A Relationship In General

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  1. Michael Santi

    Michael Santi Active Member
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    Lol ! ... I can be a bit 'talky' so it won't take long ... heh ... My son and I always argued about my profiles on date sites ... he does short and sweet and says I tell too much, where I always tell him I think I like my profiles like we all like to read every word of an owners manual when its a new, complicated and expensive item we've purchased ....
     
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    Yesterday when I was young
    Yesterday when I was young
    The taste of life was sweet as rain upon my tongue.
    I teased at life as if it were a foolish game,
    The way the evening breeze may tease a candle flame.
    The thousand dreams I dreamed, the splendid things I planned
    I always built alas on weak and shifting sand.
    I lived by night and shunned the naked light of the day
    And only now I see how the years ran away.

    Yesterday when I was young
    So many drinking songs were waiting to be sung,
    So many wayward pleasures lay in store for me
    And so much pain my dazzled eyes refused to see.
    I ran so fast that time and youth at last ran out,
    I never stopped to think what life was all about
    And every conversation I can now recall
    Concerned itself with me and nothing else at all.

    Yesterday the moon was blue
    And every crazy day brought something new to do.
    I used my magic age as if it were a wand
    And never saw the waste and emptiness beyond.
    The game of love I played with arrogance and pride
    And every flame I lit too quickly quickly died.

    The friends I made all seemed somehow to drift away
    And only I am left on stage to end the play.
    There are so many songs in me that won't be sung,
    I feel the bitter taste of tears upon my tongue.
    The time has come for me to pay for yesterday when I was young.

    Songwriters: HERBERT KRETZMER, CHARLES AZNAVOUR


    Michael - Those are some seriously depressing lyrics! I think you should avoid such dreary tunes and put on some music you used to love to dance to and get your blood and spirit moving! Dance classes (or even aerobics classes) are a fun and healthy place to be with others and sometimes meet active people of like fitness and extroversion.

    I have to agree, though, that most women I have known are not now, nor have they ever been, particularly motivated by sex and are now fat anyway and don't want to be seen naked by anyone new - so good luck with that! Perhaps that is another good reason to meet people involved in physical activities. The Sierra Club used to have singles events like hikes, they probably still do. (I left the US nearly 30 years ago so am not current on such things.)

    All the animal welfare/animal protection/animal rescue events I am aware of are attended mostly by really sensitive and lovely, caring women, so that may be a good place to meet like-minded people for you, as an animal lover. You would already have so much in common there. Anyway, good luck!


     
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    Fab post Augusta - and Michael ...................... take note :p
     
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  4. Michael Santi

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    Ok Ok, Lol ... I 've heard all of you about my song habits ... While I was doing the cycle lighting job I filtered out the MP3 player songlists on the bike and drenched myself in my idea of uplifting songs .... I have crazy eclectic taste in music so don't laugh but I 'wallowed' in my fast list of songs like Muleskinner , Harper Valley PTA, Splish Splash, I've got friends in low places, This is a song for the lonely, 409, everybody was Kung Fu fighting, California Dreamin, Girl from Ipanima, Brandy and a bunch more ... And while I'm posting I might thank you Augusta for your post .... It's nice to hear other people agree about certain Places and states that have both ends of the spectrum ... highly health and looks concious or like Pa, a bit of a heaviness parade ... Both my son and my Daughter do agree with me on that but caution me not to judge too much based on 13 years of Ca. memories ... (Although I think the Beach Boys were absolutely correct !!! )
     
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    Great post Michael and I really like your choice of music - play on kid ! :cool:
     
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  6. Babs Hunt

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    @Michael Santi My opinion is just be true to yourself in all things. And stop looking for that right woman...just live your life and when it's the right time and if it's meant to be....y'all will find each other.

    When I feel blue...I also listen to music that sings the blues. And that music is a way of venting my blues right out of me. And then I can get on with life. Everyone has their down days...and whatever works for you in those down days is a good thing, not a bad thing. You also are in a transistion period of your life, so give yourself time to "wade" through what you have been through and keep what was good and trash the rest. Sometimes it's really in finding out what we don't want...that helps us find what we do want. But we can't move forward in our lives with unfinished business weighing us down.

    Most women (no matter what they say) do want the happily ever after. And honestly, it is my opinion that most men want that too. And we all want it with the right person for us.

    Enjoy your new home Michael, give yourself time to transition and figure out what you really want for the rest of your life...and then step out and live life until she comes along. And remember relationships are a two way street...that requires just as much giving as taking. :)
     
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  7. Cody Fousnaugh

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    In all honestly, Babs, "waiting around for the right women" simply takes too long. I like my idea better...........don't just sit around, go out and find a woman! A lot of women like a "go getter". Someone full of action and excitement. My wife sure loved that stuff in me.
     
