Why do you think some people are prone to be combative? It seems not a day passes in their life when they don't have an 'issue' with one person or another. I have two retired neighbor ladies like that and I try to avoid them because all conversations with them make me feel depressed. There is no joy in being around someone who thinks it's a good thing to 'always speak their mind'. I don't believe this trait makes anyone bold or self confident or strong. It means they don't have a filter as to how to weed out important issues from just petty stupid crap. It takes more strength to choose your battles and know when to walk away. Not to mention it's bad for your health. I was annoyed at our mail girl, but after I found out I was wrong, I apologized to her because some things aren't worth the energy to go on and on about. How do you deal with people who constantly agitate and argue with those around them?