Combative People

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  1. Bess Barber

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    I wish I could hide from me ! How do you have positive thoughts ? I want to ! I think of the summer and having to work in the heat running with hot food and hot flashes and a weak bladder and I want to be dead ! How can I live through menopause ? Why is it not allowed to get a lethal injection ? I have medical insurance but the doctors are so crazy ! They are incomprehensible! I will share only this latest crap ! I* went to my doctor as I finally got good with never cheating on my Atkins style diet and brought my A1c down from a 12 to 5.6 I lost weight from size 18 to a 12 ! I figured that now I can reasonably assume to get help with my bladder issue as I can not be scolded for not doing my part ! My doctor gives me the popular pill for this problem ! It did not work ,I tried to pretend it did but it was not really any help at all . So he seemed ,disappointed ? Thinks I am lying ? I do not know but anyway he has recommended Given me a referral to a urologist . I told him I was urged by my insurance to get a pap smear . He said no referral was needed for that but I should ask the gynecologists' advice as well as the urologist about my SUDDEN URGE incontinency When I called to get an appt with the urologist I found out they have a Uro/ Gyno ! My doctor is refusing to allow me to see this specialist ,my insurance will cover it , he will not ask for it ! Why does the doctor think I would rather go and have my legs spread out for 2 different doctors instead of one? Has anyone else experienced this ? I have been diagnosed with ADHD and have depression due to these situations which happen to me all the time ! I want to be happy but I do not know how ? Does everyone else just wear diapers and are fine with that ?
     
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    My wife, who is 73, has somewhat of a bladder problem and wears a panty liner. Sometimes she will not fully make it to the toilet, but that is ok. She puts the panty in the laundry and, when I wash underwear, I wash that. No problem.
     
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    I hate confrontation but when pushed I will fight back.

    As I'm aging and blending into the woodwork more I'm noticing those who focus on the petty all day long. It's a downer. Others are so self involved they don't seem to hear or care about anything that doesn't involve them. It's odd.
     
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    I miss Bess Barber.
     
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    did she leave or did she pass away?
     
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    She just disappeared. I don’t think that anyone knows what happened. If I remember right, her mother was sick, and she might have left to take care of her and just never made it back again. We always worry and wonder when people just vanish like that.
     
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    She was fed up with the rudeness and judgmental attitudes of some so she left. She has a quote on her profile about it. "One adult being rude to another adult is not okay."
     
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    I can certainly understand that. I left my other regular haunt to return here cuz it's just gotten so hostile over there that I just don't want any part of it anymore. :(
     
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    I think a lot of combative people grew up in alcoholic, abusive, or otherwise chaotic families or community environments, learned to be combative as a survival mechanism, and never learned proper relationship skills as a result. Being always on the defense and usually feeling extremely insecure, they have no self-awareness about their impact on others being counterproductive.

    An aggressive style is not one I'll put up with. Not my job to fix or tolerate them. I simply cut them off and walk away. I don't need that hostility in my life from strangers / acquaintances, although if it is someone I care about, I'll try to understand why they are acting out and offer a another perspective.
     
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    OK
    My doctor does not fight with me. And generally, I don't go through him to get a specialist. I have a great Chiropractor I can draw like a gun if I need to.
    For a simple thing to try some D Mannose. It is a sugar but not like a table sugar. It makes the bladder, etc, slippery so if there is any bacteria in it, they can't stick and get flushed out.
    I have a slight issue and there are pads for emergency leaks. Kegel exercises are important as we age and I sometimes pay attention to fluid intake.
    You are doing GREAT, girl! Your doctor could be a lazy individual or has put up with people that just like attention and is frustrated (there are some if insurance pays), or he does not know but can't admit it.
    Try the South Beach diet, it is healthier IMHO
     
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    I think that people are prone to be combative because of fear. They fear that the truths and absolutes that they hold near and dear to their beings and hearts may not be as sacrosanct as they wish they were. Therefore, they feel the need to convince others of what they are uncertain of themselves. It’s a scary thing for some to think that thoughts they may have held for as long as they can remember, might not be as true as they believed them to be. It would seem to be a matter of, “Well, if I’m wrong about that, then what else might I be wrong about?”

    I see it like the wizard in the film, The Wizard of Oz. He was just some small and insignificant man, hiding behind a curtain, trying to seem larger than life. As all knowing as he turned out to be, it wasn’t his way to make it easy to find that out while he kept his true self hidden. I think that often the combativeness is a curtain that some people hide behind. Then too though, there are some people who just enjoy seeing others feel uncomfortable and exude contrariness whenever they have the opportunity to do so. I too avoid these individuals as much as I can. Life may not be the party we had hoped for but since we’re here, we may as well try to enjoy it. After all, there are no guarantees that anything besides life is any better.
     
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    A lot of people seem to be acting very strange these days... almost like a mob mentality has taken over. Simply Darwinian.
     
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    I was thinking about this just this morning, as well as Ken’s thread about having tolerance with people here on the forum, who have a different viewpoint.
    I think that the difference between discussion and argument has to do with the level of emotions involved, and when we are under a lot of stress (like we all are right now with everything going on in the world), it is harder to maintain a calm attitude and just discuss the topic and not be upset with someone who disagrees with your viewpoint.

    One of the things that I enjoyed the most with my ex-husband was that we both loved discussions, and we could make a pot of coffee and sit together and discuss something back and forth, both actually interested in what the other person thought , and why they thought that way.

    All of my kids seems to have inherited that love of discussion from their mom and dad, and especially my daughter, Robin. We can go on a trip together, talk all the way there and back (for hours or even days) , totally disagree about something, and yet it always remains an interesting discussion, and not devolving into an argument.

    Sometimes it seems like people just want to force their beliefs and opinions on other people, and they get angry when someone has a differing viewpoint, and especially about religion or politics. Even other topics, like taking care of our health, which should not lead to arguments, sometimes seem to do so.

    And sadly, some people do not want to discuss things at all. They just want to say what they think, and then the discussion is at an end, before it has even begun; because those people are not interested in what another person has to say about any topic.
     
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