Anything Positive About Growing Old

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  1. Joe Riley

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    A friend sent me this story, yesterday, that goes with the above quote.;)


    HER NAME IS ROSE


    The first day of school our professor introduced himself and
    challenged us to get to know someone we didn't already know. I stood up to
    look around when a gentle hand touched my shoulder.
    I turned around to find a wrinkled, little old lady beaming up at me
    with a smile that lit up her entire being.
    She said, 'Hi handsome. My name is Rose. I'm eighty-seven years old.
    Can I give you a hug?'
    I laughed and enthusiastically responded, 'Of course you may!' and
    she gave me a giant squeeze.
    'Why are you in college at such a young, innocent age?' I asked.
    She jokingly replied, 'I'm here to meet a rich husband, get married,
    and have a couple of kids...'
    'No seriously,' I asked. I was curious what may have motivated her
    to be taking on this challenge at her age.
    'I always dreamed of having a college education and now I'm getting
    one!' she told me.
    After class we walked to the student union building and shared a
    chocolate milkshake.
    We became instant friends. Every day for the next three months we
    would leave class together and talk nonstop. I was always mesmerized
    listening to this 'time machine' as she shared her wisdom and experience
    with me..

    Over the course of the year, Rose became a campus icon and she
    easily made friends wherever she went. She loved to dress up and she reveled
    in the attention bestowed upon her from the other students. She was living
    it up.
    At the end of the semester we invited Rose to speak at our football
    banquet. I'll never forget what she taught us. She was introduced and
    stepped up to the podium. As she began to deliver her prepared speech, she
    dropped her three by five cards on the floor.
    Frustrated and a little embarrassed she leaned into the microphone
    and simply said, 'I'm sorry I'm so jittery. I gave up beer for Lent and this
    whiskey is killing me! I'll never get my speech back in order so let me just
    tell you what I know.'

    As we laughed she cleared her throat and began, ' We do not stop
    playing because we are old; we grow old because we stop playing.
    There are only four secrets to staying young, being happy, and
    achieving success. You have to laugh and find humor every day. You've got to
    have a dream. When you lose your dreams, you die.
    We have so many people walking around who are dead and don't even
    know it!
    There is a huge difference between growing older and growing up.
    If you are nineteen years old and lie in bed for one full year and
    don't do one productive thing, you will turn twenty years old. If I am
    eighty-seven years old and stay in bed for a year and never do anything I
    will turn eighty-eight.

    Anybody! Can grow older. That doesn't take any talent or ability.
    The idea is to grow up by always finding opportunity in change. Have no
    regrets..
    The elderly usually don't have regrets for what we did, but rather
    for things we did not do. The only people who fear death are those with
    regrets.'

    She concluded her speech by courageously singing 'The Rose..'
    She challenged each of us to study the lyrics and live them out in
    our daily lives. At the year's end Rose finished the college degree she had
    begun all those years ago.
    One week after graduation Rose died peacefully in her sleep.
    Over two thousand college students attended her funeral in tribute
    to the wonderful woman who taught by example that it's never too late to be
    all you can possibly be.
     
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  2. Linda Binning

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    Yes, old age doesn't last very long.
     
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  3. K E Gordon

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    Yes, one thing I really like is Senior Discounts. Apparently, some people have respect for seniors. I am a young senior so I am not eligible for many discounts yet, but that is one of the good things I can think of. Also, some states allow free courses for those 60 and older.
     
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    I think that this time of my life has actually been the most peaceful time , at least so far. Even though I have had health issues, I still am able to enjoy life, and look forward to becoming even healthier and living a life where i can do more things as opposed to just growing older and more feeble as I age.
    I enjoy being able to study, and think that the internet has indeed put the world at my fingertips. I have always read books; but simply being able to google about any topic and learn about it, to me, that is awesome ! !
    For most of my life, I was so busy just taking care of the necessities of life, that there really wasn't a lot of time to wonder about things, and spend time reading about the things that I was interested in.
    I think that it is up to each person to choose how they feel about each day of our life. No matter what happens, we always can choose to look for the worst in everything that happens, or we can choose to look for the best.
     
