Saying I'm Sorry

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  1. Cody Fousnaugh

    Cody Fousnaugh Supreme Member
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    How often do you say this?

    Wife and I say it to each other, with an add-on "I love you", when we make up from an argument. Nice thing is, very few arguments happen between us.

    Now, on the other hand, I seen a Psychotherapist years ago (in the 80's) about some personal problems, including saying "I'm sorry" a lot to people. She told me to stop saying it so much and to only say it when I really knew that the "at fault" was mine. "Don't just say "I'm sorry" to be nice. If the problem wasn't your fault, why apologize?"

    What about you?
     
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    I only say I'm sorry if I'm in the wrong
    Very rarely have to say it as I rarely get it wrong, when I do - I'm eager to apologise
     
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  3. Chrissy Cross

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    I will say I'm sorry...have done a few times on here.

    In real life though I'm a sweetheart and usually don't do anything that requires I'm sorry but if it does...I say it.
     
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    Gee, I learned a loooong time ago to use those 6 little words that all women want to hear:

    "Yes dear. You're right. I'm sorry."

    As Bob Hope used to say, the key is sincerity, and once you can fake that, you got it made....

    jk of course
     
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    Ha ha - if only my husband would learn those words :p
     
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    The British are renowned for saying ''sorry' when it's not their fault... eg, someone walks into us , and WE say sorry... we can't hear what someone says, so we say ''sorry'' rather than can you repeat that?... we say ''sorry would you mind letting me pass''..etc.. ... we apologize for everything lol....

    But yes I easily say sorry if I'm in the wrong.. but I don't apologise if I've been the one who was wronged...
     
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    Yeah, I say it once in a while, especially if it going to affect dinner or other tangibles.
     
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  8. Cody Fousnaugh

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    Think saying "I'm sorry" to a law enforcement officer who stopped you in your vehicle for a Moving Violation, would work? Not get a ticket?:D
     
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  9. Chrissy Cross

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    Sometimes...

    Just depends on his mood that day. :)
     
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    John Denver - I'm Sorry
     
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    I once thanked a Texas trooper who had written me traffic ticket. He was so polite that I found myself saying telling him, "Thank you." Then, realizing that I had just thanked him for a traffic ticket, I followed up with, "Did I just thank you for a traffic ticket?" He thought it was funny.

    I think that people are being trained to apologize for anything and everything these days, and when someone is pressured into offering an apology, it's not really an apology and it's a waste of time. For one thing, the person apologizing doesn't mean it and whoever is being apologized to doesn't accept it anyhow.

    If I've done wrong, I'll apologize, and sometimes I'll apologize for someone's reaction even when I don't think that whatever I had said or done warranted it. In such cases, I might be saying, "I'm sorry," but what I am thinking is, "I'm sorry that you're unstable or overly emotional."
     
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  12. Cody Fousnaugh

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    And, then, there are those that just simply won't accept an "I'm sorry"......have had that happen. "I don't want to hear it", they will say. How would you feel and handle it if someone you apologized to won't accept your apology and tells you that?
     
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    Move on...you can't make people accept anything they don't want to accept. If you're talking about family, I'd work a little harder at it but if it's just casual acquaintances...move on.
     
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    "Move on" is easy to say, but, for some, not so easy to do. If a person doesn't want to accept an "I'm sorry" or any kind of apology, some people want to know why.
     
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    Well there's 2 reasons IMO @Cody Fousnaugh , the first may be that whatever was said or done hurt the victim deeply and they could never forgive, so an apology is unacceptable to them, and the second is that the victim disliked the perpetrator in the first instance, and had been looking for a reason to dismiss that person from their lives..
     
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