers and mine SS, along with her salary, gives us a good living that we probably won't have that much of later.

    Years ago, I never/ever thought about retirement. Actually, I never made a good enough salary to be able to put anything away for retirement. My wife, OTOH, has made good salaries and is involved with a retirement plan (401k) at work.

    I still say, retirement happiness really depends on money! Health is there, but money really talks.
     
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    Thanks for the encouragement Chrissy...it means a lot to me. :) I really want to venture out of my comfort zone here and I guess the best way to do it will to be to start taking short trips and as I get comfortable with this...then increase the distance. :) I'm thinking about asking my daughter if she will let me drive some of the way to Florida on Wednesday but we are going to have a Van full of grandkids...and they will be making alot of noise in their excitement at a trip to the beach...my driving under those conditions may not be the best idea. ;)
     
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    I am the kind of person who when one dream doesn't work out....I always do my best to find another dream to replace it. As long as we are alive we should live life to the best of our ability and enjoy every moment we can. :)
     
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