Saying I'm Sorry

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  1. Chrissy Cross

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    Didn't say it was easy. You may never get answer to "Why" though....or you may not like it.

    In my entire family only my father was one that I could never forgive ....not that he ever said he was sorry.

    It doesn't bother me though...I just don't care.
     
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  3. Cody Fousnaugh

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    Unfortunately, Holly, people say things all the time that can hurt others feelings. Thing is, some people are just too sensitive. I also mean that there are times that a person doesn't know another person well enough to say what they say. Hope you understand that.

    I remember one time, I was telling a young lady, in her 20's, at our pool about my wife's Princess Leia Halloween costume. I said, "I told her she looks more like Princess Leia's mother, with the costume on, then Princess Leia." The young lady looked at me and said "that was a rude thing to say to her". I said, "wasn't rude" and left the pool. Later, when my wife got home from work, I told her what I'd said the young lady and we both laughed about the girls remark "that was a rude thing to say to her". Heck, wife and I laughed together when I told her, while in my Darth Vader costume, "I look more like Vader's father!". A person really, and I mean REALLY, needs a "sense of humor" to be around us.
     
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    Yes I understand what you're saying Cody, I'm sure the young lady probably didn't realise that you and your wife have the same sense of humour,,,
     
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    You're definitely right there!
     
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    I suppose that it would depend on the nature of the crime that I had apologized for, although I don't imagine myself doing anything unforgivable. Nevertheless, I suppose, if I have apologized and my apology was not accepted, I would simply have nothing to do with that person anymore. I don't need to have everyone in the world like me.
     
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    Ken, your last two sentences are very correct., especially the last sentence.
     
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    Yes well, I'm forever saying I'm sorry for something ( must be the 'pommy' blood) ..eg. . if someone walks into me at the shopping center, I'm the one who says sorry or, if HE says something I didn't hear ... "Sorry,
    what did you say"? or if I unwittingly change the channel while HE's watching the golf ... "Sorry, wasn't thinking" etc.
    But, in an argument, never, unless I know I'm wrong, then I say "sorry, my fault, now get over it" ... HE never apologises for anything, but why should he, when HE never does anything wrong! ...we don't bear grudges and rarely argue anyway, unless I'm bored and need a bit of drama LOL!
     
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    Us Brits and Aussies are so similar...in so many ways...
     
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    I'm a 'Geordie' born Newcastle ...came to Aus 1970:)
     
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  12. Holly Saunders

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    Why aye lass.... :D..... We nearly moved there at the end of the 60's on the assisted passage, but it never happened ...
     
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    Yep,I'm a 'ten pound pom' never regretted it at all :cool:
     
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    My daughter is hoping to move to Australia if she sells her place in Spain.... I'm dreading her being so far away tbh...but by the same token I want her to live in a much better country than the Uk has become..
     
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    In the type of ministry I associate with, I have a tendency to meet the words, "I'm sorry" with a lot of ambivalence. I often hear the words but whilst there may be some regret, there is for the most part, an unwillingness to really change.

    An apology often presents itself with the addition of "but I" which is the apparent start of an excuse.
    Some excuses are acceptable but I have found that many of them are simply ways of steering any fault from the guilty party as in Flip Wilson's catch phrase, "the devil made me do it".
    It's just a rationalization fit to give reason for the deed rather than commit to and acknowledge the initial wrong.
    Domestically violent people are famous for their sorrow and excuses for why they do what they do.
     
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