A Relationship In General

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  1. Michael Santi

    Michael Santi Active Member
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    I post this here because the outline mentions it's ok to post about relationships in general. I'm serious when I say it's truly a blessing and extremely gratifying to know I can speak openly to people in my age range and with a bit of frankness because I'm certain others in here know as I what utter lonliness for a partner feels like. Yes I have family but all here know the difference between that and a partner, a mate, a lover ...

    What a mixed bundle of emotions reaching the golden years creates .... I'm Italian, active, and still mentally youthful with nothing but a mild level of type 2 diabetes, but unable to disclose the level of lonliness I feel because somewhere at sometime in my youth I heard the term ... probably on tv ... of "dirty old man " ..... All of my life I have heard women defend themselves and fight for equality with men, I've heard of "Gay Rights" , "Glass Ceiling"
    Animal Friends, POW Committees, Civil Rights Movements and on and on .... But quietly accepting the rebuke, standing with head bowed and lips sealed ... is the man who is simply labled "The Dirty Old Man" because he longs for one last love before he passes ....

    No group marches down main street for this one no sir ! ... No forelorn old men in wire cages staring out with sad 'take me home with you' eyes , no suited attorneys on tv stating he'll fight for your right to die holding one last partner's hand ... no, you'll see none of that for the 70 year old man with the same needs and wants he had all of his life ... no pity now because he went from a handsome single bachelor or widower or just never found the right one .... to a supposedly righteous new title the public feels he deserves ... The Dirty Old Man ...

    The opposite problem is just as enormously unsettling as the explained problem above ... Unrealistic women expecting some last relationship to fulfill everything they could never quite obtain for their ongoing bucket list container, or wanting some James Bond -like success story whose idea of retirement is spending his summers in the Hamptons at his second home to be nearer his Pleasure boats till winter returns ...

    Lastly and the worse possible situation of all ... the one that fully locks in with a loud click the handcuffs of the title 'Dirty Old Man' .... the woman who straight faced and fully serious says she too wants a partner but of course, at these ages ... sex is something she has simply decided to discard .... and she did this as easily as one changes coffee brands when the flavor has changed ... I imagine the very confusion that this last one evokes in me ... the utter inability to comprehend how these women decided to do this ... is what obviously and righteously has condemned me to the lower strata of living hell .... I am I guess ' The Dirty Old Man'
     
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    Depends how you present yerself doesn't it ?
    Are you a 'leerer' Michael - If you are, then what do you expect :p
    If not, maybe your approach is just wrong.
    Don't try to be something you're not, unless you're a 'leerer' you definitely need to change that :rolleyes:
    Show interest in the lady and get to know the 'person'
    If you 'expect' too much, you will receive nothing :)
     
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    You're post made me laugh because just after posting a better avatar I was thinking I had a smart mouthed look in that pic lol ! ... As to the rest I'd have to say I think I've been civil, friendly, and absolutely no 'hubba hubba ' type comments ... I have to close my eyes just to type this, lol ....
     
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    LOL - I'm glad you're not a leerer Michael :p
    If I were single and lived over there, I'd give you a chance, I'm a fool for Italians :p
     
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    I was single/divorced for 21 years, before meeting my wife in 2000. I had placed a Personal Ad in a local magazine and she called me about it.

    One thing I learned, right after my divorce, a person has to "put themself out there and available" in order to meet someone. You CAN'T let yourself get all wrapped up, and frustrated, in that phrase "Dirty Old Man" or think about sex so much. A lot of women in our age bracket (I'm 68) have had an active sex life and companionship is much more important to them now than sex is. There are men that feel the same way as well.

    Look for a partner/companion, not just sit and wish for one!

    Good Luck
     
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    Just my luck too ... A probably attractive and chance giving good soul and she's in ... is it London ?
     
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    Ha ha yea - and of course you are absolutely spot on with your assumption of me :p
     
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    Ha ha, Patsy. I'm single and grew up in Pittsburgh but I'm really not looking especially for a long distance relationship.
     
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    Yea, shame that is - don't you just love Italianos :cool:
     
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  10. Michael Santi

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    Oh Patsy, I could just scream ....
     
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    What the heck ... is everyone in London ...you too ?
     
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    My first crush was Italian...still remember him, Jimmy Cibrone. :). I was 10.
     
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    I'm in California.
     
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    Pa. is my home town but I was in Novato for 13 years ... (about 20 minutes fron downtown San Francisco)
     
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