Taking A Break... Again

Discussion in 'Not Sure Where it Goes' started by Cody Fousnaugh, Sep 19, 2018.

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  1. Cody Fousnaugh

    Cody Fousnaugh Supreme Member
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    I don't have tell any of you this, but there are those that will hope I don't return. You just may get your wish!

    It seems that there are those on this forum that totally disagree with the beliefs my wife and I have. And, by the way, it's ok to disagree, but if wife and I don't want to be open minded, that should be ok. Actually, I was pretty stunned to read how Hal feels about tattoos, in his last reply. We agree with him, but that's us. thing is, nobody has said anything to him about his reply, like they have to me. Makes me wonder. There have been replies and Threads done by me that, due to the replies, Ken has had to "settle things down" within the Thread. Many of you were NOT raised like I was. IOW, not to be open-minded. That is one of the reasons wife and I left So California and now want to leave Jacksonville and Florida. Pretty much "anything goes" in all. My wife was very happy to move to Colorado and live in an area that was "like minded" as ours.

    I love the sport of rodeo and participated in it for a number of years. Most folks on here don't like it. I grew up around livestock and farming. I talk about that, but many on here don't care less about that kind of raising. I could live right next to wear cattle were grazing. Wife and I both miss stopping by a cattle and/or horse auction, going to rodeo's and so on and so on.

    Bottom Line Here Is: You are ALL good people, but our differences just may be to big for me to continue on with this forum. I'm a loving and caring husband, but not so much towards other things in life sometimes.

    Anyway, without further ado, I will say "Goodbye" for now, but maybe...………

    Ok, some of you can go ahead and say it now, "you'll be back" and you could be right, but then again.
     
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  2. Beatrice Taylor

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    Cody,

    When people come and go on the internet I always think of this quote.

    “Not so much two ships passing in the night as two ships sailing together for a time but always bound for different ports.” - P. D. James, The Lighthouse.

    Do what is best for you and we'll see ya when we see ya!

    Good luck!
     
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    I hate to admit this but I actually enjoy your posts...they get my blood stirring (boiling :))

    Just because we don't agree about everything doesn't mean we don't like you.

    I disagree about a lot of things with Yvonne (conspiracy theories) but she's one of my best friends on here.
     
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    You sound like the kinda man that can 'take it' Cody - don't fall off yer horse now !
    Come on back - ya hear :)
     
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  5. Holly Saunders

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    Cody...you can't take it can you?...you're a big baby really aintcha?

    You know I'm only joking..:D.you're a decent guy, no question about that. I've always said it and I'll say it again, your beliefs in lots of things may differ from so many others, but that doesn't make you a bad person, in fact I think you're a Gentleman!! A proper old school gent whom I've never seen attack any one on here , and never used any kind of profanity, just an all round polite decent guy, who stands up for his beliefs, and that's to be commended !! ... so for the 56 th time this year alone ;)..lol... see ya when you get back!!! :D

    BTW I haven't see the post on the tattoo thread you're talking about I'm gonna go look now...
     
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    Why is it important to you that others agree? You and your wife agree, and that's pretty much all that should matter to you. Personally, I don't think you should be overly bothered if she disagreed with you from time to time. I am a Mennonite, but I don't demand that everyone else here be a Mennonite or even a Christian. I believe that both abortion and the death penalty are wrong, yet I am sure that not everyone here agrees with me. There are other things that are important to me that don't interest anyone here. I have at least one thread that hasn't received a single reply, but that's okay. My sense of well-being or self-worth is not dependent on the agreement of others. Your beliefs, your lifestyle, and the things that are important to you are every bit as valid as mine or those of anyone else here, and you have as much a right to discuss them as anyone else here has to discuss the things that are important to them, but no one has the right to demand that everyone else agree with them, nor do they have the power to bring that about.

    Personally, I believe that open-mindedness has gone too far when it requires that people believe that everything is okay. In some ways, the problem with an open mind is that it leaks out into everything, and can be messy.

    So no, I do not have to share someone's beliefs in order to recognize them as valid. I don't smoke or drink alcoholic beverages, and I tend not to hang out with people who do, but that doesn't mean that I hate them, and it certainly doesn't mean that their opinions, values, thoughts, and experiences are not worth listening to, or that I'd object to carrying on a conversation with them.

