I Miss My Memory

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  1. Holly Saunders

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    The things we remember and those we forget...


    I can remember things from over 50 years ago with great clarity...I can remember my first day at school..I can remember my mothers co-op dividend number, I can remember the address of every house we ever lived in..I can remember the date and time of the birth of all my siblings , I can remember our old house phone number ..and loads more stuff ....but now I can't even remember my own mobile phone number...or half the the passwords for online...without writing them down somewhere in code

    In my defence I do have a highly stressful job and I suppose there's only a finite amount of room in my wee head to store everything lol...but in all seriousness I know it's the same story for most people as we age ....


    What do you remember?..
     
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    My memory is a bit of a mixed bag, I remember a lot from the past, though my middle years are all jumbled up with a rag bag of several mid-life crises and memories of things that didn't happen, [​IMG] ..... but over the last decade my short term and ability to lay down new memory has improved a lot, I can remember my 3 mobile phone numbers and new passwords etc.
    I feel this is due in part to having a virtually stress free life nowadays, and maybe taking aids such as blueberries and other supplements at times.

    Regarding your memory issues @holly I would agree it's down to your very stressful work/life situation. Both my daughters who have always had excellent memories are finding, that like you they are forgetting passwords and other short term memory losses as well, which is down to the very stressful lives they are living at the moment, I believe.
     
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    Agree holly, its frustrating at times - most times !
    It is Holly isn't it ..................o_O :confused: .........................:p
    Seriously though, thank goodness we can remember those great days we loved so much
    Not sure I want to remember too much of today ............. shopping list would be handy to remember to take with me !
     
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    I remember every goofball thing my hubby has done and I remember to trot them out in every dispute minor or major :p
     
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    Ooo yea Misty - its all floodin' back ! :p

    Now, listen 'ere Fabs me darlin' - remember when ..................:D
     
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    Most often, I don't remember what my mother looked like. Not a clear picture anyhow. Since my dad's house burned to the ground, I don't have a trove of family pictures that I might otherwise have so, while I do have some photos of my mother that I got from various relatives, they were all pictures of her when she was younger than she was when I was around, and I don't remember her looking like that. Sometimes though, and once in awhile in a dream, I can picture her, but I can't just visualize her on demand as I can my father, who was still alive when I was an adult.

    My memory has never worked well for numbers. It was rare that I could look up a seven-digit phone number up and dial it without having to look down at the number again. There are times when I have to think about my Social Security number, and I can remember having to go downstairs and look at the curb in order to write my return address, as addresses were all painted at the curbs in Buena Park, California when I lived there.
     
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    As we age we do tend to lose bits and pieces of our short term memory...and in stressful times I believe this would worsen. Our long term memory will often be clearer to us as we age. But we are all individuals so this may differ in degree for each of us.

    I find I had to write down my debit card number and tuck it away in a safe place in my purse so I would have it in case I forget it when I'm using it. Now if I just don't forget where I hid it. :rolleyes:

    I also have to remind myself to check the Calendar because now that I don't have many set schedules...I will not bother to even worry about what the day or date is sometimes and last year I was late with a few Birthday cards because of this. :oops:
     
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    The calendar on my iPad remembers all important dates for me, and we can set an alert if we think we might need a reminder. When we have a doctor appointment, I put it in the calendar app right away; so we always know when the appointment is going to be, plus we can look back and see what days we went if we need to look that up for some reason.
    Now that I have a phone that stores the phone numbers, I really don't even try to remember anyone's phone number anymore.
    Some of the things in my long term memory I remember fine; but some parts of my life are things that I think I purposely blacked out and only pop up now and then when something triggers that memory.
    My short term memory was getting pretty bad; but now it is improving , too. I think that the coconut oil is helping, and I have not had to ask Bobby to tell me a forgotten word for a while now.
     
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    I have been losing words for the past few years, and that's annoying. Sometimes they are simple, everyday words like, "I'm looking for my... the thing I pound nails with."
     
