45 Years Today

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  1. Holly Saunders

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    ...at around 5am in the morning my mother died... she was 39 years old.. I was 18. Ironically it was also a Thursday.

    I've told this story before...


    She was far from being an ideal or even a good parent, but she was my mum... and I miss her to this day. I never forget her birthday nor anniversary of her death...
     
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    My heart goes out to you, dear Holly.
    We will never forget our parents.
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    bless you Mary... it was a long time ago... but somehow, sometimes it seems like yesterday...
     
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    @Holly Saunders ...Valentines Day 1998
    my mother passed away very unexpected.She was very healthy and on no meds. Massive stroke.
    I feel your pain.:(
     
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    I was in my early 40’s when my mom (and then my dad) passed away; but even then it was very traumatic and heartbreaking. I am slo sending you a big HUG to help you get through the day today, @Holly Saunders , and prayers for God to comfort you.
     
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    Bless you all, and thoughts to all of you for the pain you suffered with your parents passing...it never really goes away does it? ((hugs))
     
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    I was fourteen when my mom died. For the next couple of years, my younger brother and I were largely on our own, as my older brothers were in college or in their own homes by then. Oh, dad was there but, although I didn't understand it at the time, I think he couldn't stand being at home without mom being there, so when he got home from work, he'd eat supper and then go to work in the woods or in the fields until well after dark. I could hear his chainsaw going sometimes after I went to bed. He eventually recovered, but he wasn't around much for a couple of years. I signed all of my paperwork when I started high school, which actually had some advantages, because they had my interpretation of dad's signature on file, and that came in handy a few times.
     
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    @Ken Anderson, I too lost my mother at 14, but my dad died when I was 7. My brother and I were orphaned early but fortunately we had an aunt and uncle who took us in and cared for us through high school. I can identify.
     
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    @Holly Saunders I share the same as the others do for you in remembering a lost parent. We will always remember our mothers and fathers - our hearts won't let us forget.
     
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    Thank you muchly @Shirley Martin and @Von Jones .... xx...I think that it was the suddenness of it , and never having the chance to say goodbye that keeps it much more fresh in the memory ..but of course everyone who has lost a parent regardless of how old we were or are now..feels the same about the loss , I'm sure.

    @Don Alaska , @Ken Anderson ...I fully understand how you must have felt losing parents' as young teens. I was the eldest of my mothers children at 18, but there were 3 under me, and the youngest only just 10 years old... in an instant and overnight I had to become their surrogate parent
     
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    It's tough at any age, I think.
     
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    It is, @Ken Anderson .

    I got a call that Daddy was in the emergency room and rushed down there. He died moments before I got there. I was devastated. I never got to say good-by. We knew for about a year that Mama was going to die. I had the opportunity to do many things for her, let her know how much I loved her and to say good-by. It wasn't nearly as hard.
     
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    I'm so sorry you didn't get to say goodbye to your Dad, Shirley , so near and yet so far must have been heartbreaking!! (((hugs))) to you...

    My mum wasn't ill..well not physically ill, no-one ever in their wildest dreams expected her to die.. ... she was just 39 .. I can see her now standing at the cooker in the kitchen as I left to go out for the evening..I said see you when I get home mum..I was off to stay overnight with my girlfriend... that was around 7pm , at 9am I got the call my mum had died in her sleep!!

    I look at my daughter who is now older than my mum was... and realise just how young she was, and what pressures she had to endure... too much...


    My father died aged 82... 10 years ago this December , I wasn't there, we'd been estranged for years..
     
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