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    What is "enjoyable" about old-age? Still being alive, I'd say. Frank
     
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  6. Chris Ladewig

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    I know this is suppose to be for positives and maybe this should be in another place, but does it bug any one else when your kids treat you like a addled old fool?
     
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    Had no kids of my own, but am completely accustomed to my wife treating me like an addled old fool! :confused:

    Frank
     
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    I don't like the insomnia...but I do like knowing that even if I can't sleep at night...I have nothing that would prevent from sleeping in the daytime.:)
     
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    It is true that growing old is not for sissy's. However, growing older does bring its own rewards. For example, I care much less what people think about me and I know when someone is trying to get me to believe in something that is nothing but cow cake. Yes, there is a certain kind of freedom that growing older affords a person.
     
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    The one thing I hate about old age, besides the aches and pains, is the questions from rude, thoughtless or just stupid people.
    "Why you limping"?
    "Why you need a electric scooter, or wheelchair"?
    "How much did that chair cost us taxpayers"?
    "What disease you got"?
    "My friend has that illness, but he runs around and even still works full time".
    It just never ends. They just keep going on and on like that.
     
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    Ike - double 'like' :)
     
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    HI Terry.
    I am not sure what you mean by letting go of old thought patterns in how life should be. Sounds like you have experienced more than your share of loss. And deteriorating health can be a terrible burden. I am working hard to push up against the Aging Curve by trying to stay fit and trying to eat in a healthy way. Last year I needed open heart surgery and my fitness level helped me get through it much faster than normal.

    There are many positive aspects to getting older but not old! I am now 70 years old and loving life. Sure, there some down times when friends and relatives pass away. There are financial issues and health issues. But if you just accept them as part of aging. You will age much faster. I try to stay positive and regular exercising helps me to continue doing the things I enjoy.

    Check out my Blog on The Aging Curve!
     
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    I totally agree with your philosophy, @Ron La Fournie , and that is how my husband and I try to live our life, too. We have both had some serious health challenges, and decided that the most important thing that we can do is to take care of our bodies as well as we can. We want to not only have a longer life, but to continue to live an enjoyable lifestyle healthwise.
    What good does it do to still be alive when you lose all of the ability to do the things that we enjoy in life ? I believe that it is up to each person to be responsible for their own body, and research and find what can help them to live a better and healthier life, and for me, living medicated is just not the answer.
    I will definitely be checking out your blog, and looking to see what tips you have about living healthy ! Oh yes....... Welcome to the forum , too ! Glad to have another health-focused person aboard.
     
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    I thought this was about positive things in growing older? One, no more womanly stuff... Second cant get pg..Third I can do things my way and dont have to apologize, do not have to put up with terd headed customers ,Fourth, getting senior discounts...my list goes on :p
     
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    Time just doesn't matter anymore. Aside from the occasional reminder that time exists like a doctor's appointment or when the social security check shows up, the clock can do whatever it wishes because I do not care.
    I try to give myself a mental list of things to do each day, but alas, when and if I get to them is a matter for the time clock and I ran out of punch cards long ago.

    In a lot of ways I am still as crazy as I was 40 years ago, healthier than I was 30 years ago, I do not worry about failure as much as I did 20 years ago, more content than I was 10 years ago, love my wife more than I did just 1 day ago.
    I'm just as intelligent as I have always been but a lot wiser than I have ever been.

    So, what's not to like?
     
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    @Chris Ladewig
    Not having had any kids, I can only suppose that if I did, there is little doubt they would treat me like an addled old fool! Perhaps therein lies the underlying never-mentioned reason for working at not having any.
    Frank
     
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    I formally retired in 1990 at age 56 and will be 83 next month. I never thought of myself as growing olduntil just three years ago when I turned 80.