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    EXACTLY ! ! And I can visualize it in my mind, and am pantomiming pounding a nail to Bobby as I am frantically trying to remember what that elusive tool is called . (You should see me when I forget "weed-eater", and I am sure that sometimes Bobby delays telling me the word just to watch my comical show of acting it out. )
    I am sure that I have forgotten that very exact same word you mentioned, Ken and called it the same thing you did when trying to describe it ! !
     
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    Even more maddening is that I can often remember the more complicated words that I use to describe the simple word that I have lost.
     
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  12. Holly Saunders

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    Yes that's more precisely my problem....it's also very embarrassing in conversation particularly at work


    However the coconut oil can't come to my rescue because I'm allergic to coconut...
     
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    Yes the missing words/names can be difficult, you can end up in a conversation saying "do you know that actor with blonde hair who was in that movie about so and so" and on it goes.....
     
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    I forgot what I was going to say.
     
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    It's when I can't remember my own daughters' names at times that really "blows my mind"! :eek:
     
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    They make what is called MCT Oil, and you might be able to use that , even with a coconut allergy, @Holly Saunders . MCT stands for medium chain triglycerides, and coconut oil is made from several of the essential ones, plus some other oils that are not MCT oils, so it is about 70% MCT.
    The MCT oil is made from two of the MCT's that are in coconut, so it is 100% MCT; although it does not have the full-spectrum of those like the coconut oil does.
    In any case, it is the MCT's that help the brain; so you might get a small bottle of this, and test just a little to see if you are allergic or not. It might be refined enough that you would not be allergic, and if so, then you can try that and see if it helps your memory.
    Google MCT oil and see what you think.
     
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    Buy her some t-shirts with her name printed on the front. Problem solved. :p
     
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    The only thing I have trouble remembering are names of movies and books that aren't classics...maybe because I don't make an effort...or the titles aren't important to me.
     
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    @Ken Anderson
    It might not show, given my proclivity for being verbose and all too descriptive in some of my dissertations, but I have become notoriously short-term forgetful, both of names of people, things, and my intent from one minute to the next. As an example, this afternoon, I baked a cake, using the dish towel on the sink to clean up a lot, so I tossed it in the washer. Coming back into the kitchen, I intended to go over to the drawer, and witthdraw a fresh one, but when I got there, I did not remember why I went over there! Retracing my steps, upon entering the kitchen, I spotted the place missing a rag on the sink, and then I knew. This irks me.
    Frank
     
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    Y'all could do like I do, write notes to yourself. I send myself an email with my passwords to every site.
     
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    I remember my passwords, I have a few I use...only problem I have is sometimes I can't remember which one I used where so I have to try a couple...for forums it's usually one or the other.

    I always remember my yahoo email one but I had to change it recently because of issues yahoo was having.

    They're always strong passwords because they're not in English. :)
     
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    @Chrissy Cross
    Thanks for the laugh, Chrissy! I pictured myself using Polish or Czech, and then seeing if any hackers or crooks were Polish or Czech!
    Frank
     
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    I too have trouble remembering words, but I'll remember mathematic formulas for ever it seems. So for passwords I've begun converting nonsensical words into numbers. My first try was with,"shefarts4", then there was, "wear0undies". Seems to be working so far.
     
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    In some ways, my memory is very sharp. We can be watching a movie and I can recognize someone in the movie that has appeared in another movie. My wife can get stunned over that. However, for a number of "need to remember to do this/watch this", I use yellow Sticky Notes. For on a Saturday morning, we generally make a list of the places we need to go/things we need to do, but first place is either McDonald's or Waffle House for breakfast. We also mark things on our kitchen calendar that we are doing or have done.
     
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    I make lists when I'm leaving for a trip because that's important when you live alone and are leaving your house for a month.

    Although by now I know my lists by heart and never forget anything anyway, I still make them.

    I remember everyone's birthday without a reminder...

    Probably about 25 people that are important and get sent a card and gift or just a text but that's all still in my head.

    All family...kids, siblings.. their spouses, nieces and nephews and of course the most important ...5 grandsons.
     
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