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    I can't agree more with all you've said ... perhaps one exception ... I could never seem to get as much as I was giving but that seems to be generally a sensivity issue with Gemini's ... I'm a Christian and ignore Zodiac, but I must say the descriptions given for Gemini's is ironically close ...
     
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    I like your idea just fine Cody. I just feel from all the posts he posted that he needs to sift through what he's been through first and make sure he knows what he is really looking for before doing anything else.

    I like how you searched for your woman Cody....and it tells me that since you were honest in who you were and what you were looking for...it made it that much easier for your woman to find you. :) Honesty is the most important thing in relationships to me.
     
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  10. Babs Hunt

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    Don't ever measure that giving Micheal...sometimes it's not always 50/50 each day...but if you have the right partner the scales balance out over time. :)
     
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    True, but his posts do tell pretty much what he's looking for. Relationship, love and so on. Basically speaking, at his age, like all in this forum that would like to find love, need to do it sooner rather than later. It's not like there are years upon years ahead of us.
     
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    They tell me more of what he has been through and not found, than what he is really looking for Cody. :) And he does have unfinished business, sorry @Michael Santi but I call them as I see them. :)
     
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    I just have to respond to you Babs concerning 'knowing what I'm really looking for' .... I hope I'm not using too gross of an example but really ... have you ever thought about something we all do so naturally that I have always wondered how it got to be so 'respectable an action' ... Nose blowing ... It's amazing why this isn't on the same list as 'wind passing', revolting topics at the dinner table, etc ... but it somehow became acceptable and how its treated is exactly what I think partner finding thoughts need ... there is way too much .... I'm not sure of the picture I want to paint here ... way to much glorification perhaps .... not that I don't respect the entire process, but I think we've made it too much of a metaphysical thought thing, to much 'needles and pins' caretaking ... and frankly, there's too little time left for any of us ... I am hoping with all of my heart that my words are not mistaken to seem to be expressing "Any old port in a storm" because I sincerely am not saying that ... but if men were not so frightened and women not so guarded, partnership pairings would in my mind be so much easier .... as intelligent as humans are, we are still in the same league as the animals who must display feathers, bob necks, prance in circles, primal screams and grunts, etc ... I wish we could have cut through all of that starting at age 25. There currently is an interesting commercial on tv here in Pa. about what would life be like if we said exactly what we were thinking both pro and con ... one has to see the commercial to understand the gestalt of it but I almost think it would be a better way ... If your a Star Trek fan perhaps a little more 'Vulcan' is what I'm saying ... This too is why I had a little trouble with Cody's post yesterday ... He IS a doer and time IS wasting I agree with him ... But where we differ is that I AM a believer in getting out there and hopping to it ... but men who feel that way are forced to move into the 'paced' lane of the ... again ... puffed feathers, grunts, bloated chest grunts and all of the other mating rituals ...
     
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  14. Cody Fousnaugh

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    I understand what you mean. My problem, during those 21 years I was divorced and pretty much continuously looking, was mixing love with sex. Because I hated being single, I would pretty much latch on to any lady that was attracted to me. This very well meant smokers, somewhat heavy drinkers and ladies that really had no interest in what I was interested in.......mainly horses and rodeo.

    When I was involved with square dancing, the single men I seen there really reminded me of the term "nightclub rejects". If one of these men were told "no thank you" for a dance in a nightclub, they'd tuck their tail between their legs and head home. Just one "no thank you" from a lady would do it. When these men got into square dancing, and women asking them to dance, or saying "sure" when asked by the man to dance, turned their "rejection" around. And, since there was more women than men in square dancing, the men "had it made". The ladies loved it because no alcohol was allowed at a square dance.

    I truly believe in what you said above "if men were not so frightened and women not so guarded (or as I called it "timid"), great relationships would form much, much easier.
     
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  15. Babs Hunt

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    That's exactly why I said honesty is the best policy Michael with both men and women...no matter what their age. Yes, it is true we seniors don't have as much time maybe...but if we just settle for any man or woman because we're afraid we don't have the time to get rid of our excess baggage or wait for the right one...well to me...in the end we will just end up with the wrong one and have to start all over again anyway.

    You say you are a Christian...then you know God knows exactly who is right for you, and you for her. If your heart's desire is to have another woman in your life then the first one who knows where she is is your heavenly Father...so you might want to talk to Him about the where and when. And then wait on His perfect timing. If all you are looking for is a friend to enjoy what you enjoy the best place to find that would be in places where others share your interests. But if it's only friendship you are looking for...don't expect more than that back.
     
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