    The realization that I could no longer do all of the things I had done in those first 25 years of retirement brought me to that conclusion. I now accept all the challanges of growing old like walking with a bit of pain because I still need to exercise. Treading water in a pool for a hour. instead of swimming. Using Uber as my main means of transportation. Ordering many things that I need and want from Amazon. Pursuing a Cochlear Implant so I can once again hear. Preparing my own meals to keep my culinary skill intact, Cleaning my apartment for the exercise.
     
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    I formally retired in 1990 at age 56 and will be 83 next month. I never thought of myself as growing old until just three years ago when I turned 80.

    The realization that I could no longer do all of the things I had done in those first 25 years of retirement brought me to that conclusion. I now accept all the challanges of growing old like walking with a bit of pain because I still need to exercise. Treading water in a pool for a hour. instead of swimming. Using Uber as my main means of transportation. Ordering many things that I need and want from Amazon. Pursuing a Cochlear Implant so I can once again hear. Preparing my own meals to keep my culinary skills intact, Cleaning my apartment for the exercise.

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  20. Ina I. Wonder

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    I think surviving hardships make us feel older, if not wiser. Not everyone survives. Many may even still walk this earth, but you see no "tomorrow" in their eyes. Those are the ones that give up. They are only marking time, no matter their age.

    Every one of you are still finding ways to enjoy the life you have, and until you stop, you're not old. :cool:
     
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    I am actually more at peace at 66 years old than I've ever been in my life. I don't feel I have to do anything I don't want to do anymore...whether people get upset about this or not. And I am finally comfortable in my own skin...even if that skin is saggy and baggy. :)

    I love not having to get up at a certain time or having to cook all the time too. I love being able to read, pray, even just watch a movie or listen to music when I feel like it instead of when I have time for it.

    I don't like the aches and pains....or the surprises in my health, etc. But I love knowing that I can slow down or speed up at my own pace and not at others pace now.

    I loved every season of my life...but this is the season of my life I feel the most freedom in. :)
     
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    I wonder if the senior years are what any of us thought they would be like. Did they turn out as you thought they would? Truth be told, I never expected to see my senior years, and even so, I never thought I would be going through them alone. But I must say, now that the intensity of my grief is lessening, I am beginning to see that "my" senior years are providing a time to reflect on who I have become since I first married at 13.

    After finally excepting the fact that no matter how much I want to, I can never bring back those that made the wheels of my life go around.

    That said, I'm starting to enjoy the leisure that comes from not having the daily grind or responsibility of earning a living. I get up when I wish. I can binge read all night. I can travel where and when I wish. I now have the time to watch the squirrels with my furbaby, Izzy. I have enough to buy myself a few toys. I have the time, space, and peace of mind to contemplate my naval if I wish.

    I'm just beginning to see that I still have many possibilities open to me. Life is not over yet. :)
     
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    We often concentrate on what we don't have in life....but I find as we age it is so much better to concentrate on what we do have. :) And when we take a good look at this...we still have so much to be thankful for and so much we still can love and enjoy in our lives. :)
     
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    Its a good time and I hope it is not too short because I have plans. Nothing spectacular mind you but little plans. I have a lung disease and I picked up a harmonica some few years back to help me expand my lungs and to strengthen my diaphragm. I play it now for pleasure. One of my little plans is to play a wooden flute. I have made arrangements to visit a fluted make and see how he makes them, what he has on hand, which keys, etc. and learn all I can then learn to play the rascal as an added reason to stay healthy. Like I said, little plans.
     
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    Hey @Bill Boggs , I'm so glad you dropped in, I've been worried about you. I admit I've been peeping over to the place we met, and I finally saw you posting, so that made me feel better. Sometimes it's hard to know when one is being intrusive, and I didn't wish to do that to you.

    Although, since you dropped in, I'll take the opportunity to say, it really good to hear your "voice". You just made my day! :)
     
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