    We are a group of people from a wide variety of backgrounds, living in a fairly wide variety of places in the world. It is inevitable that we are not going to be on the same wavelength. In fact, we should anticipate that there will be things that we have difficulty even relating to. There's nothing wrong with that. You and I are on different wavelengths apparently, because I cannot see the problem.

    You don't have to agree with other people here, and they don't have to agree with you. We talk about things here. Occasionally, perhaps someone's mind might be changed on an issue but I don't know how often that actually happens. That's not the objective. If there is an objective, it might be that we will come to realize that we can still communicate.
     
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    By the way, I was raised to believe that smoking, drinking alcoholic beverages, playing cards (even if no money is involved), dancing, and cursing were wrong, and that Catholics were going to hell, which is not as bad as it sounds when you consider that Catholics were taught, at least at that time, that we were going to hell too. I now believe that smoking is unhealthy but not necessarily evil, and that gambling is a bad idea unless you're really good at it, most alcoholic beverages taste bad and being drunk is closely followed by being sick, and that dancing is something that I just never learned to do, while cursing is something that I will probably always do when my computer screws up, and which I will always feel bad about later. I have also come to believe that there is a big difference between vulgar language and taking the Lord's name in vain, although neither are commendable. I have come to accept that the question of who goes to hell or not is something that I will not be able to decide so I don't waste time making lists.

    I guess you would say that I have had an open mind because I no longer believe everything that I was raised to believe. That's not a values judgment, and I am not entirely sure that I am right about everything that I believe. Although the idea of deciding who's going to hell seems kind of nutty to me, I really don't think that God is going to tell those in my community who stuck to what they were raised to believe that they were wrong in doing so and that they really should have taken up smoking, drinking, gambling, dancing, and cursing.
     
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    Hammer and Nail @Ken Anderson... btw I didn't know you were Mennonite?.. ..
     
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    I grew up in a town of about two hundred people in the Midwestern United States. There are people here, I believe, who grew up in London or in other very large cities. That doesn't mean that we are necessarily going to disagree on everything but we certainly have had different life experiences.
     
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    That's probably because I sometimes suck at it, particularly when it comes to the staying out of politics part.
     
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    LOL... I think that's the case for all religions.... :D
     
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    @Ken Anderson, beautifully expressed! I have said elsewhere here that I have attended a wide variety of churches during my lifetime. I now attend a Catholic church but do not belong to any church or denomination. In my travels through theology, I found it interesting that the Catholics (when I attended two or more services weekly) didn't judge me for attending a Protestant church as long as I came to the Catholic service, but the Protestants sure judged me as evil for attending a Catholic service even though I also went to church in a Protestant church. C.S. Lewis expressed it well when he said people lose sight of "Mere Christianity", which he believed was the common ground in belief held by the majority of Christian denominations. All I ask of anyone attending ANY church, synagogue, temple or mosque is that they be educated in that belief and understand what it is that that that religion stands for and believes.
     
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    If we were good at it we wouldn't need it!

    I'm always more comfortable with a person that struggles with their religious beliefs than I am with the ones that follow blindly or think that the other guy is the one that needs help.
     
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    @Ken Anderson ...thank you for your post.
    @Cody Fousnaugh ...you can only cry wolf so many times and get attention.
    I will spare you what I think, because it is not my intention to hurt your fragile ego, but I have grown very weary of your pity party.
     
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    To tell the truth, I wasn't going to post on this thread until I looked at your message / like ratio.
    You have posted 4580 messages and have 3390 likes but yet you have a problem.
    You know I can be a tad blunt and here is what I have found. There is no such thing as someone who will agree with ANYONE at all times no matter who they are or what the conversation is about. Your wife, your pastor, your best friend or the neighbors dog will at sometime or other disagree with you.
    Heck, Alex Trebec seems to disagree with me a couple of times a night when I watch jeopardy! And gosh, even my wife disagrees with me sometimes! If I look around, I can find at least a dozen people on my street who disagree with me 24/7 and 365 but I'm not going to pack up and leave because of it.

    No matter where you go, what you cook, what you think, what you write or what you do, someone will have an opposing view and that's just basic life 101 and that, my friend, is something you already know.
    It would be a pretty boring world if we all thought the same things and agreed on everything that is placed before us.
     
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