I Tell Wife I Love Her Every Day

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  1. Hal Pollner

    Hal Pollner Very Well-Known Member
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    This keeps my Warranty in force.

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    My roommate told me the other day that in our long relationship I had told her I loved her five times. I didn't realize I'd gotten so carried away.
     
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    Ya think ya might throw in afew extras Bill...I mean after all shes still with you:)
     
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    Tell my wife ever day "I love you" and she says it back. We also tell wife's sister, brother and niece that on the phone at the end of the conversation. Say that to my brother when we talk to him on the phone. Perhaps if more of today's couples and families said that short phrase, we'd have a better society. .

    Anyway, a lot of couples will say, "she (or he) knows I love them, because I show it everyday." Really reminds me of the Karen Carpenter Story movie where a family therapist asked her parents "how often do you tell her you love her?". They said "she knows we love her, because we show her every day." The therapist told them, "tell her as well". So, the night before she died, as Karen was walking up the stairs to go to bed, her mom looked from the bottom of the stairs and said "Karen, we love you". Karen smiled and died that night.

    So, let all of us TRY and put "I love you" into use with family and see what happens.
     
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    Tim Allen once said he apologizes to his wife at the beginning of every day to make up for the times he offends her, even the ones he doesn't know about. I profess love to my wife every morning and every evening; I couldn't get through a day if I didn't hear it in return.
     
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    If it's just an automatic "I love you" ...I'd rather have actions rather than words.

    I talk to my son less often than I talk to my daughter and I always end all conversations and texts with "I love you" and texts with ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

    One heart for each member of his family...but I talk to my daughter a few times every single day and I seldom say "I love you".

    She knows it though.
     
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    Some people use it too much and easily...my ex still says "I love you" when I talk or text....then I feel like I have to say it back even though I don't love him.

    I say it quickly and quietly...just a love you too. Always makes me feel bad.
     
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    Well, no matter what, saying "I love you" can/does make a world of difference to some people. Showing love and saying "I love you" is done by wife and I all the time.

    Heck, I will send her a text at work that says "Miss you, love you". She absolutely loves it and will return the text the same way.

    My Guardian parents showed me love thru a place to live and food, but "telling" was very seldom done. Personally, I like both, showing and telling.
     
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    I only like saying if it's sincere.
     
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    Ours are 100% sincere. That's why her family loves our marriage so much and so do we.
     
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    Never said it wasn't, so was mine to my husband.
     
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    Thanks, good point. I'll add that to my bucket list.
     
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    i always say i love you to my children every day
     
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    You are wise beyond your years. :D
     
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    I don't know if any of you are familiar with this guy, but he is the equivalent of Alaska's Poet Laureate. This is a song he wrote to his wife a number of years ago. He has a family history of dementia, and has became an advocate for treatment and cure.

     
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    I do this once or twice a day plus show her that I still desire her. Married 46 years and still madly in love. Love at first sight dies exist. I saw my wife on a train and 3 weeks later we were engaged.
     
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    Welcome to the forum @VinnyFL ...I think you will have to change your name, nothing personal but this forum require you to have a first and last name..doesn't have to be your own, so I suspect you;ll get a mail from admin to that effect!

    However do not let that put you off... this is a small but friendly forum.. .so it's nice to have you on board!!
     
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    Beyond being an emotional statement that is made to show affection, my reasoning for telling my wife that I love her on many occasions during the day is simply a sort of short hand for “I’m thinking of you” in a positive manner.

    I tell her before I leave the house because I am extremely aware of the fact that things happen and it might be the last time I can tell her. The same goes before we go to sleep because I may not wake up.
    I would rather her last memory of me was that I professed my love for her rather than breaking the promise of “see ya later”.
    I may be simply looking at her and thinking some fond thought and I want to let her into that world as one of the things that drives me foreword.

    To me, there is no time or place that isn’t appropriate for a small three word affirmation which might help my lady to feel more secure and much needed. If I’m too repetitious, so be it, but the opposite or even a once in a while just seems to give so much more room for doubt or a distancing that so many couples suffer from.

    We may sit in the same room and say nothing to each other for hours but every now and then when I look at her, I tell her I love her because.......I simply do.
     
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    awww that's just lovely @Bobby Cole . You're both blessed to have found each other in this huge world of possibilities...
     
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    I tell my wife she's a twit at least a couple of times a day. That's code for "I love you."
     
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    Is that equivalent to dingbat?

     
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    Yeah, I would say a twit and a dingbat are roughly equivalent.
     
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    Yes, but Never to be confused with a twinkie who has some markings that twits possess but are still in a classification of their own. The sideways tilt of the head and a remarkable affinity to pom poms are dead giveaways for the dreaded twinkie.

    That said, even twinkies need someone to tell them they are loved if even for a few minutes or so. i.e. The quarterback, halfback, captain of the team ..............
     
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    Yes, always let your spouse know that you love them in actions and words. If you don't, you'll be wishing you had after they're gone. My husband has been gone 5 years and I wish I could tell him that again and I know I told him some and showed him! I still wish I could tell him today!
     
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