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  1. Frank Sanoica

    Frank Sanoica Supreme Member
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    How many close friends, other than relatives, do you have? A lot, or few?

    Have you ever had a friend you trusted so implicitly, you were sure that person would be willing to die for you?

    Frank
     
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    I have more friends than close relatives...although I have a lot of relatives... but we're all scattered to the wind..

    I have a very close friend from since I was 18 years old , she may not die for me, but she would do everything else to ensure my safety...sadly we don't see each other often now, since we live in different countries..

    What about you Frank?
     
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    I have no close friends and of course I've never had any I thought would die for me and I doubt many others have either. Nor would family.
     
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    We have been let down badly, I doubt to ever be close to someone again
    The true friends are animals, be true to them and they will be to you
     
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    2 female friends of over 40 plus years.
    My youngest daughter is very good friend also.
     
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    I read that if you stay friends from school years, the friendship is likely to last
     
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    I had only one friend in school...have not seen or heard from her in 50 years.Mine came later in life.
     
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    Lovely - hold onto that friendship :)
     
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    No, they're gone now. That said, the company of soldiers I was with in the Nam were known for giving up their lives for their fellow man.
     
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  10. Frank Sanoica

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    @Holly Saunders
    Well,.......very close friends, either physically nearby, or spiritually, virtually none. True, my high school friend, Charlie in Chicago, has remained in touch all through the intervening years, and yesterday he called to ask how I was doing with the flu bug.

    On my wife's side, her kin show "controlled acceptance" of me, but lurking in their minds is the "weirdness" factor ("he likes guns"). Recent events may have loosened their "fear" of me a bit: my wife's younger sister's divorce, and her older sister's husband's disrespect for their 92-year old mother, have likely reinforced my value to them. My wife and I might call Gary and Vonda, in Indiana, friends, but they are all.

    I started the thread thinking about our current situation of having no one whom we could call, in the event of non-emergency help needed, car broke down, that sort of thing. There is no one.
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    Oh I don't like that you have no-one you could call in that non-emergency situation Frank... I think in todays; world so many things have become ''virtual'' and less and less people have 'real' friends'... and with people our age we've lost touch with old friends, or they've died...
     
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    I had to highlight that particular part of your sentence @Holly Saunders for a very good reason IMO.
    My wife (and others) know that I absolutely hate telephones. The reasoning is that I have rarely ever had someone call me who doesn't want something. It would be especially nice if a "friend" called just to say......".hi, I was thinking about you and just wanted to see how you are."
    That, to me, would be a really good tell-tale sign that a friend is in the making.
     
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  13. Holly Saunders

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    awww...I'm sorry you don't have that Bobby, and I can imagine how you would like to just have a good friend who you could chat with now and then.. . I'm lucky that I do ...not a huge amount of people admittedly, but when I get a call occasionally and particularly if it's a long distance call..it's lovely to know someone is thinking enough about me to pick up the phone..

    Even when my daughter rings from overseas..it's a thrill..because she usually emails but occasionally perhaps once a month she'll make that expensive call, just because she misses her mums' voice..

    I think emails, texts and FB etc..have kind of taken most of the human element of contact away from most of us....if I got a phone call for every email, or text I receive the phone wouldn't stop ringing
     
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    This is one of the reasons I choose to live in the same town with my children and grandchildren Frank. I have some acquaintances, but only one best friend since we were 17 years old and she has been living in El Salvador for years now so most of our communication is done online and an occasional visit every few years. She is considering moving back to the States now that she has a granddaughter of her own...but this is only a consideration since she has made a life for herself and has adopted family in El Salvador. Even has some babies over there named after her for all she has done for their families.

    I know I can always call on my family if we need help but I'm like @Bobby Cole it would be nice to have a friend just call sometimes and say: "Hi, how are you? I miss you and just needed to hear your voice today." Even when my children call it's usually because they need me for something. And that's okay...but it would be nice if they called and didn't need me for something too.

    I don't like feeling like I'm a non-person now that I'm old...but it often does feel that way to me.
     
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    We have freinds we can call if need be. But the young guy and his wife upstairs are our gatekeepers. In the last 5 years have came to our aid several times when I locked myself out if the car...even in the rain. Supplies us with wood for fireplace...just many things they do for us. We try and return the favors...as hubby made them nice clock at Christmas...give them stews and cookies and etc when we
    have plenty. It really is nice that they help us so much
     
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