A Relationship In General

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  1. Michael Santi

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    Well, I need to be truthful with you Babs as I can easily see you are also a saved born again Christian ... If you read my post about my sister you might understand why I get a bit protective when any 'born again' posturing comes up in forums or even face to face .... I was in a cult for 13 years and yes ma'm you CAN be a born again and saved christian but still in a semi Cult if the leader wants to be the Jesus they must worship and when the entire parish are like sheep to the slaughter ...

    I won't go farther but Chrissy knows the entire story. I also need to retract an error I posted ... I DO have one bit of baggage from that 13 years of a group that was bogged down in legalism .... Why is it that humans want to do the impossible and as I said in my opening post, begin again to wave the same filthy rags that couldn't get them to heaven in the first place ? How hard is it to understand that I was hungry, so I sinfully ordered a meal I had no money to pay with .... You paid my debt and the manager pronounced me free to go ... out the freekin door ...

    What I do next about my love of, and amazement with ... your monetary sacrifice and my food bill deliverence will be ... is ... my personal faith in action ... And before the term 'free ride' comes as an attack, let me say no Christian who truly knows of the true sacrifice will permit himself a 'free ride' .... The problem there however is everyone seems to just visually decide to judge who is taking 'free rides', lol!

    Resisting 'law givers', and the self righteous, and excercising free will when the concious is clear is not taking a free ride, it's defending and/or acting strictly on the logic declared to each by one's personal faith ..... Holy Cow ! Where the heck did this soap box come from ??? .....
     
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    6/20/2017 UPDATE : Have to straighten out a molehill that inadvertently became a mountain .... The above post used the term 'DIRTY OLD MAN' to create depth to my feelings only, and for artistic writing freedom only. No one have ever accused me with that 'handle', nor do I seek or want young women. My use in truth of that term was to show that I am of the feeling that if a man is still longing for a partner at my age, he must indeed be (tongue in cheek) a "DIRTY OLD MAN" ... in reality I know that many men my age still want a final partner in life ... I have no baggage about that term, it was my unfortunate idea to use it only to paint a picture of my lonelyness frustration and how my heart tells me to be like other men and just weave baskets or tie fishing flies ... be in other words miraculously cured of the need for a female companion ... I just am not prepared to do so at this time ....
     
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  3. Patsy Faye

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    Hi Michael - all I can say to you is - please stay here :)
     
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    Oh, I certainly intend to .... lol ... only place that has a picture of Chrissy ... ; )
     
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    My relationship with God my Father and Jesus my Savior is the most important relationship in my life @Michael Santi and these relationships affect every area of my life too. And while I've read about cults, etc. I am thankful to say I have never been caught up in one and never want to be either. And I am sorry that you had to go through this. I do pray God brings healing physically, emotionally, and spiritually from all wounds and pain this cult has caused you.

    And I also pray God's will shall be done in your life and that He will grant you the desires of your heart.
     
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    Ha ha ! :)
    I'm feeling pretty miserable due to the weather being so hot, but you wouldn't know it from my posts
    'We' are kindred spirits Michael :)

    @Michael Santi
     
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    That is a beautiful post Babs ... Thank you from the bottom of my heart ... God bless you ..
     
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    It rained here all day yesterday, but my additional lights arrived to add to the ones I've already mounted so I was in the garage all day then fell asleep till midnight ... it's not hot but it's muggy ...
     
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    The humidity is terrible - wish we could change that, its very hard to get through the day, and night
     
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    No air conditioner ?
     
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    Often many woman have never experienced real intimacy and pleasure in love making, this may be for many reasons but if she doesn't experience these things, it won't be of much interest to her. Alot of women also have been in situations where the man takes all his pleasure, but doesn't provide her with any. In that case a woman feel used, not loved...and again she would not want to repeat this experience. At our age, we might be timid in this area because of our aging bodies too. There are just alot of reasons women lose interest in making love....the biggest one may be that most men have sex and a woman wants to make love.
     
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    Yes , you have truly hit the nail right on the head ... I often blame men for a lot of frustrations I find from women who are now guarded in every way because of 'Archie Bunker' types .... One hearing you talk suggests how in touch you and your husband must be ... what a glorious pairing ... but it's from your awarenessess ... ignorance to what is making all go wrong is another reason that 50% of marriages fail ... or has the percentage risen ?
     
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    Over here, we never had to even think about an AC, until recent years due to weather changing for us
    I would guess many people here are buying them now
    For me, I'm unable to, due to where I live, a retirement complex :rolleyes:
     
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    Oh Lord ... wonna does .... !!
     
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    Just read through all the posts. Also just woke up. Seems the topic is how hot it is and sex.:)

    110 here today and for the sex part, never had any hang ups about it.

    As for the religion part...not my area of expertise.
     
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    Lol - 'wonna does' what ?
     
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    Excellent reply!
     
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    Don't know about the 50% divorce thing, because all of my (that I know of) 1968 high school graduating classmates are still married to their first spouse. Some are widowed. However, my current marriage is my 3rd one. Had one Annulment and one divorce (same woman). My wife's 3rd marriage as well.
     
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    Wonna Does crazy Senior apartment complexes like what I just escaped from !
     
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    Maybe it's your Pittsburgh accent. :)

    Do you say yinz for you all? Maybe you haven't been there long enough.
     
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    Michael, I haven't read all of the seven pages of this thread but honestly if you want a relationship then you'll need to get out of your comfort zone and go in search of one. If you have friends ask them if they know of any single women. join online dating sites, try the movies, join some senior clubs, go to dinner dances. etc etc etc. Me personally I met my husband online, we met at a seniors forum site called Buzz50. At the time I was feeling lonely and just wanted to make friends and to just communicate with other people, I had lost my mother to breast cancer three years before and was really feeling her loss as she was my best friend and we used to do everything together. Anyway all my friends had no time for me as they were working and had their own families to attend to. So i was wanting to occupy my time and to just make new friends. To cut a long story short as we got to know each other my husband and I moved onto speaking on the phone and then progressed to skyping one another, We did this for a while before we met in person, and the time zone difference was a killer. Seven months later i went to the states on a holiday and met my husband in person, married him a month after my arrival and we've been inseparable ever since. We have now been married over a year and three months and are in my home town for seven months in Australia. Neither of us were looking for love nor did we expect to find it especially countries apart.
     
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    Welcome Mrs P.... I wonder if I know you from Buzz50...I presume you have another ID there.. :) Mind you I rarely go there these days...
     
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    Hello Mrs P - great story ! :)
     
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  24. Cody Fousnaugh

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    One thing for sure, some “first” meetings work out great. Mine, with my wife, did as well.

    A number of older folks want a relationship, but don’t want the work it can take to get one. They want to go out their front door and “boom”, there is a new relationship just waiting for them. If it was only that easy.
     
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    Hi Holly,
    At Buzz I was known as Miss M. And thank you very much for the welcome.
     
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