Wife Having A Terrible Time!

Discussion in 'Senior Employment' started by Cody Fousnaugh, Oct 21, 2019.

  1. Micki Pembroke

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    @Cody Fousnaugh I know this is none of my business, if you choose not to answer, i will understand, i'm assuming you and your wife are retirement age, why the need for a job.
     
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  2. Cody Fousnaugh

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    I'm 70 and she is 71. What can I say, she likes working...….even part-time, if she has to. Her sister, who is 75 and a retired school teacher, still substitutes teaching at some schools. Like my wife, she gets bored staying at home.

    As for me, I can find plenty of things to do at home. Even though, for the past couple of months, she hasn't been working, I still do all of the laundry, change bed linens, run/empty dishwasher, etc.. During part of the time I'm doing these things, she is watching a game show or on her laptop searching jobs.

    If I could find a day job (part-time only and during the week only), sitting at a computer and only doing computer work, I'd give it serious thought. But, nothing like that available. I've checked.
     
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    Maybe there's voluntary work, till something comes along …….
     
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    I commuted 300 miles a week to my job, where even a light snow is rare.
    150 miles a week, with a frequent chance of heavy snow, in a car with a lot miles...

    People searching for work shouldn't have to go on 3 different interviews.
    They should choose 2 or 3 people for a 3rd interview, not have everyone applying show up for 3 interviews.
     
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    Agree - OTT aren't they
     
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    Cody... can MRS F...not just hold off on her job hunt until you move to Wyoming..it's only going to be a matter of months, and then she'll have to start all over again job hunting.. you both would be better off looking to see what the employment situation is there and planning where she may be best employed in Wyoming.

    In the meantime, I think you were right to hope she doesn't get this job..it would mean 4 journeys a day for you in all weathers and traffic intensity to get her there and back with an old vehicle

    I know you said she wants paid employment only..however if she could just do any kind of voluntary work until you move again..then she has something on her CV for the new potential employer !!
     
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    @Cody Fousnaugh .... Can she find something working from home ?
    This job may very well just cause you both misery...but then again you never know.
     
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    Depending on the company, many larger firms these days are allowing employees to work from home. In my last couple of years before retiring, I worked from home and only went into the office one or two days a week. So she'll probably have a better feel for what the job will be after she interviews.

    Three interviews in a single visit is not that unusual. If the job responsibility includes reporting to three different departments/managers, they will all want to get a feel for the applicant. To me that's preferable to having to return on three different occasions.
     
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    Yep true
     
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    @Cody Fousnaugh If the money isn't the concern, do you not have interest in travelling, hobbies, voluntar time, time spent with family, friends.
     
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    Just got back home, from taking her there. There is no doubt about it that 15 miles out can seem like 30, when a person is older. Half of the way out there, there is nothing but crop fields. Perhaps I wouldn't be so worried if our vehicle had a lot less than 164,000 miles on it and the weather she would definitely encounter later was like Florida's. Even with three snowstorms already, our winter has just begun.

    As far as volunteer work goes, she simply doesn't want that.

    She has already told me that, if this company doesn't hire her, or she turns them down (due to distance/weather), she won't look anymore until we move. But, I sure wouldn't guarantee that!

    Cheyenne is the Capital city of Wyoming. She applied for a job there, thinking "naw, they won't call me", but they did. She sit up an interview and later called and cancelled it. I talked to her about the drive from here to there (43 miles each way) and told her to cancel and wait until we move there. She agreed and cancelled.

    For her past two jobs, she drove 7 miles each way, with no winter driving at all. Also, she was 13 years younger when she drove in winter snow to work here, back in 2006.

    Actually, I can't wait to hear how this interview goes. I can tell she was nervous about the three interviews today with this company.
     
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  12. Cody Fousnaugh

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    Ok, here we go...….no family here or friends. After her mom died a few years ago, the family sort of dissolved. I don't get along with my 1/2 brother at all and her two sisters and nieces live in So Calif. and they have no interest in seeing us and, financially, we can't see them. Her brother lives in south Florida and wants very little to do with the family.

    Neither she or I have any friends because of our interests. Just what do I mean by that? Nobody that has interest in professional rodeo, boating/fishing or target shooting. There are those ladies that got very surprised to learn she has her own 9mm handgun. Congratulated her about it, but still fairly stunned that a 71 year old could handle that kind of gun.

    Money isn't a huge concern, but "concern" is still there.
     
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    I think it must be of quite a large concern tbh, otherwise she'd be happy with voluntary work ...
     
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    Wanting or needing to earn money is totally different from wanting to freely give your time to a cause.
     
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    The lady is in her 70's, she's only going to be in the area for a few months!! A little voluntary work would probably do her a lot of good as well as the charity
     
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