Impotence

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  1. Mizzi Please

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    Is it true that when men reach the age of 59 or 60 they become impotent? Are the men in this forum willing to be honest? I married my husband thinking that we would have a real and loving relationship. But he failed to disclose the fact that he is impotent prior to our marriage. This not only frustrates me but also makes me feel unloved. Hell if i wanted to stay celibate then i would have remained single. Do we talk about it? i do. does he listen to my concerns? No all he tells me is that he's now sixty and this happens some times. Well what about me and my feelings/needs and or wants? I'm just so mad frustrated and angry right now and dont know what to do about it. Anyone else?
     
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  2. Chrissy Cross

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    That's kind of young unless he has some health issues going on. There's also Viagra but only with a drs approval.

    My husband became impotent after his chemo and radiation...I was happy he was alive for 10 more years and didn't care about the sex...there are other ways to be intimate.
     
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    Chrissy, He wont even go and have it looked into nor will he do anything about it. I've told him that alot of what a relationship is built on is love sex and intimacy. He does not care which makes me feel like he doesnt love me. there is no affection in the relationship. He makes all sorts of promises without the intention of keeping them.
     
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    There's a lot more than Viagra now days...I'm always seeing commercials on TV about these prescriptions to help "enhance" your love life.

    I'm really sorry your husband failed to tell you this before you married him @Anna Peters and I hope he will go see a Urologist or whatever kind of Doctor can help him with this problem so y'all both can experience the marriage intimacy you want as part of your marriage and feel cheated out of.

    Impotence can happen at any age...but there is much that can be done now days. So I hope your husband will see a Doctor for both your sakes.
     
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    Anna, I don't know how long you have been married but it sounds like y'all may need to see a Counselor...and then maybe a Doctor that can help him with the impotence problem.
     
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    Unfortunately, it sounds like you have a real problem that really has to be solved between you, him and possibly a profession..........if he will go. If he doesn't want to have sex anymore period, just what will you do? It can be the same thing as someone who doesn't want to stop smoking, drinking or gambling. I mean, if he absolutely doesn't want to get help, you have to figure out the choices you have.

    Again, sorry, but this can happen to a man or a woman in a marriage.


    I'm not sure if anyone in this forum wants to talk about their sex life. It isn't that type of forum.
     
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    I agree with Babs....don't know how long you e been together so it's a little hard to give advice but seeing some sort of therapist would help...of course he has to agree to go....

    Sorry you're in this situation but don't give up hope.
     
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    Cody, I think you should go back to school and become a Counselor. :)
     
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    It's a seniors forum and impotence is a problem for some seniors....nobody is asking you to talk about your sex life but Anna wanted some advice...
     
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  10. Cody Fousnaugh

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    I don't need to go back to school, I'm just a "realist" who tries to help, but also knows about life. I was divorced (single) for 21 years and learned quite a bit about different things.

    My wife was having some problems with her son when he was a teen and she bought and read the book about "tough love". It helped her quite a bit in dealing with her son. At least that's what she told me.
     
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    Yes, but the lady should already know about seeing a professional. Sounds like he simply doesn't want to do anything about the problem. She has talked to him with zero results. This is just fact.
     
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    But maybe she just needs a place to vent.
     
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    Well I can tell you this many men have impotence problems the older they get and there are many things that can contribute to impotence...but the only way to find out what may be causing this problem is to see a Doctor who specializes in this kind of thing.

    For many men their pride might keep them from getting help with this problem.

    Cody is right about one thing @Anna Peters, you can't make someone do something they don't want to do. You can only decide what you want to do.

    Many of us are glad to listen if you just need to vent or rant as @Chrissy Cross has called it. We all deal with things that frustrate us in our lives and need to vent at times. Many of us will also be glad to pray for the two of you also. I'm doing that now as I'm typing this. I do hope things will work out for the two of you Anna.
     
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    Excellent and truthful!!
     
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    Thanks everyone, It just frustrates me as we've only been married a year. so i guess that the marriage is already doomed
     
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